Why Do Women Go For Jerks Instead of Nice Guys?

There is a lot of jerks out there and you can't trust anyone and it is very hard to find nice guys I have been alone for a year or so and I am getting use to it. But your wife was the jerk for leaving you and her come back and rehurt you that pretty much tell you don't you think?

How do you feel about the situation ? Cheating is a horrible thing to do, but since you were together for so long, I assume things were fine before this situation happened . If you think that she is truly repentant of what she did, it may be okay to take her back .

On the other hand, perhaps all she learned from this situation is that she has to be more careful next time she cheats so that you don't find out .

I would talk to her about how her actions affected you and that your only concern about taking her back is that you don't want to be broken hearted again .

I wish you all the luck in making your decision !

It actually depends on the current situation, there are things to consider before you make a decision . Like, do you have kids ? Do you still love her that much ? Are you still thinking about her a lot ?

If the answer to all these questions is yes, then I guess you should give her another chance ( must be the last chance as well) . Justification for this are 1 . You might regret not having her back someday 2 . Your kids might blame you for having a broken family 3 . Maybe she was sincere when she told you she wants you back and to never do it again . And live happily ever after .

But if you answered No, then why give her another chance ? I truly believe that once a cheater, always a cheater . It rarely happens that a person changes a 180 degrees in an instant . She doesn't deserve another chance . Your ex-wife ought to know the consequences even before she thought of sleeping with that jerk . There's a big chance that she's bound to do this again and expects to be forgiven again and again and again . She will take advantage of your kindness and would eventually take you for granted .
Show her that you do not deserve all these and soon you'll totally be over her . Move on, forget about her and soon you'll find someone deserving of you .

By the way, women go for jerks instead of nice guys because these guys are more exciting and challenging to be with, blinded by their ways but would eventually realize that the fun doesn't last long and regrets it later .

Good luck ! And keep us posted .