OK Ladies I have a good question for you. Would you rather date a guy that had an ok job, made average money, controlling, insecure, didn't treat you good, wouldn't have sex with you the three years you dated him, and wouldn't let you hang out with your friends, and would get mad every time you would talk to any guy friends.
Or would you date guy number 2 who had a good job, made good money, treated you well, would let you do stuff with friends and talk to your guy friends without getting mad, held you high in his life, enjoyed spending time with you and liked to go do stuff with you by his side, had a good sex drive and wasn't afraid to do it with you, had his life in order and wants to get married someday and have kids,
I'm guy number 2 and got dumped so she could go back to guy number 1
Now is there any reasons girls seem to do this? I just don't get it.
What????. why would she let YOU go???????. hmmmm maybe she likes to play the victim role or maybe she's got low self-stem and she found it hard to stay close to someone that's got his life together, that's be the only reason. Hmmm, if all men were like you...
Wow that's just crazy any girl who'd leave guy #2 for guy #1 is just crazy and I agree with idkwhatodo, maybe she did feel like she didn't deserve you, maybe your girl wanted you to have someone who loved you just as much as you do her. Who knows.
Ok. I personally would go with number two. Most girls would. If that is what you see in number one, it might just be to you. There are certain reasons girls go for certain people. I don't know if I could explain it well enough for you to get what I mean, but in her opinion, there might be something more that just what you see. Who knows? It might also be tat she is insecure or doesn't have a great self-esteem and she may think that she isn't good enough for a man like you (assuming you are number 2) Hope I helped!
That brings me to another question. Why would a girl think she didn't deserve someone? If that person wanted to be with you then why would they think that? - 8 months ago
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It's because she doesn't feel like you do want to be with her and enjoy being with her, even when you tell her that you do, she doesn't feel it or see it, therefore as much as she'd love to just believe your word she does feels like it could all be a lie - 8 months ago
Well I would obviously pick guy #2 but she will regret what she chose and make it be to late move on with your life and let her learn from her mistakes.
I would like the 2nd guy of course. if she dumped you its because she clearly doesn't see the good and is just freaking stupid or she likes a controlling man and why she would I don't know! move on. don't let her get to you
It is easy for people to get manipulated. My guess is that guy number 1 has manipulated her by making her feel he is all she deserves. Or she feels she doesn't deserve you. Or possibly she is an idiot. Some girls are. Did she know him longer than you? That is possible. Maybe she had more of a past with him.?
Well, it seems a no brainer but then again I'm wondering how much of your description of Guy # 1 is hurt pride and how much is real? I'm not saying you're not a good guy, but maybe he's not THAT bad - and even so...it's her decision to make..not much you can do about it.
I hope you get some distance from this girl and move on, have fun, and I'm sure you'll find someone who will appreciate you for being you! :-)
I have 3 children with a guy like guy number 1 and if I met a guy like guy number two a long time ago, I probably would not have as many children as I do! We still go back to one another at try to make things work because guy number two has yet to show up!
Guy number one is not happy with himself and his current life situation so he takes it out on her by controlling her and depriving her of happiness and all of her potential in life!
Well obviously, guy 2 is the ideal pick. But then again, girls seem to always go for the wrong guys until they've been burned enough. I chose the wrong guys for years and got hurt a lot, but that was a lesson for me. Sounds like she hasn't been hurt enough and when she is, she'll be looking for her guy 2. You are better off without her since she didn't appreciate you.
Wow, that's surprising that you do know him! Usually guys see a girl they are going out with and think she is stupid for choosing him over her.
I shouldnt have assumed that.
Okay now knowing that you DO know him. It could be that she likes him being a bit rude and aggressive or that his control has pretty much taken over her. Sometimes, its impossible to get rid of that feeling. She may be soooo in love with him, or at least THINK she is so in love with him that she would wait a year going through him yelling at her, and controlling her just for that one minute every day or week or month that he shows her some affection.
Its so hard to say though.
I sometimes do like the guys that will be a bit controlling; but at one point unless she really doesn't love her family and friends. She will get tired of not being able to hang out with them and that kind of thing and then break up with him.
Well she is real close to her family and friends. That was something I liked a lot about her because a lot of girls not all of them, tend to grow apart from family. And who don't like to have friends and be able to spend time with them - 8 months ago
Your problem is your judgemental. Do you know him better than she knows him? Your judging the book by its cover. he's probably an extremely sweet guy and she probably knows that.
You seem a bit cocky too. of course, Im only going by what you told me.
I am not being judgemental about him. I actually know him and seen first hand on how he treated her. He is nice to guys and other girls except her. I always try to be fair on here becase I am looking for the best advice that I can get - 8 months ago
You seem like a really sweet devoted guy there are plenty of girls out there who would love to have you this girl might not be ready to settle down she might want to be sure she has no feelings for this guy before completely giving herself to you also, confidence is key be sure that you are self assured
Well confidence isn't a big prob but when this kinda thing happens it makes ya think about it. Her friends and family said they never seen her so happy when she was with me. Don't know what happened to that - 8 months ago
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I'm sorry Sometimes we girls don't realize what we have until its gone When he keeps mistreating her she will prob realize how much she misses you did she give any reason for ending with you? - 8 months ago
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