How do you know if your boyfriend is cheating on you?

I hate to jump to conclusions, but people often focus on the wrong things. How about not being with him because "he's a douche bag"? Why does he have to cheat.

Now, I know guys who are the rare exception, but for the most part, guys don't make friends with girls. I'm 25, and I'm friends by association with my older friends' girlfriends/wives, but guys don't make opposite sex friends like girls do. Trust me; all the girls who hung out with me at your age were girls I wanted to date. Since I'm low on testosterone, I only wanted to date them; your "douche bag" boyfriend wants to have sex with them. Whether he is or not is beside the point.

He's cheating on you.

- Rusty from Aust.

First you should ask him what his relationship is with her...has he been friends with her a long time or maybe she is a coworker. that'd give it more context.

difficult one. let him know he won't get two chances with you and whilst youd be his friend if it didn't work out, he is dead to you if he cheats. then forget about it and go about your business.

Just leave him. Trust your instincts. You don't need proof, if you are getting a "he's cheating" vibe from him, then there is no reason to even risk it coming true. You can find plenty of guys who aren't assholes.

Even if he isn't he is teetering on the edge of cheating. Guys don't make "just friends" with other girls. They just don't.

well you can't really know unless you ask him
try to talk to him about the girl, ask why he never mentions her, if he keeps avoiding it ask the million dollar question
are you cheating on me with her, his reaction should tell if he is or not

your boyfriend sucks

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I find that a person's instincts on such things are sadly normally right. However, you could weight this on a few things... has he cheated on past girlfriends? Cause really cheaters don't change (I won't say ever, but if a guy has a bad track record I would take it into consideration). If you have been cheated on in the past you might be carrying some baggage from an old relationship and allowing it to affect this one. However, he doesn't really sound all that great if he's a douche to you even some of the time. Not to mention if he knows it's something you have doubts about or feeling uncomfortable with then why is he remaining all buddy/buddy with her and calling her beautiful in front of you? I've been in past relationships where I knew the guy I was with was uncomfortable with some of my male friends so I put them at a bit of a distance to give him some security. Even if he's not cheating; he doesn't sound like a 'gem' and probably doesn't deserve a lady such as yourself. Find a guy who is sweet to you and adoring ALL the time, even when you are grumpy, or PMSing, or in your pajamas with tangles in your hair... They are out there.

If you feel like you have to ask, he probably is. Follow your gut instinct.

Okay this guy is a douche but all guys are. If yall have been dating for a while he might be bored. Or maybe they're just friends. Or he's cheating on you. I was dating this guy once and when he was cheating on me he used to bring up the other girl all the time but he never told me who she was. He took her to the debutant ball and she came and picked him up form school and stuff. I figured it was just his big sister that I had never met but it wasn't until after we broke up that I found out. I'm not saying you should break up with him but he might just be friends with the girl so let it go for a little while and see how things work out. If he's an honest guy I'm sure he's not lying to you if he says that he's not cheating on you. I mean you can like other people when you're dating it's rude but you can. And maybe he's just talking to her. He's not doing anything just talking to her. They think that they can talk to whoever they want anyway they want as long as they don't do anything with anyone else it's not cheating. Heck girls think that too!

Ok that is a no no. If he is with you he doesn't need to be telling a girl she is beautiful and to come see him at work. You're young and there are plenty of fish in the sea. I would lose him whether he's cheating on you or not cause you deserve to be treated better and with respect!

I think he's basically cheating in the sense of everyhting other than the physical act, if that hasn't already begun- I say confront him and get out of that relationship fast!

um your man is cheating. and if he's not cheating he will. that's very inappropriate.

sweet talking another girl?
come see me at work?
not telling you anything about her?
telling another chick that ain't you that she's beautiful?

you don't need to catch someone in midthrust to know that they are cheating. he doesn't have much respect for your relationship. I think you can do wayy better than that! tell him that you know about the other girl and you find his behavior highly inappropriate and take it from there..

Trust your intuition. That happened to me once and I found out that the guy I was with for three years was cheating on me. I thought he was cheating for the longest time and it turned out I was right. If the guy is a douche he's capable of just about anything, trust me. You'll be better of with someone else who will treat you the right way.