What is wrong with me ?

Don`t give too much of yourself.
Don`t give too much attention.
Don`t compliment all the time.
Don`t make her the center of your life.
And don`t let her walk all over you. Know when you have to stand up for yourself.
--And that applies to both men and women. --If the girl gives tooo much of herself to the guy (time, attention, etc), then the guy gets bored. right?--

Don`t get me wrong. It`s nice to be treated with a lot of attention, care, compliments, etc, but not ALL the time. It gets pretty boring.
Like if you constantly compliment a girl, she will get used to it, and become immune to your compliments. Or if you tell her how you feel about her all the time... it kills the mystery. Do you know how crazy it drives us when a guy doesn`t tell us how they`re feeling, or what they`re thinking? It leaves us wondering about it, ALL day. When you don`t respond to texts right away, or calls, it makes us wonder, "what the hell could he be so busy with?""What is more interesting than me?"

Remember Mystery keeps everything interesting. It leaves us wanting more...

You don`t have to act like a "jerk", just act like you have your own life too. Show her you care about her, but you also care about yourself. Showing her how interesting your life is, will make her want to be a part of it, and she will keep trying to squeeze herself into it.
Don`t try to be someone your not, because that def won`t work. Just be yourself, not a jerk.

Nice guys don't finish last, confident and assertive people finish first, and sad to say, guys that hide behind words like 'nice' or 'shy' to really disguise fear aren't going to get anywhere. What you've described doesn't suggest a problem, so something else must be happening here but since I don't know you, I can't say just what. But I did want to inform you that nice has nothing to do with getting a girl, neither does bad. It isn't negativity women are attracted to, it's confidence and the willingness to put yourself out there and define what you want. Maybe you should focus less on the gifts and rely on your eye contact, body language, and conversation to get what you want.

Don't be a clean-cut model. That gets kind of boring and predictable. Be yourself and let things happen sometimes. Not knowing is amazing. If you do those little things, do them with sincerity.. Maybe not flowers, but her favorite candy slipped into her coat pocket or left in her room, or a keychain with someting funny - an inside joke? Think of the things you actually share, not cliche stuff (not calling you cliche, but just advice). Good luck!

nice guys don't finish last. I love nice guys cus they're sweet, caring, and can be talked to. my boyfriend is a nice guy and he didn't finish last!

You sound like a wonderful person and an awesome boyfriend!
Just be yourself, don't feel like you always have to try really hard to make the girl happy. As long as you treat her nicely, she will be into you.
Girls are probably feeling uncomfortable if they think you're trying to hard to be nice to them because they can't help but wonder if they are not going to be able to be nice enough to you. They don't want you to end up resentful or tired of always putting so much into the relatinoship. Some girls might even wonder if you are trying to make up for some hidden negative traits by being super nice.
These are their issues, though, not yours. So don't let past girls' reaction to you get you down. Strike a balance between focusing on your own life and taking care of your girl, and things will go more smoothly.

if you really are the perfect guy then maybe what you need is more from a girl. if a girl doesn't put in the effort and you do you're not going to get anywhere. to be honest most girls are worthless anyways. don't be discouraged though because there are good girls out there still.id think there's a path to steer you down. I think that the right girl for you will come in time.

Hmm...I'm in your sitaution but I can't seem to find the right guy...but when I'm dating a guy I like him to compliment me, make me feel special, and do thoughtful things, but not all the time. Maybe you do all of that too much?! Even though you date a girl...that doesn't mean you should revolve your life around her either..Like still do your hobbies and stuff that "you" like to do and that makes you happy because girls don't like when guys are to dependent upon them, and just don't seem to have a life.

Kind of sounds like me, when I was into my first love... except... we never dated...
it sounds like your trying to be too kind... or too perfect... Just be your regular self... you'll find the right girl... they just weren't it. :D

The right girl is out there for you, maybe the problem is not you but the girls that you are chosing to have a relationship with. Maybe your ex's were not ready for a long term relationship. You should try going out with someone that is totally different from what you are use to dating, maybe then you may find the one your looking for. But, when the time is right God will send you the right girl when you least expect it. Good Luck!

First of all, you're not perfect. Ouch, that sounds mean! But I don't mean it to. I'm not saying this to be critical: nobody is, or ever can be, absolutely perfect a hundred percent of the time. We'd all like to think that we were perfect in the eyes of our partners, and we might even flatter our partners by telling them that at times, but the reality is that even the nicest and most well-meaning guys sometimes do things that annoy, hurt or upset their girlfriends. That's human nature!

Second of all, let me scotch that myth that girls like bad boys who treat them poorly. Actually, in long term, grown up relationships, of the kind you are describing, women want a guy who is kind, caring, dependable, loving... and fun to be around. It sounds like you're doing your best with gifts, flowers and compliments - which is the icing on the cake- but how are you on the boring, day-to-day stuff, like putting out the garbage, cleaning the toilet and cooking dinner? Are you there for your girlfriends when they are upset, listening to them and showing that you care? Do you do the dishes so they can sit down after a stressful day at work? There's no point buying someone roses if they feel that you're not there for them in more fundamental, everyday ways - it can even come over as an attempt to buy your way out of chores and responsibilities.

Perhaps rather than looking so generally at your character, you should take a closer look at why your past relationships failed, getting right down to specifics. I'm not saying that you were solely responsible for these breakdowns - there are always two sides to that - but I guarantee there will have been things that you have said and done that have contributed to the failures of the past. If you're still in contact, you could even ask your exes to give you the no-holds barred truth about why they feel you weren't the one for them. What you hear might be eye-opening and even hurtful, but try to approach anything they say not as criticism but as helpful advice for the future.

I really hope that you do find the right girl. You sound like a great guy with a lot to offer. Good luck!

Would you really want to be with a girl who DOESN'T want a nice guy? Really? You haven't found the right girl yet because it is hard for most everybody (guys AND girls) to find the right person. It just is. It took me 32 years, but I did. (And yes, he's a nice guy...)

HOnestly, it's because you're perfect. The reason a lot girls like bad boys is so they can "fix" them. And since you're perfect they find it kind of boring.

Don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you. It's true, any girl would be lucky to have you, you just gotta wait til the one who is right for you crosses your path. I've been let down by many guys, but I keep thinking that I'm gonna meet someone who will make me happy and that I can make happy too. Lots of people find that, why can't we? :-)

Maybe you are just trying too hard.

Honestly, you just haven't met the right girl yet. Continue to be you and when you least expect it, the right girl will fall madly in love with you.

Trust me a girl, that has had a bad boy would look at you and think she is dreaming lol. You just need someone that apprieciates everything you do. Don't love and care for someone if you don't get it back in return. Keep doing all the things that make you 'perfect', but if they take you for granted stand up for yourself and stop they will respect you more.

What's wrong with you? You're on the wrong planet. You forgot that humans are animals, and the rule of the jungle wins. In other words, you were a nice guy and thus were sexually unattractive and unviable as a mate. Hence the "You're perfect" but not for me speech.

Don't listen to the "just be yourself" crap. Obviously it's not working. So change your personality if you want to prove that you are an alpha male capable of determining his own destiny.

What's lacking is that you are a castrated male. Millions of years of evolution doesn't remove the basic sexually desirable traits from humans. As a male, you should possess masculine traits in order to keep a women attracted to you, thus she will still desire to be with you in a relationship even when she says "you're perfect".

Don't want to listen to me? Fine. I used to be a nice guy for most my life. I was born on the wrong planet. Got nowhere till I became a player. Hated playing the game. Amazing how women loved me as a player, but no one ever gave two sh*ts about who I really was and what I valued. Welcome to the jungle...

Here it is brother it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with her and her insecurities. If she thinks your perfect she doesn't think she is. She is afraid that one day when she is deeply in love you will leave her for your perfect someone. She thinks your too good to be true and that scares her. Most girls tend to go for a jerk so it doesn't hurt as bad when he breaks up with her at least she can have something bad to say about him to help her cope. If you were to break up with her and she thinks your perfect well she has nothing to help her cope with it by saying you were bad to her. I have been here many girls called me perfect and after that the relationship changed. I had a girl that has always had jealous men in her life so when she got with me and I showed no jealousy she couldn't justify the relationship. It is about her not you. Don't change who you are other then maybe live your life a little bit more for you rather then for her. Women have always had it bad and don't know how to deal with a good thing.

stop being the nice guy.i bet you that you put your women on a pedestal witch never works.you have to be a jerk or an A [}{]ole sometimes

see every girl I haven been with has said the exact same thing you wanna know why. its because you are treating her better than she could ever imagine. she doesn't feel as if she's doing enough for you to please you back when all you want is her to say thank you. she thinks she's not perfect enough for you cause all the little things you do for her. really it ends up scaring her away she doesn't know how to react and thinks its too good to be true. they think your gonna go crazy one day or what happens when you stop doing all thoes little things doesn't it mean you don't love her anymore. these are all things that run threw their head when with a guy who treats them so great and treats them like princesses. I find it funny the same traits girls want are the same ones that scare them away.

OK here a suggestion to keep them longer.
~don't be as clingy still worry and care about her but also give her some space see how she acts and learn to read her you will know when she needs space.
~little things here and there are fine but not as much. I've had more girls break up with me because the little things I did for her made her think she wasn't good enough for me. instead save the money from the little things for big things like anniversary and birthdays. if you have to do the little things no more than one a month,
~STOP! trying to please them you already do enugh as is. you need to just let them be pleased with being around you and be happy in your presents. be there for when she had a sh*tty day but also don't wait on her hand and foot. they see that as being desperate and yes its like a game and its childish but if played right then she will fall for you and then later on you can wait on her. just not yet .
~just be yourself don't be the guy trying so hard to please every girl that he scares them away. just rember yourself who you are and just don't let a girl change how you act.

now I'm not saying you can't still care for the girl or treat her well but just sometimes its best to relax cause she's a big girl she can take care of herself and she wants to be treated that way. treat her well but don't roll out the red carpet every time she walks into a room.

belie me I used to be the same way I realized what I was doing, hell I still do that from time to time but now I have ended up with the perfect girl. the one who accepts what I doe for her and tells me thank you. there's been a few times when she says I'm too perfect and its scared me but she wouldn't have it any other way. she's realized that its time she's treated right buy a good guy and she loves me as much as I do her.
so I wish you luck! remember don't try too hard to please a girl just be yourself because belive me knowing how to say the right things pleases the girl the most. buying her flowers and stuff all the time scares her away and makes her think your trying to buy your way to her trust and love.

Maybe you are after the wrong women?

Nobody's perfect, you probably have flaws you don't realise. Obviously I don't know what they may be, maybe your too clingy, or over the top on the romance front or any number of things, I don't know.

And I would take what girls say with a pinch of salt, they will probably sugar coat what they say, or even down right lie, to make you feel better.

At the end of the day it's all down to you, there is no rule to say that you won't get a girl because your a nice guy etc..., don't make excuses just move on, it's their loss

When I was like you I had an ex girlfriend tell me I was the perfect gentlemen and that any girl would be happy to be with me.

Its all bullsh*t bro, stop being the flower boy your only destroying your chances with girls.
Girls are not attracted nice guys (ass kissers).

join the boat man, I'm 23 and the last girl I had a thing with said I was a wonderful guy that would make a woman very happy one day and I consider myself a good guy, I just suck at meeting women. It happens.

I think it has something to do with luck, I can get whatever I want and I know where to look, and I know what to choose. I am usually late, bad job, not doing well in anything, lazy, and I do look like some cartoon characters (does that make me funny lol), so if we compare you to me there is no way I'm standing up the competition...

so, maybe those girls are thinking your too much for them, or too serious for them, my advice is to go for women your age and choose ones that are serious and looking for a real relationship like you do... and more, watch comedy shows and try to be a little bit mean and sarcastic, spice up yourself! ;)

Maybe they consider you almost TOO perfect and feel like they don't deserve you or can't live up to what they think you want or need. I've had that happen to me. Just something to think about...

Your problem is taking dating advice off of the wrong type of girls - the ones who don't tell you what they TRULY want. Girls love "nice guys" in movies and TV shows, but in real life they don't feel ANY attraction for them. Attraction isn't a choice. The things you do simply arn't attractive to women in anything out of the "he's a good friend" category. You arn't challenging enough and your making your intentions clear way to soon. Make her ask questions like "does he like me?" Be a mystery. I mean come on dude, flowers!?

You could be coming on too strong and being too open. The nice guy doesn't have to finish last, but he usually makes himself finish last.

Don't give away everything you have, don't do everything perfect. If you do this they already know everything about you, you become predictable and they lose interest. The fact that you said you do everything perfect, all the things you should do tells me you're probably spending too much time with them and not enough on yourself. If you spend all your time and effort on your partner they will get tired and worn down.

On the other hand there are girls out there who appreciate a guy who does all that stuff. So either you like that girl and keep looking or ease up and change the way you handle relationships.