Cheating

Wait, She had to cheat or had to tell you? You need to take some time and figure out what else she is lying to you about. Once a cheater always a cheater doesn't just mean guys..

STAY!

I mean, stay and go to couple's therapy (I know it sounds awful!). Tell her that you love her and that she should tell you all the truth. 15 years is a lot, you can't chuck that away! You need to fight for your love, I mean, I am going through something very similar, my boyfriend of 5 months cheated on me with my best friend. I have forgiven them both and I'm trying to get over it.

Why? Because I really love him. Please don't give up, marriage is a life long thing, nobody said it was going to be nice and sweet all the way. I know I'm very young, but if I can forgive and stay with my 5 month boyfriend, you can stay and work it out with your wife. If she has cheated more than once, bear it out! Sound more easy written than done, but you must make sacrifices and commit to the promises you made years ago to go through with all that may come.

If you have kids, try to work things out with your wife for their sake. Otherwise, divorce her. You deserve better. Trust will take an entire lifetime to rebuild, and even then you may think back on what she did.

A divorce? you'll have to sign papers, court, just a lot of procedures. But I think you should go or do what you think is best for you. Why would she cheat if she's married. If she loved you she would have NEVER done that. Why cheat when men all have the same thing but comes in different sizes. And to me size doesn't matter, it's really the size of the heart she should have realized how much love you have for her.

If she cheated on you I think you should go, especially if you suspect her of doing it more than once. I know it may be hard because you still love her, but any girl who won't be faithful doesn't deserve your love anyway, because I'm sure you are an awesome guy.

I was in a similar situation with my recent ex-wife, so I know what you are going through. She cheated after 22 years. I can only tell you how I felt, and what I did. I stopped trusting her immediately, and knew that I could never trust her again. Therefore, we divorced. That was probably more her idea than mine at the time, but deep down, I knew that was the only thing we could do. And I've been happier for it. Now I'm with someone who really loves me, and I can start a whole new life instead of trying to salvage a failed relationship. I agree with the statement by Lesae; once a cheater, always a cheater! That's been my experience!

Stay or go?

Tough decision, and I don't think one that you should quickly make.

Since you are asking, you seem to consider staying with her, and if that is ever to work then you both are going to need relationship counseling. There will be trust issues, that you may never get over if you do stay.

The best thing would probably be to get into counseling, after a while you should be able to tell better whether you want to stay or not.

I wish you the best.