This guy and I have been fooling around together for about five years. He knows I have a past with guys and he isn't an angel himself. We aren't dating because I don't think we are compatible enough to date since every time we eventually start to argue about something. I also usually feel as if I'm some kind of sex object to him and if I'm going to enter into a relationship, I need more than a physical thing. Anyway today he got unreasonably upset when I mention something about the past guys and isn't talking to me.
I know that he likes me or else we wouldn't have fooled with each other for so long but it's been weird. He avoids talking about his girlfriends but when he does I don't have a problem with it but he can't stand me talking about any other guy or me dating. He tells me stuff like "I want you to suck me all day" and in the same breathe (almost) he will says something like "I feel emotionally stable with you". It's hard for me to tell if he is being sincere or just talking. Is this normal? Have someone else experienced something like this? What should I do?
"he got unreasonably upset when I mention something about the past guys and isn't talking to me. "
No, he is reasonably upset. One of the golden rules of dating is --- don't talk about your past relationships. Think about it, what good would that do? Most people talk about their past relationships either to flaunt about it, or intentionally do it to arouse jeolousy, to inflict unhappiness on another party. In both cases, this only means immaturity; lack of consideration for others' feelings.
"What should I do?"
Stop talking about your past relationships. If they ended up as successful, you wouldn't be with your present partner, anyway. So why talk about things that end in failures? They don't make you look good, at all.
You are living your life in the now. Get clear of WHAT YOU WANT, in/for this Now, and in/for your Future.
I would understand that if we were dating, but we aren't really dating. - 4 months ago
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He obviously has feelings for you, and you know that (you said he likes you). Saying you are not dating and just fooling around is not an excuse for your not being considerate of his feelings. - 4 months ago
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