Will porn rip us apart?

First things first: all post-pubescent guys look at porn on the Internet. This is not so much a moral indictment as it is a statement of truth. Almost everyone is naturally drawn to the erotic, and porn is a quick and easy way to satisfy this draw. It should not be something you feel guilty about knowing, as it should be a running assumption on your part.

When a guy has his own computer, the odds are low that he's going to cover his tracks about his porn use, particularly if nobody else is ever going to use that box. That said, if a computer is shared, it's generally considered common courtesy amongst users that we don't want to see or know about your porn. Therefore, cleared browser histories, encrypted folders, and other forms of hiding the porn trail are just being nice to you.

It's most likely this isn't so much happening behind your back as a means to spite you, but more out of just needing to blow off steam and relax. There's also the universal importance of self-lovin' (not a practice to discourage), which is generally enhanced by porn.

In short: relax. You're literally freaking out over nothing.

The fact that he's doing it behind your back is wrong. To be honest, every guy at one point in their life looks at porn. But there is a stage of life that it's for. And honestly, I don't think marriage is that stage. I look at it like partying. Sure when you're in college, it's fun and all that. But it never really makes anyone life better. And if it ever does have any impact, it is a negative one.

But I don't think that porn is condusive to a healthy relationship. How can it? It doesn't put the focus on yourselves, but it puts the focus on the people you're watching. And if he's doing it by himself, he's only thinking of himself. And the fact that he's going behind your back is breaking your trust. As a woman, never be afraid to tell a guy no porn. Just because it is "normal" for a guy to want to look at porn, doesn't mean it's "right. " In a real relationship it's about the other person. And all he seems to care about is himself. I would think long and hard before continuing the relationship. Right now he's choosing porn over you. Maybe you kind of invited the lifestyle in the beginning, and so you kind of brought it upon yourself. But the fact that it's getting serious and into marriage, it needs to end. You need to make it clear that there won't be anymore porn, either together or separately. And if he has a problem with that, he can have his ring back.

Listen I wouldn't worry about it guys watching porn isn't a big deal its better then go to a strip club getting a lap dance or meeting some random girl for some fun. How old are you guys.