So recently, I've noticed my boyfriend's penis had a funny smell. Kind of like fish almost. Really gross, however. I brought it up to him because I was concerned. I didn't accuse him of cheating on me. I did my research and thought it could be some type of bacterial/fungal infection. Not an STD. Because he is uncircumcised. Even after he washed it thoroughly, it still smelled bad. I bring it up to him out of concern for my health and his and he says that my vagina smells like fish all the time and he was never so rude as to bring it up to me. Well, I don't think it smells like fish and I don't think I was being rude for bringing it up. I told him "i don't think you're cheating on me. I just think it's a health concern and you should see a doctor" he said he refused to waste money on a physician and then made a fist and like pushed it into my forehead. He didn't punch me. I can't really explain it, but it was kind of scary. Why would he get so defensive about this?
Guy don't really like to hear negative things about themselves especially about their penis. I would have to say it took some courage on your part to bring it up. At this point I wouldn't be worried about the smell of his penis instead about his anger issue. You might want to start looking at breaking things off. This guy sounds like he is on the edge just waiting for something to put him over. I would be careful. Good Luck
I have been thinking about breaking things off because this isn't the first time he's gotten violent. Every time I bring something up that he doesn't want to hear about it ends with him trying to physically intimidate me. He's so emotionally unavailable. He can't have a conversation about anything.. It's really frustrating. - More than a year ago
I think that any person would get a little defensive if they were told that their stuff smelled. It's a natural reaction to get defensive in a situation like that. I'm sure the fact that you went and researched all of it and went to all that trouble really made it worse. I know that it would piss me off too. Just being honest. And then you're trying to make him go to the doctor.
You definitely went about it all wrong. There are certain ways to bring sensitive things to light and to talk about them and deal with them, and then there are wrong ways. You did the wrong way. Obviously it would be a very sensitive subject to anyone, and you have to be very careful and delicate in the way you handle it. And you jumped through too many hoops loops and whatever and were too focused on trying to fix the thing, without even thinking about his feelings. That's why he got defensive!
I was thinking about his feelings when I bought it up to him. I tried to be as considerate as possible. I wasn't accusing him of having some sort of STD. I was trying to express to him it was more out of concern. I really didn't mean to be offensive, but it was definitely an issue that needed to be brought up, but he just got angry and now we're getting nowhere. How would you suggest I should have brought it up to him? - More than a year ago
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I agree that it should be brought up. But when you bring something up, you talk to them about it. But then you don't go on about how you did research on the internet, and how you think he should go to a doctor and stuff. If he came up to you, and said, your hair is kind of boring. But I looked through 5 different hairstyle books, and I ripped out these 4 that would look good on you, and you should go get a hair appointment, how would you react? I'm sure you would feel a little similar to how he does - More than a year ago
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I brought up the internet thing after many conversations.. I brought it up to him casually at first because I thought it was gross and I don't really want to have sex with him if his penis smells like that. He was more concerned about bringing me down and making me feel bad about myself then taking responsibility and figuring out what is wrong. If my hair looked bad, also, I'd want some advice. I wouldn't mind the constructive criticism. - More than a year ago
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But you wouldn't want him to go to the trouble of picking out stuff for you, and telling you all the stuff that you need to do. It's one thing when someone makes a big deal out of it and goes to all the trouble without asking you. It's another when he brings it up to you, and says, maybe we can work together and figure out together why it's like this and what can be done. On one hand, you're pushing him, on the other, you're taking his hand and letting him make the decision, that's the difference - More than a year ago
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I wouldn't mind if he gave me some options. I would actually find it quite helpful. I don't think hair and his penis having a weird smell really have any relation. This could possibly be detrimental to his and my health and I don't want to have sex with him because of it. He's pretty irrational. I tried just bringing it up to him at first and he got defensive immediately. I then, out of desperation, did my research on the internet, thinking I could help him out and talk some sense into him. - More than a year ago
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Well then if you don't like it, leave him. It's really as simple as that. If it's that big of a deal to you, and he doesn't care about what is a big deal to you, then what more of a reason do you need? - More than a year ago
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I probably will leave him. I've been thinking about it for a while. However, I live with him and we're locked into a lease so it's really hard and he tells me how he can't live without me. I'm scared to leave him. - More than a year ago
WTF wow. my first thought was that he could be cheating. I'm not a male health expert, but I have no idea why an uncircumcised guy w/o an STD should have a penis smelling like fish. I used to watch a lot of Maury, and a fishy smelling penis was always the biggest clue to a cheating man.
he should never have put his hands on you like that. he may not have punched you, but he raised his hands in anger and no real man does that to a woman. I would leave his stankin ass lol
I had a boyfriend that had that issue, only he was circumcised and it turned out he was cheating on me. So with that in mind maybe that's another reason he got defensive and the fact that he handles his anger like a 2 year old, he's not worth being with. I'd drop him like a smelly pee pee thing lol had to say it! But seriously though good luck and take care!
How did you find out he was cheating on you?? He's cheated on me in the past and I had no idea until the girl came to me... He's really good at covering his tracks. if he has, there's no way I'd find out. I tell him to go to the dr about it and he just gets mad.. I've been tested for STDs and I don't have anything. He says if he had something he got it from me. But I haven't touched him since I've been tested negative,so that's impossible. - More than a year ago
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I had to play detective by going through his phone,making surprise visits when he told me to call before coming over,following him when he'd have to leave the room when a girl called him,finding pieces of hair that didn't belong to me on his bed. Turned out he was cheating on me with 6 girls that I know of. And no he didn't start cheating because I did all that lol. Things just weren't adding up and I needed answers. And the smell was from a girl he was with that had a bacterial infection. Gross! - More than a year ago
Eww. I see your point and I being a girl would have said something. Now, him being an ass and being violent is a different story. You do not ever have to take any crap especially from a smelly pee pee one. Walk away. Before it gets to a point to where you are afraid to say anything to him. He has anger issues. You were only trying to help. I see your point but, protect yourself girl and get out. Besides, he could give you the smelly pee pee thing he might have.
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