Would you let your boyfriend/girlfriend...

i answered yes because as far as I'm concerned, I would never be in a relationship with a guy that I don't trust. and so as long as he keeps that trust and is honest, I will not have a problem with him hanging out with his ex. however, if he every gives me a legitimate reason NOT to trust him (legitimate meaning not just my own stupid paranoia) then it's sayonara boyfriend.
the reason I'm like this is because one my best friends is my ex boyfriend and I respect that his girlfriend, whom he's had for 2 years, was never really comfortable with him staying in touch with me and us hanging out, BUT she's never gotten TOO bent out of shape and she's been pretty cool. I think she's finally starting to realize that my ex and I should never have dated because he and I are just TOO similar to one another and it was like I was dating my non-identical twin lol.
so I think that you should let him hang out with his ex, but if you ever are given a reason to doubt his intentions with her, then you have every right to stand up and draw the line.

would I "let" her? I don't control the girls I date, she can do whatever she wants.

would I prefer that she hangs out with an ex? no.

would I like that she hangs out with an ex? no.

would I dump her if she hangs out with an ex? yes.

I wouldn't hang out with an ex because it's a terrible, terrible idea. nothing good ever comes from hanging out with exes. I don't want to damage a current relationship by dragging things from the past.

and it's a totally effed up form of denial IMO, to say that "if you love or trust someone, what does it matter if they hang out with an ex?" what matters is that it's disrespectful and destructive to spend time with an ex when you're in a new relationship, and it drives a wedge between people. does that sound insecure? damned right it's insecure: when people hang out with exes, that gives their current partner a perfectly reasonable excuse to feel insecure.

I would, the reason being is that you really can't lose. If she doesn't cheat on you, she's the one you want. If she does cheat, you don't have to waste time with a fraud. Although I won't lie, I might be a bit uneasy...but we're all tested in relationships. If you don't pass the test, you don't pass the class (or in this case, the relationship).

No, because once dead, can be brought back alive and the flame can still be there.

i put other, because id be blunt and honest with my gf, that id rather she not hang out with em, and that I know I can't stop her, and that I can be jealous and I don't like to feel jealous and if she really wants to, then okay, il deal with it...
and no matter how my girlfriend would feel, I never hang out with my exs, wether or not I'm still friends with em, just because I don't wanna make my girlfriend feel jealous no matter what and I wouldn't feel right by hangin out with an ex just because even if I'm single

A GOOD QUESTION TO ASK IS HAS ANYONE HUNG OUT WITH AN EX DURING A RELATIONSHIP AND ENDED UP HAVING SEX OR MAKING OUT ETC. THIS MIGHT GET SOME OF THESE PEOPLE THAT ARE STUCK ON I TRUST SO AND SO SO MUCH. I would let them go on a romantic date with there EX. What the heck is wrong with people. Do you want to be cheated on and tempt your boyfriend and put him in a position where he will cheat on you?

never... because most guys I think are posessive ... I admit I am... and a girl hangin out with her ex sends the wrong message... even if its not an ex... a girl should never be one on one with a male unless that male was approved by her bf... the same goes for us guys so don't think I'm just some controlling boyfriend lol

i guess it would be ok but only if your with them

hi, nice question you have chosen... I say yes because relationships are built on trust and if you can let the boyfriend/girlfriend hang out with their ex's then it shows that you trust them so it would be more likely that he wouldn't lie to you about anything. as far as I am actually concerned though they are your boyfriend/girlfriend and only you can make that decision over what to do... good luck hunnie. x and remember no choice is wrong x

Nope never, beacause it brings emotions and feelings change between the current couple.

Not liking your boyfriend/girlfriend hanging with an ex isn't always controlling, it depends on why they want to hang out together, how long they knew each other, is there mutual friendships that throw them into each others company, are they to be trusted, are you paranoid and don't need the hassle for the sake of them having one more person to talk to and so on and so forth.
It's easy to play the moral high ground butter wouldn't melt role of saying you should allow them to talk to their ex otherwise you are a control freak but it's a different story when it comes to dealing with it personally and having a lot of reasons not to accept it.
If you have no reason to worry about it then allow it, if its going to cause problems then don't hide that fact otherwise it will be harder to deal with later on down the line when you have bottled up a lot of anger (if that is the case).
Would I allow my wife to hang around her ex's, no, because some of them are complete idiots who have no morals and are involved in some pretty crappy situations I would rather not be associated with or anybody involved, she may have never done anything with them and may be faithful but I don't want her to be involved with them losers and to be honest she is cool with that because neither does she.
If it was some nice guy who can be trusted then I would merely wonder why there was a sudden need to hang out with an old boyfriend.
I think it varies on who the guy is and how old they are and how long its been since they broke up and all the circumstances I mentioned earlier.

No, I would not. Even if jealousy is not a factor. Logically, it's quite a dumb idea to hold on to your exes. Old feelings will eventually spark up (whether you act on them or not). A relationship mostly mental. If your psyche is still latching on to your past relationships, then you can not fully focus on your current relationship. If you once love someone, that love will never go away. You can only choose to hide or try to ignore it. In most cases (in studies); Most people that hang around their ex eventually do something unfaithful (not necessarily have sex). Besides... What is the point of hanging with an ex if you have a new? Emotionally it'll obscure your mind. Even if it starts off in a subtle manner. It'll slowly get to you and cause you to dwell on things that they may have done right, that your current partner is doing wrong. In cases of cheating, most are caused by subtle cases of confusion. That is what I've researched both textbook and observation, as well as experience. Though on an emotional level... I think I would be jealous as well. But I don't hover over my girlfriend (now fiance) when she hang out with guys. If you're worried about being controlling then you could just do, yourself, what you want him to do. It'll be evened out then.

Well mine has a mortgage with her ex so they both have to work on keeping the house in good condition that's the only time she would see him

It depends on what 'hang out' implies. I would injure anyone who messes with my girlfriend.

Yes if I trusted them (which if you don't that's a bigger question) and there was a logical reason to hang out that wasn't tied in a romantic way.

It would have to depend on the situations. For example: My last girlfriend had no probelm with me hanging out with my ex... because 1) I was upfront with her about our relationship form the get go and I never hid anything from her at anytime. 2) My girlfrend was secure in knowing that she was my priorty. I put her on a pedistal and she knew it and she had no reason to fell threatened and and she didn't feel threatened because of it.

And to help you put it in persepective, My ex was a best friend I knew for 6 or 7 years before we dated or even fooled around for the firt time. We dated for 5 months before realizing that we just ere not right for each other. But as friends we compliment each other perfectly.

Hell no. If I don't trust her though lol

Yes, definitely. I've had gfs who hung out with their exes and I've done the same.

I know what's important to me in a relationship, and trust is at or near the top of the list. If I can't trust my girlfriend to spend time with her ex, then I don't want to be anything more than casual f***-buddies. If she's messing around with the ex and lying about it, I'll find out eventually and dump her because I don't want to date someone who behaves like that. If she's not cheating, then I think her honesty entitles her to hang out with whomever the hell she pleases :)

I'm also very turned off by controlling relationships. I'd be angry if my girlfriend wouldn't let me hang out with an ex... so if I tried to prevent her from seeing hers, I'd be a hypocrite.

During my last relationship I would have said no. I got really upset that my girlfriend actually still talked to her ex's. To me and ex was an ex for a reason. Why would you want to be in contact with them unless you want to get back together? I always felt that if she made the effort to talk or be around them then she must still have feeling for him.

Now that we are broke up, partly because my views in this area I'm completely the other way. You must have the trust that nothing will happen and that they are talking and hanging out because they are friends. Hey they were close enough once to be in a relationship it's not unbelievable to think they still have a lot in common.

Until they give you a reason to think otherwise, it's just friends and you need to be cool about it.

No, if she had a desire to meet up with her then there is some residual feelings she needs to situate and I rather not be her experiment. It also depends how much time has passed since you seen that ex if its years then its okay.

god your cute. and yeah its a tough one. its nice to be on good terms with an ex. but that sh*t should be sparse unless you have to interact with them. ie live close same social circles etc. its a bad position to be in feeling like you're investing yourself in a ... rather than a . explain to him that your trust ain't something hell see twice in this life and he can walk away any time he likes but if he's with you and f***s up you ain't an ex hell be hang out with afterwards. if he gets all you're being controlling, be god its immature being stuck on an ex. I need a man and that's how you seemed to me when I met you. send him to bed without any supper. call a few of your exs up. never make it personal. always make it about 'howthis relationship is workingout for you.if any guy cheats on you smile and dump his motherf***in arse in a heartbeat. believe me if he's got a brain hell learn. if not byeeeee!always put yourself in a position whereyou got options. ie go out with a love yur friends when your coupled as well as single.

Yes, as said before a good relationship needs trust. Another thing is, ex's can really be friends in the end, me and my ex-girlfriend are very close friends now, and we hang out alot, so if she had a boyfriend who said that she can't talk or hang out with me, she would most likely dump him because he is either a) over-protective or b) doesn't trust her, neither which is very good for a relationship in most cases.

Well if they want to hang out you could not stop it, they will do it one way or other, I would feel betrayed tho. I'm very weak in those kind of things.

Anyone who thinks they have the right or authority to "let" their boyfriend/girlfriend do anything has issues. They hang out with who they want and its up to you to deal with it.

YES - firstly if you are in a relationship with someone you should and must have 100% trust - this is unlikely to be achieved for we are all suspicious but even if you say you have near total trust I feel that you must always believe the best - however, if that person has previous form together - ie they've cheated together on you before then no, of course you're not going to let them hang out, however, have faith in him, he may surprise you, or he may not, he may just end up being faithful. If you doubt the chances are your doubt will push him away and then he is either more likely to cheat, or to just pack his bags and go - have a little faith my dear, us men, we're not all wankers... xXx

Would I LET them? Well, of course I would, because if I tried to stop them, that might just drive them there all the faster. I would be uncomfortable with it, depending on the situation that led to their break-up and how serious they were/we are, but I wouldn't dream of telling them "no, you can't go see him!" I myself still hang out with a couple of my ex's, I've even been invited to one of their weddings. I tend to part as friends with my ex's, though I do admit there is some awkwardness between us usually. The point is, when people break up and move on, if they truly have then there should be no problems if they want to hang out. If they haven't, then isn't it more important that the one you care about is happy, even if it means stepping aside and letting the ex have them again?

I would not stop her, but I don't think it's healthy. An ex is rarely something worthy of keeping as a friend. There is usually a need for closure, and a risk of exposing your feelings again despite knowing it will only be lust and go nowhere. Personally, from my experience, the consequences far outweigh the bad.

As for the question asker, you should never let your boyfriend do something you have no voiced your opinion in. Perhaps hes' seeing his ex's because You do the same thing. The fact is, I think your relationship needs a little more honesty and openness. Don't let him see his ex because you THINK it's for the best. At least voice your opinion and maybe you'll realize he's never been too comfortable about your own ex's. Getting even is a bad sign of things to come. Anyhow this is all subjective, and this may not be the case with you.

Generally speaking, I'm one of those "if you love them you'll let them go" kind of guys. If he's the better fit, and I "forbid" her from spending time with him, I don't want to be the one blamed every time she feels she made a mistake in dating me. If he's not the better man, and she realizes that, then I still get the girl, and I don't look like the overly jealous boyfriend.

It depends on several factors:

Have I met this person, and do I trust them - are they worthy of my trust?

1) How "serious" are we? If we were engaged, I'd probably treat things a little differently. If we had been dating for a month and were in a really good place, that's another situation. If we were dating, but fighting constantly, that's a different case.

2) Does she have a history of cheating? (If she does, then why am I dating her?) - If she does, then why does she want that temptation? Does she lie about random things? Have a history of lying or hiding important relationship information? Is she exhibiting the "cheating signs?"

Is he a "player?"

3) What's the event? drinks, dancing, something nostalgic or super romantic, then it should be a group of people.

4) How "affectionate" are they? I see a girl I used to date once a month, if that. We talk from time to time. We may hug, but if she tries being more affectionate than that, I get away. (and I'm not dating anyone...)

5) Do they want me around? I have a friend that I've been able to hang out with - just like old times. Purely platonic. And I like hanging out with the guy. I want to hang with him just as I want to hang out with her. Now, if I insisted on always being alone with her, or was touchy feely in an awkward way, then it'd be a different story.

6) Is HE trustworthy? Have I met him? What does he do? If it's a mystery, then why? I would think a good relationship you'd want to meet your significant other's friends and family. I'd think you'd want to be a part of their lives. It's a chance to get to know her better, too.

If she (and the friend too) passed these "tests" then I'd have very little to be jealous about. And I would let them hang out. But in most of the cases above, I'd probably be hanging out, too, so there'd be little room for me to distrust the woman.

It all depends on the level of trust you have with her really, so to answer it with a simple yes or no is impossible since it really varies based on the situation.

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its all a thing of trust. do you trust that your boyfriend or girlfriend is over the other person enough to be uninterested in their ex and stay trustworthy to you. I don't have a problem with my girlfriend hanging out with her ex or an old crush because I trust her to be faithful to me and I know she expects the same from me.

It wouldn't be a matter of me "letting" him. He could do as he pleases but I would not want a relationship with a man who could not let go of his past. Now, if he was married, they have children together and they want to do some activities together, I get that. But a Boyfriend or Girlfriend who still has emotional ties to their ex to the point they want to hang out with them, that is not healthy.

There may be extenuating circumstances, such as old family friends or people who knew each other since they were kids, as well as the definition of "hanging out", such as they run in the same circles and can end up spending time with each other versus something that is like dating.

My ex-husband worked with his ex and she had a reputation for going after guys who were unavailable. I also knew he never really wanted the breakup but she was uncomfortable with their age difference (she was older). In the end it was not a matter of trust, because I didn't think he would actually fool around with her, but there was something there that wasn't great. She definitely was trying to compete with me on some level and worse yet he kind of held it over me to do as he pleased. In that way it was disrespectful and the tip of the iceberg in how he treated me in many other areas. I know now that if your partner cannot take you into consideration and wants to judge your feelings and concerns, well they will do that to you overall on the big stuff and the small stuff and they are not going to be a great partner.

Sure... as long as he's not always hanging out with her... that would make me a little jealous/suspicious... :)

Hell noo ! , because if they had an attraction to them before they could get another when they hang out again , and unless you wanna lose him/her I wouldn't let them do it .

well.. it all depends on if YOU trust your bf/gf's ex he/she hangs out with. if he/she spends a lot of time with the ex and not really paying attention to you more than yourbf/gf should, that could be a problem. you need to talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend and say to them that your not really spending enough time with me because ur hanging out ith your ex more than me. or if your bf/gf's ex is caught kissing your boyfriend/girlfriend you need to find someone else because there gonna do the same thing again until it breaks your heart so many times you just can't take it anymore..

You can tell them they can't because they are supposed to be worried about spending their time with YOU not an EX! If they are so worried about their ex maybe they shouldn't have broken up with them in the first place.

I picked yes because we would have trust. What's the point of a relationship if you don't have trust. Honestly, I wouldn't like it but I would deal.

Yes, because I'm still friends with most of my ex-boyfriends :)

I would have a huge problem with it. Obviously I can't control another human being, but I wouldn't be okay with it and I'd let him know how I felt. There really is no reason to hang out with your ex, I feel that's just disrespectful to your current relationship. If you want to be with your ex so bad why are you with me then? Once the relationship is over, it's over. You can trust someone all you want but if they make a conscious decision to want to hang out with someone they use to sleep with, you have to wonder why that is?

I would just let him, just because I'm positive it won't affect my relationship. if he insists then you should not let him. I believe its too risky.

Yes, simply because I trust him, and really love him and know that he feels the same. Even if I didn't it's not a big deal, they're exs for a reason, and it's not because they're still in love. There's a huge rant I could go on but I choose not to. So I'll leave it at yes, I do.

I said "Other" because of the following,

I'm not a control freak, as a matter of fact I loathe people of that sort. My partner's ex is a total control freak, and if my partner told me he was hanging out with her, I'd be f***ing p*ssed. He's still got issues with her, regardless of the fact they've been broken up for 2 years with NO communication. Hell, I was p*ssed as hell when he told me she called him because her freakin cat died. I get that he also had a strong attachment to the cat, but I have to protect what's mine, you know what I'm saying?

If I view another chick as a threat to my security, you bet your butt I'm going to say Hell No. If the circumstance is that I "don't know her that well", yet she's still a threat to my security, I'll deem it okay so that I can make sure she knows I'm not one to f*** with.

It would only upset me if they hung out alone. But even still, I probably wouldn't do anything about it because I don't want to seem controlling.

Yes because I trust my boyfriend and that he would handle any possible awkward situation properly.
It'd be easy to just say no but I don't like someone trying to control and I wouldn't want to do that to him either.

i wouldn't be happy with it but I don't think anyone has the right to dictate who others interact with. I would also never go out with someone who I didn't trust so I wouldn't stop them from seeing them.

Hell to the no because the feelings would still be there and something could happen where they will betray you. Why would they have to hang with their exes? Doesn't your boy/girlfriend have friends they can hang with?

No. There is no reason for them to hang out. I might be ok with them talking to their ex depending on the situation but not hanging out. The reason is that I'd feel that they are not over their ex and it would cause me to be jealous or paranoid about them cheating, especially if their significant other was the one who broke up with them

No, I wouldn't. If the ex is still in love with your boyfrined then something could happen between them. Some girls are tempters.

I said yes because I trust my boyfriend and he is an adult so he has the choice of who he wants to be friends with. Also there is a reason they are your ex so I can't see why it would be a problem.
I would be mad if my boyfriend wouldn't let me be friends with my ex or anyone else for that matter so how could I feel it is alright to tell him he can't hang out with them.

Yes, I would let my boyfriend hang out with his ex because if we were secure enough in our relationship and I trust him, then I would have no problem with him being near his ex. Even if she was a monster, I would still let him, because the extra comparison of nice girlfriend vs. mean ex-gf is always an added bonus.
Yes, there are many problems associated with this scenario, but I think it is a good way to see how your guy reacts to situations. If he is a weak guy who just wants to please, then he won't stand up to her. If he is a good, strong guy then he will set boundaries and put her in her place when necessary, etc.

I said other. because I would say "hey it really bothers me that you hang with your ex while I'm not there. I'm not saying you can't I'm just saying it bothers me."
or even ask your boyfriend if you him, your ex and his girl would like to double.

But just say how you feel about it. but do nottell him what to do.

you can't controll him completely or he'll think you're too needy. As long as they're just friends, and there's not any flames left in them, then yes.

I think all these people are lieing. Anyone who says that not letting someone hangout with an ex means you're insecure or controlling, is full of s@#$. Honestly, they had feelings for this person before they met you, something COULD potentially happen, and it's more likely to if you're not around. No one wants to think of their partner off with an ex. They all try to act tough and remain strong but when it comes down to it no one wants to hear: "Oh I'm going to a movie with Jen tonight or I'm going to grab lunch with Mike" sorry no way. If it didn't work out it didn't work out. What is the reason for being friends? I think it's so that way if things don't work out in your current situation they always have someone to fall back on. DEFINITE NO!

Honestly if they are just friends I would. Like platonic friends and I've met her and she's cool with me too. Now on the other hand, I have met some evil psycho exes who were still in love with him... One of them even wanted to break us up and stalked me like no tomorrow. So, to me, it would depend on the girl... just like it would depend on which ex I would trust to be my friend and not someone still all over me. lol

i wouldn't have anything to do with my ex and neither would I bother him. my ex boyfriend keeps bothering me though and his momeven tried phon ing me and I think she's psycho and he's psycho.

No I would not. Definitely not alone. If they are friends then they can hangout together with you present or with others. Explain you concern to your partner. It's the oldest issue in the book. If your partner values you more than his ex then he will make the appropriate changes. If he insists on seeing her alone and feels you're being unfair then you have to decide if you can accept the situation or you just won't stand it. But it depends on what sort of relationship they were in. If they were in love I wouldn't like them around each other but if they went out for 2 weeks meh...it's probably not a big deal. It's not too much to ask that your partner make that little sacrifice because it upsets you.

Well to me it depends on there relationship. If it ended with a firm closure then possibly I don't see what's wrong with it. Although have you ever seen the show the Ex-effect where the two ex's hang out for the weekend while there current boyfriend and girlfriend watch. They almost always re-kindle the flame and that is not good either. So I would make sure that she doesn't have ANY likings for your boyfriend and if she does then I would keep him locked up. All I can say is that if he really likes you he will stay faithful.

Maybe-but it depends on the cirsumstances. Like, if she had a boyfriend and they were going to be with other people I would probably say yes. But, if it was a tough break-up and they're just now talking and wanting to be friends again or if they were going to be hanging out alone I would say no.Your not being controlling by asking him not to hang out with his ex, Because, afterall he did have strong feelings for her and they may not have completely died yet. You're not controlling if you tell him he should, you're a human being with feelings and he should understand that you don't want to get hurt and he should respect that

no, I would not let my man hang out with his ex because you never know if there is still a sexual attraction there. if he hangs out with her behind my back then what I don't know won't hurt. but I can never hear him say "yeah, I'm going to hang out with my ex jessica for a little while. I'll be home at 9pm." what are you crazy.

I wouldn't. It would just bother me so much. I would tell him if it was bugging me though. let them know how you feel because they can't read your mind. I'm actually hanging out with my ex even though I have someone else. And I feel like there's still something there between us and sometimes I want him back. So I'm actually part of the ex's together. So my advise keep him close as possible and make him fall in love with you, so he'll never let go. But listen to this: IF YOU LIKED SOMEONE BEFORE NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS THERE WILL ALWAYS BE SOMETHING BETWEEN YOU TWO

WTH do you mean 'let'?
You don't OWN them just because he/she is willing to be in a relationship with you!
That's just idiotic!

He can hang out with whoever he wants!
The main thing is that you know, and he shows you that he cares only for you and that he's faithful!


This kind of attitude...of telling them what to do is exactly why some relationships end soon, never on good terms, and they can never remain friends!

Yes. Trust is one of the most important factors in any relationship, whether it be your friends, your family, or your boyfriend / girlfriend.

I'm completely ok with my boyfriend being friends with his Ex's and I love that he's ok with me still being friends with mine.

I personally don't mind because this is the way I see things. My Ex's are my ex's for a reason and I'm not with them because the chemistry we had in a relationship didn't work out. I still get along with them and we're still cool friends but as a couple we just don't work out for some reason or another and that is the way I see his ex's. Those other girls started off as friends and when they got together it just didn't work out. "They're my ex for a reason" If he was still interested in them he would be with them and not me.

Having a strong bond with my boyfriend and both of us having so much trust lets us have that kind of perk. I know most of my friends aren't ok with their partner being friends with their ex's and I think it's because they're insecure about what they have.

If I knew that the other girls had feelings for him or the other way around I would not be ok with it at all. Why put yourself in a situation that might go wrong. Is it worth the risk?

You can't really not let them. What you can do is let them make their own decisions and then you have to make yours. If this isn't acceptable to you then you don't tell them they can't, you just don't date them if they do. Find someone who wouldn't do that.

I don't see it as a controlling or insecurity issue if there are no other issues in the relationship. That is that both people communicate well and are honest with each other. I personally don't hang out with exes when I'm in a serious relationship out of respect to my partner. I don't care what anyone says, knowing your current partner is hanging out with an ex will always leave a bad taste in your mouth. I suppose I expect the same sort of respect.

I also don't think anything good comes from having an ex around. That is from past experiences. I haven't had things ever turn out good when one of my exes or one of my current's is in the picture. Exes dig up the past and try to make it present, but it has no business there.

I believe people shouldn't be too possessive in their relationships, but I think there should be a balance. Just like a good parent isn't overly protective of their child, they shouldn't let it have complete freedom either. I say this because it's easy to get into your head that they'll always be ok with everything you do, so then you just stop telling them that you're doing it and that could lead to problems. Besides, I think being a little protective and even jealous is attractive. It can show how much you mean to someone and how important you are to them by showing a bit of vulnerability.

HELL NOOO! My resoning is because they still could have feelings 4 each other and n e thing could happen. I just would't feel right knowin that they're together doing god know what!@!

depends; if they have a history that really didn't quite END, then.. id be suspicious but if we talked it out I'd let him /:

i think it depends on the situation. Like how long have they been apart?! And have they been reunited as friends for awhile or just randomly hanging out?

For me, I wouldn't be comfortable allowing him to hang out with his ex. Hanging out with an ex, from my experience, brings up a lot of emotions and can actually make the flames start burning again, if you know what I mean. This happened with my past ex who saw me even though he had a girlfriend. It's risky and I wouldn't like it, but I wouldn't tell him he couldn't go. I would tell him that I'm uncomfortable with the idea, and if he chooses to go still, then that means that he doesn't care if he hurts me because it's more important to hang out with his ex.

I wouldnt. I trust him but I still wouldn't because I keep in mind that's he is still human and if he's going hanging around somebody he USED to have feelings with then chances are it gives him more opportunity to think about her. It makes me insecure and I'm generally confident about myself. Out of respect for me, he shouldn't be hanging out with her AT ALL! Same way I would never even think of talking, hanging or meeting up with my ex/s. Obviously its something that's going to make him have selfesteem issues and I wouldn't want to put him in that place where he feels that he's going to have to up his game when I'm already his. Its just not fair in my opinion. Bye!

deffenitly

I've been hanging out with my ex and he has a girlfriend...he calls me sometimes but I never call him I don't want him to think I'm interested in him( even though I am a little) I don't want to be the source of his problems with her I don't want to break them apart because I know what it feels like to be betrayed with someone else...trust him...but be careful

I know you don't want to be the controlling jealous type of girlfriend but if you really like this guys don't let him...That's kind of how they start liking each other again...I've experienced it! Trust me!

Wow I totally understand that you don't want to be the controlling girl friend and props to you for being so cool. I would defenetly try to be the same way in a relationship, I guess if you know his ex's it mabey makes it a little easier but still I could understand how him doing that would make you feel insecure. I don't think I could watch my guy go hang out with his ex's that would hurt me alot. And I would tell him that. Guys want to feel wanted by girls and if he thinks that your totally ok with him seeing other girls then he might think differently of you. And obiously you care about him a lot so just tell him your situation. Be like I want to be a cool girlfriend to you and I don't want to be controling of your life but you have to understand that its really hard for me somtimes to see you spending time with other girls that I know you have had a spark with in the past.