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A boy loved me when I was in school some 17 years back.

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Anonymous User (Age:36 to 45)     When: 4 months ago
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I liked him secretly but never told him as I feared my parents. His parents too liked me a lot and tired to talk to me, convince my parents but failed.

Now, We met 6 months back thru Facebook and he said he still likes me but as a friend now. he told me how much he tried to trace me and how much he missed me. We exchanged 300 mails in a month...just everything that we missed out in all these years, family, friends etc.,. He was however very decent and we talked of our school days and family and were enjoying. I feared again if his wife may not like. He said he would take care of that and actually it was his wife that told him to continue this friendship. She knows everything. I was still a bit scared that he may again leave me as a friend also. I rally liked him, his family.

Suddenly after a month he started avoiding me. I was surprised as this man who used to ask me to mail at least once a day stopped communicating so suddenly. After a lot of asking, he said his wife is not happy with our friendship and he can't hurt her. He also gave a long speech that I should love only my husband. I was surprised as I always loved my hubby and why is this guy telling me that suddenly? He said he would try to talk to me once in a while but never did. He also told me that I should never mail him or call him when I tried calling him.

Now after 6months he started calling me. I am not taking his calls. I am scared of his preachings and don't trust him as a friend also now. He may ditch me anytime.I don't know why he is calling me after he told me not to mail him or call him. Again he wants to give speeches? should I take his call? I really don't want to though I want him as a friend, am not sure if we both can handle this. My hubby knows everything and feels I should be away from this guy as there is no guarantee that he will continue to be my friend. I'm extremely hurt and shocked by his behavior. What did I do? Where did I go wrong?

He asked me to talk to his brother, parents, sister etc., I did because I knew them before. They were so happy to talk to me and now suddenly no one is talking. I'm feeling so bad. His brother also told me how much this guy waited for me for years and finally married someone else.

I love my husband a lot but feel like talking to my friend too as we were childhood friends before becoming something more. His family loves me a lot but I don't want to get hurt to get my husband hurt. I don't even want this friend or his wife to get hurt. Still I want a friendship with him. What to do? But I surely don't want any speeches from him to love my husband, be happy and all nonsense. I never picked up the phone..it is been the case for the last 2 months.
Why did he make me talk to all his family if he wanted to leave me?
2. Why did he suddenly cut off from me even without telling me the reason clearly?
3. When he asked me to stop all contacts, emails phones for almost one year, why is he calling me now?
4. If he is totally over me, y calling me


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LoveHate1216      When: 4 months ago
if you love your husband then you don't need your "friend" don't answer! leave him hanging! and when you were younger..and you seceretly liked him..why did you fear ur parents?
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I honestly don't get it. Any advice?
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Does he like me?

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