Okay, for the past couple of months I have been emailing with an old friend of mine who was someone who I also slept with a couple of times as a teenager. We met together once for coffee and hugged but nothing else. Our emails started getting a little too intense and more than friendly. We finally got into an argument and are no longer talking to one another. I am sad to lose his friendship because it goes way back to when we were kids, but relieved not to have the stress of it all because I am married and didn't want to get into anything that could turn into an affair. Anyway, my husband knows nothing about it and I am thinking that bringing it up now would just hurt him and cause problems, make him no longer trust me, etc. Do you think I should keep quiet or confess to what happened.
You should keep it to yourself. Telling him will only make him not trust you. Then he will question every relationship you have with a guys friend of coworker. Do. Not. Tell. Him. It does not matter if you have been together for 1,000 years he will feel betrayed and he will question the WHOLE relationship/
This is where honesty isn't the best policy! I understand this other man was only a friend, it is good it stopped before it turned into an affair, because this is where it was going! I would advise you not to put yourself in this position again. If you don't feel that this kind of thing will ever happen again, then keep it to yourself, so far there has been no harm and nobody got hurt, so keep it that way! I think it would cause problems, and there would be a trust issue.
I would absolutely not tell him. Cudagto said it well when in this case honesty isn't the best policy. You're husband will automatically assume there was more going on because you felt the need to tell him. Otherwise, if you don't tell him it's a don't ask, don't tell sort of thing.
You should tell him, but tell him you're not talking to him anymore and why you're not. You may be over thinking this in your head because you're scared of his reaction but a man that's been there for 10 years should love you no matter what and should be able to work past this. You have not done anything wrong. Your husband wasn't in the picture you were a teenage when this happened. He should be understanding and forgiving, I know all men aren't but if he truly loves you it should not matter
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