We met about 18 months ago and spent a lot of time together; I knew he'd be a hard nut to crack, but also knew he'd be worth it. The sex was fantastic. I guess I knew pretty quickly that it wasn't really going anywhere, but the line was blurred between FWB & sex buddy since he was constantly staying over. I would ask him to go places with me, and he would flatly refuse (he literally had nowhere to go on Christmas day, so I invited him along to a friend's house - answer was no). After a few months, I decided that I wanted a real relationship, called him and broke the news, saying that I knew he wasn't *that* into me and it was okay. He didn't argue at all and I moved on, even though I did have some deep feelings for him.
Months later, I got a text from him. I was seeing someone else (though the sex aspect of our relationship was nonexistent) and I really couldn't resist the temptation of sleeping with him. We hooked up, and after that, saw each other a few times a week - something shifted within us, and since then, it's been a steady thing. He texts when he wants to come over and I can't say no. I feel like we've gotten closer, even HE has said we're more than just FWB. But lately it's felt really one-sided - if I contact him, he either ignores me or refuses.
It's come to the point that I feel completely used. Everything is on his terms, even though when he does come over, I feel like the most special girl in the world. He always stays over, we've been having better communication about most things. But I feel like once he's on the elevator, I'm forgotten about until he's horny again.
I don't think he's sleeping with anyone else - but I think we're holding each other back from something more real. I want to be in a relationship with him, but I'm a little scared to even ask at this point.
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When: 8 months ago
Ask! You have to know where you stand. I can see that it's killing you. You have to ask. I know your scared that he will reject you like before but you deserve a guy that loves you and wants to be around you not just a sex toy.
Okay you are completely allowing yourself to get used like a sexual play thing by this ass hole! Ask yourself if you TRULY deserve more! Hopefully the answer is yes! Because if it's a real ,true relationship that you are longing for be patient it will come to you eventually, lots of people have told me the same thing, I go out looking and usually find jerks, Plus your worth more that sex right?
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