I've been seeing this guy since valentines day, and since up to a week ago, we've really hit it off. I don't want to admit it, but I am really pushy sometimes, but not to a total extreme. He different then the guys I usually date, he tells me how beautiful I am, and how I make him really happy, or at least he did. I asked him what was wrong one day, and he said that his mind was completely blank, and he doesn't know really how he sees anything anymore. We still talk on the phone almost every night, and he calls me when he gets off work to see how my day went, and he acts like he still cares, but last night when I went over to his house, it was different, he didn't touch me, or kiss me, all we did was play video games, and when I went to say goodbye he hugged me, but it felt more friendly than anything. He asked if I was mad at him and I shrugged and said no, without actually telling him what was wrong. I'm really not sure what to do at this point, all I know if I really like him, and I want to be with him, should I let it go? Give him some space? Or fight for it? SOMEBODY PLEASE LET ME KNOW! all advice needed.
I agree with Cudagto. If he hadn't said it. I would have. I shrug off a lot of what's bothering me when someone asks, "What's wrong?" Eventually to those I really care about I'll tell them. NOTE: The majority of my closest friends are female. I've never had such close friends in the past so I try not to shut them out. If he didn't care, he wouldn't call. I'm not gonna call someone I don't care about. He still cares.
Wow this could go so many ways dear! I think he likes you still! he has something on his mind troubling him. you might be different than anyone he has ever dated too and is confusing to him, he don't know what to do with you because you are a new, different situation! of course men don't want to talk about how they feel or feelings!! it is not us! as men when we talk about a problem. we want to fix it so it goes away! where a woman just wants to be heard and understood! if you tell him that you understand men don't want to talk about feelings, but you would like to help him fix whatever is bothering him you might get him to open up a little bit about it, but if he doesn't say anything about that, leave it there, don't keep trying, it only pushes us away! hope this helps
If you are already confused and you have only been seeing each other for about 3 weeks, chances are you might be better off as friends. It sounds like he cares about you, but maybe in a different way than he originally thought. Be straightforward with him and ask him what's going on in your relationship. It might be something small you can clear up with communication, and it might be something bigger, such as only wanting a friendship. But you will never know unless you ask him! Sometimes best friends are created by starting with a relationship.
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