ah yes, the infamous question that almost all of you have already heard and answered. I know, I know, its a headache having to advise that person not to go back to your ex, yes, I admit, I'm that person who tells that person not to, but please, I've got a problem of my own... I need some real good advice.
I'm on my 3rd year in nursing school and my main focus is to finish school before getting back into a relationship. that's why my ex who I was with, not even for 1 month, and I decided that we keep it mutual, plus, we've gone through long distance relationship and the last time I saw him was a year ago.. ok, so fast forward like a year later, this exact month, and up until now we kept in contact since. all friendly conversations really. but then our emotions are getting to us. we're bringing up how things would have been if we were to work at it and be willing to work things out if I'm through with school. he said I'm worth the wait, and he's in the u.s. navy. so my question is, should I really try this relationship out, I mean I have a year left of school to finish and I'm moving back to where I met him, my hometown. and I am considering of joining as navy officer nurse. oh gosh, that may be another problem too. navy officers aren't allowed to be in relationship with another military branch. well that's what I heard.
anyway, any advice will do. I'm all ears. hope this was a bit clear to answer. thanks.
If you like him, then go for it. You can always end it if it doesn't work out, but why pass up an opportunity at a relationship? The rewards are far greater than the risk.
You were dating a month, assuming you're not being dishonest in this and it wasn't some sort of heartbreaking tale. However, I'm skeptical that you've told the entire story because you mention "work things out". This relationship was only 1 month, how many issues could you possible have had during a 1 month run. Typically the first few months of a relationship is a feeling out process and doesn't really involve the quirks and qualms of a long term relationship. Thus, with my assumption in mind I would ask that you be honest with yourself about the terms of the past relationship, ask yourself hard questions and critically analyze the real reasons for the first breakup, not the petty excuses that one another give.
For all intents and purposes a 1 month relationship followed by a year without seeing someone isn't a relationship to begin with so it doesn't really classify itself under the typical 'don't date ex's' clause. However, as previously stated I don't think you're being completely honest or forthright with the information that would be necessary to make such a decision.
I failed to mention, he and I actually met through MySpace. then we were able to hit it off. and yeah you're right, that "work things out" did have its problem because when I was with him, he had a gf. I know right?! so then thinking I did the most incredibly stupid decision considering him my boyfriend when I'm his "girl on the side". and he told me straight up about it. but he was going to break it off with her anyway, which he did. so yeah, you're right on my question on how I even considered him - 2 months ago
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Ok then you know your answer already. If he has a "girl on the side" and he has to "break it off" with someone else in order to be with you then he's shown himself willing and capable to do that to you as well. He's not someone that you want to be with and you know this. You're going to be a nurse, you're intelligent, probably attractive and don't need to end up in this type of relationship if you're considering the long term. You will end up being the one he "breaks it off with" in the futu - 2 months ago
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