Good guy in waiting...

I think I know how you feel my boyfriend from the past tried to go out with me for 1.5 years and I always said NO. He was my best friend and I got comfortable knowing he would always be there and I didn't want our relationship to "change." He called me everyday, told me how great I was, bought me presents, but I took him for granted...Finally he found another girlfriend, and when I found out, I suddenly fell in love with him LOL. He started caring for someone else. Give her an ultimatum (however you spell it). Tell her how you feel but say that there is no more space in your heart for more pain. Say that you don't want to "bother" her anymore or be an obligation. Say "If you don't love me just tell me so I can let you go." If she does not take that last opportunity then just let her go. TIME WAITS FOR NOBODY.

Don't judge all women by her stupidity. We don't ALL stay with losers and ignore the good guys. You should just move on and find someone who appreciates you. It's really unattractive and makes you look bad if you just stand there waiting for her like a fool. she's the one missing out on you, not the other way around. it sounds like she has self esteem issues if she prefers guys who treats her like crap anyway, don't you want someone w/ their s*t together? *no offense

From what you're saying, I don't think she's ready for another relationship. Maybe she likes you, but is afraid of getting attached again. Give her some time and space to figure out her life. In the meantime, you can call her, maybe once a week just to let her know that you care, but also show her clearly that you CAN live without her.

Move on from this relationship. She is too confused right now to make a decision and it is causing you a lot of stress. Take all the great qualities you have developed in yourself and start dating women who are in a stable frame of mind for a healthy relationship.

Give her some time. Just back off and let her come to you. Women are always confused. She has to love herself before she can love anyone else. If it is meant to be, it will happen. But if not you must move on. There are more fish in the sea.

Yep, pochahontas is right. Sometimes, to girls, losing a friendship is tougher than losing a boyfriend, so she doesn't want to ruin what you have if things didn't work out between you.

I definitely agree with pocahontas.

It seems to me she is afraid. Afraid of losing friendship if it doesn't work out, and/or afraid of being hurt again. Just talk to her and let her know how you feel and what you want. Be sure to let her know what it is about her that is attracting you to her. Ask her to be up front with you so that you will know where you stand. It's only fair. Gook Luck.

OK this a is classic situation. Been there done that. Look man your setting yourself up for what is ultimately going to happen. You see yourself as the good guy and you would like to fix all her problems and you know you wouldn't hurt her like the last guy. Meanwhile let's look at some facts. She doesn't communicate with you for a week or 2 at a time. What or who is taking place then? I would bet this one is not as injured and innocent as you feel she is. Back off her completely..completely. You probably are a good guy with a lot to offer...someone who wants it. Women want a guy, but not overly nice. Don't be the overly available nice guy. Good luck.

You sound like a true person. unfortunately the problem is people play games. people want what they can't have the way they want it. it f***ing sucks you just can't be totally honest like that anymore it really is sad and I feel for you. the best way to handle this as I see it is be her friend. just forget what you have said and what you have done for her. or rather act like you forgot. do not let her get the better of you. if you really want her you need to make her miss you, although I do not recommend playing the game back, if you want her you need to. it is all about who has the upper hand. so be cool, don't trip out at her in ability to see that you are what she wants. one more thing, you should never change who you are for anyone, but if you must then you can't let on that they are the reason for your change. just stay strong it will take time to work.

There are lots of other women waiting for you! Don't waste all your time waiting for her! Because that's what she wants and she will make you wait and wait! You should find yourself another woman.