So I got rejected.. well I told her I liked her but she said she never had any interest for me, nothing more than friends.. I'm not gonna be an asshole.. sure I was upset.. but I'm going to respect her decision.. does just being friends ever work out? I mean I'm scared that I might fall for her again.. but also that she won't ever treat me the same since she knows..
You know, you really can be. I know some people say that you can never be 'real' friends with someone you used to have feelings for or an ex, but it's all about not rushing it. I wouldn't go straight into talking to her all the time and hanging out with her, I'd give it time, because It's like an open wound. I had the same situation with my first boyfriend, we had a difficult break up, didn't talk for a year, and now we talk all the time and are great friends, and I really enjoy our friendship, WITHOUT romantic feelings, it seems hard to think of, but it's possible. Give it time :)
Yeah I'm getting a bit better and better.. still not over her completely though I keep telling myself I'm going to find someone.. but I just never been through so much with another person.. esp a female.. that's why.. and the whole no romance thing its meh to me - A month ago
Yeah, a guy rejected me a couple years ago, and now we're best friends and pretty much know everything about each other. It's worked like that with every guy I've liked.
That sucks.. but its awesome at the same time.. we havn't talked in a while.. well I still try to say hi once in a while and stuff.. but I just get short answers.. I wish I could still talk to her about serious stuff like life.. but I don't know how to approach it.. well bring it up I mean - 3 months ago
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With me, it kind of just happened that we became friends again, because I was the only person he could talk to about the problem he was having. I noticed that he was upset, confronted him about it, and he just ended up opening up to me. I think telling him just made the two of us closer because he knew I could be honest with him. - 3 months ago
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Im in the same case.. she's the only one who can help me you know.. but she just doesn't notice me anymore.. her sister said she was kinda sad after she rejected me.. but I guess she rebounded to some other guy.. I just don't know what to do now.. I'm sure there was still a period of silence directly after the rejection for you too though? - 3 months ago
I think it depends on how much you're attracted to her. If you really liked her and even loved her its a lot harder to just be friends. You might find yourself jealous for one reason or another. Basically, if you can't get rid of your feelings for her (that you want to be more than friends) it's going to cause problems. Even if you hide it, its going to cause you pain.
If you can, however, eliminate those feelings and move on, then it can definately work out. It all really depends on you and on how you react to the situation.
I'd suggest not hanging out with her at all for a while until you're completely over her. Try asking your best friends to help you deal and to keep you in track so you don't end up trying to go back to her. Hanging out with friends is always good too, keep your mind off of her.
I would not suggest finding another girl to try to get over her. That's disrespectful to the new girl as she's just kinda a 'rebound' girl. Go with another girl when you're over this one.
If you need to you can ask your friend to explain the situation to her since talking to her face to face would probably not help you. This way she's not weirded out or anything and knows what's going on.
Thanks I guess.. don't really have too many friends any more. .but oh well.. I asked my best friend.. he said forget her.. remove her from my life.. but I guess I'm going to just be stronger and somehow get over this - 3 months ago
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Your best friend knows you better than I do so based off of his reaction, I'd say you are REALLY close emotionally to her? - 3 months ago
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Yeah.. we went through alot.. sadly we've stopped talking.. I hate it.. ill talk to her about it soon.. hopefully I don't want to lose her even as a friend now.. - 2 months ago
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Try to get over her as a lover before you attempt to become friends. You could seriously hurt yourself if you still have feelings for her. - 2 months ago
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