My boyfriend and I are going on 2 months together now . Our relationship seems to hold together really strong and it feels like we've been together for much longer than only a couple of months . But just right now [about an hour & a half ago] he accidentally sent me a text message that wasn't for me . I asked what that was about and he said it was actually meant for his best friend [a guy] . What bothered me was the way the message was actually typed out . It sounded more like he was talking to a female friend about blow jobs and where he'd received them . Here is the unaltered text message I received by accident . You make of it what you want and tell me what you think . --"Like that time you gave me a blow job at the boys & girls club and at the tunnel by the graveyard how did I know that ? "-- I sure as hell have never given him BJ's by either of those places nor remotely close to them ! When he called me immediately after realizing his mistake he constantly kept swearing and promising he was not cheating on me . I never once even mentioned the message over the phone when we began talking . I just asked him over a text message and that was the end of it before he called, explaining . He even cried because the thought of me thinking that he was cheating mad him sad . I told him to forget it and not think about it but he kept insisting to no signs of infidelity . I'm afraid to think that he is cheating on me . And if not, then the thought of him talking to another girl about blow jobs she's given him before bothers the hell out of me . He says he believes cheating is pointless and why even be with the person if that's all you are going to do . He says he can't even imagine himself with another girl if he wasn't with me .
Update: When I had put that the message was meant for his guy friend he said it was because they were talking about where his friend had wanted a BJ . I just wanted to clear that up .
5 months ago
Go with your gut instinct . His story is riddled with more holes than swiss cheese and his behavior is quite typical of someone who has a guilty conscience . Besides, any heterosexual guy who sends such a message to his best /guy/ friend is either still hiding out in the closet or just plain stupid and got caught with his hand in the cookie jar and his brain shriveled up due to fear and guilt .
"Oh, what tangled webs we weave, When we first practice to deceive . " -- Sir Walter Scott
He could have been joking with her . But the fact that he was detailed about it, means he probably wasn't joking about it . But the question is, is when did it happen ? But the fact that he was talking like that to another girl is definitely a little cause for concern . Sounds like he was talking to an ex . But you probably shouldn't be talking to her about that kind of stuff if you're in a relationship . The fact that he seems to be really defensive and said it was a guy is definitely a red flag . If he had nothing to hide, then why wouldn't he just tell the truth ?
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