Girls. Do you seek or become seeked?

I would rather wait . :) Since if I like someone and get really shy and insecure about if he likes me back or not, then I would rather he confirms it and makes his move . If I was interested in a guy and waiting for him to make a move, I would hang out around him much more . However, if I know that he won't make the move, but likes me, then I will . Usually this does not happen as much . Don't worry about not finding someone, usually if you do, then you won't see who was in front of you the whole time . Usually meetings are accidental ! I mean, my boyfriend lived on the street behind my house . I've been living in front of him for 5 years, and we got together 2 years after ! I always tease that I've been in front of him the entire time . So don't worry about it too much and enjoy life, everything will fall into place .

I like guys to make the first move. However, there are things guys can watch for to know that a move is welcome. If a girl is looking or smiling at you, it's possible that she is interested. But if you wait to long to react to those signals by approaching her, then she may decide you're not interested and will find someone else to send signals to.

Also, what a guy says and does when he makes the first move is important. If he immediately starts talking about how attractive I am or how much he wants a girlfriend, it scares me away. When you approach a girl, try to find something you have in common and talk about that. For instance, my boyfriend and I met when he asked me to teach me a couple's dance at a country bar. Then we got to talking about dancing and other related things. Don't approach the girl suggesting that you're wondering if she's the one for you, but rather approach her wondering what she's like; what makes her her.

Good luck!

I know it's frustrating, but it does help to keep trying to initiate a relationship yourself . It's really brave of you to do so, and you are more likely to come across someone who will say 'yes' if you ask more people . The girls who told you things like 'God won't let me date' and 'You disgust me' are not only not the right person for you, but sound like they have some issues they need to work out on their own that really have little to do with you . (Yes, the 'disgust' girl has issues SHE needs to work out . How can you say that to someone and still feel that you are a human being ? What a horrible person . )

In answer to your question, I usually wait for the guy to make his move . I'm rather shy and was pretty brutally rejected in the past, so I tend to wait for an obvious sign of interest before initiating any contact of my own . That way, I know he is actually interested in me before doing anything to embarrass myself . There have been exceptions though, when I was really smitten with a person who I thought would at least be kind to me if he wanted to say he wasn't interested . So, mostly I wait to be pursued . It's easier to figure out if he actually wants me that way . In return, if I am not interested in a guy who is seeking me, I try to be really nice about saying no and may offer help setting him up with someone else as consolation . Either way, I'm really flattered that someone would try, it shows a lot of courage and I feel wanted . Unless I have a current crush of my own though, I'd be willing to give a guy a chance if I thought we were at least somewhat compatible .