Give and take 50/50?

I think that a relationship works best when *each* partner gives 100% of their effort to maintain the relationship. If you are BOTH giving 100%, it will work out. The problem is when one person is giving 100% and the other, much less.

You each give your best, which may be in different areas. It doesn't mean that you have to share the housework 50/50, if one of you is really bad at it (or doesn't care). You can each give what you are best at. It's about giving to the relationship *as a whole*. Once you start counting the %, you're in trouble. (i.e. I washed the dishes last night; it's your turn! Well, I did the laundry, so it's yours. etc etc)

I think good relationships never FEEL 50/50, but ACT 50/50.

If you are in a good relationship, when you give something of yourself, it feels proportionally less in value then when your significant other gives you something in return. This is because you value their gifts more due to the worth you place on the person and at the same time mentally reduce the associated cost of your own gift out of love because love makes sharing the gift seem less of a burden.

It isn't 50/50 in the sense you love the same amount, you do the same chores around the house, and spend the same about of money. The expression 50/50 isn't that you each contribute 50% to the whole, but that you each represent 50% of the greater whole you created with your combined efforts.

It isn't about equality, but improving both people so that they feel that they receive what they need, and that contribute what the other has use for. In this way, it ACTS like a 50/50 system. Plus the 50/50 value system, if executed in the strictest sense, would be skewed depending on how you value skills, personality traits, and time. All in all, if the relationship works, I would consider this a "50/50" relationship in that they give when they are asked, and receive when they need, even if you didn't actually assign a value to the tasks based on care that went into it, time consumption, skill level etc.

I think in an ideal world that's how it would be.. but there's always gonna be one that is more dominant in the relationship than the other.. although it can be 50/50 such as one making decisions or in charge of one aspect of the relationship and the other in charge of another part...

relationships are a partnership.. so it takes two to make things work.. whatever way they decide it works for them..

i wouldn't even put too much thought into 50/50 stuff...
A good relationship isn't defined by such a "simple" thing as dividing everything 50/50, be it material goods, your time or simple put the effort you're doing to keep the relationship rolling...

A real 50/50 isn't ever gonna to be established, but it does not need to be. A relationship is good when both partners have the attitude that they need to give something to be able to get some other thing - or even the same thing - in return.
Both partners however should know that both giving and taking has their limits and these limits should match with each other. This is where I put in the 50/50 equivalency.
It's not 50/50 in value of money/effort/etc... it's 50/50 in terms of finding someones limit on giving and not stressing this limit to the maximum. And this goes for both sides.

(I'm sorry if this is quite difficult to understand, sometimes my English get's f*cked up :D)