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Can a drunken hook-up become a relationship?

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Anonymous User (Age:18 to 24)     When: 2 months ago
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I met this really attractive guy through my friends a few months ago, but was talking to someone at the time so, I wasn't really interested in anything but, friendship. I ended up running into him a month or so after meeting him, and ended up giving him my number as I was no longer talking anyone. We went out once, and it was perfect. I was definitely starting to like him, and really wanted to get to know him more. However, a few days later, we went camping for the night, and ended up drunkenly hooking-up. I know I slept with him way too early, and I'm really not impressed with myself. So, I'm hoping to get some feedback, and advice from people. Do you think there's a chance of this drunken hook-up becoming a relationship? Or, did I blow it? If you think there is a chance of us having a relationship, then how should I approach the situation?


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nymphoman
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nymphoman      When: 2 months ago
Don't know, time will tell.
Sorry to not sound so helpful but it can go either way, if your both single then you had drunk sex and so long as your both fine with that then what's done is done and he is lucky you aren't one of those that regret it and call it rape (yes theirs many men doing time for regret sex falsely called rape).
I think you should just ask him out, what's to lose?
I don't think you blew it, I am pretty certain the drunken night of lust sex will have been a pretty decent experience for him, girls should know that screwing a guy isn't blowing a chance as we male types tend to like that side of things, at worse he may have thought you came on a little quick (not for him, just incase you are like that with a lot of guys) but in the longrun I wouldn't stress about that night, just make a date, enjoy yourself and tell him you need to ask him something that he might find awkward to talk about, ask him if he regretted the night in the tent, based on his answer will be your natural cue to swerve the conversation into asking him out or saying you appreciate him still being your friend and that you enjoy his company,
Good luck.
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davyjones
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davyjones      When: 2 months ago
it ain't a black and white one. tell him he owes you a date. if he does its good if not f*** him[sorry I mean DONT f*** him]. but ultimately good sex breeds liking. your value ain't as closely related to sex as much as it is personal ownership. yu had a good time, next time you might be with someone else or not interested. you own your body, he owns his. your a beautiful wildflower, he held you but he don't possess you. let him know that sh*t too.
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Tech21
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Tech21      When: 2 months ago
you did not blow it don't worry just make sure you let him know you like him and won't have sex again until you to are togther
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DrJones
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DrJones      When: 2 months ago
Yes, drunken hook-ups can become relationships. They usually don't, but it's certainly possible. I dated a drunk hook-up for a year. We're not still together, but it was one of the best relationships I've had, we still talk to each other sometimes, and she's one of the most important people in the world to me.

Don't worry about it too much! It'll work out or it won't, but I don't think you missed your chance and you certainly didn't do anything wrong or unethical. Some guys will freak out and act like you've committed some kind of crime by sleeping with them, but smart guys don't act like that.

Either way, at least you got a drunken hook-up. If it's really bothering you or you think you made an inaccurate first impression, maybe it's a good idea to mention to him that you don't usually sleep with someone that soon after meeting him. Also if you feel like boosting his ego, tell him "but you're a special case," or something like that :)
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Anonymous User      When: 2 months ago
definitely you blew it up...but c thrs a chance of a relationship... 1st of al you must know thru ur common frnds tat wats his feeling bout u...
n from ur post it is certain tat you are liking tat guy,

c thr are 2 cases:1.he is in touch with u...2nd he is not...

2nd case...if he is not in touch then ofcourse he does not want any further interference from ur side...*no offence*

1st case...he is in touch with u...

again 2 parts to it...he wants to sleep with you again...enjoy the moment...wat not can happen in this?

or he really likes you also...

so jsut get da help of ur frnds and check out wats his feelings...n then plan accordingly...
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paintballguy
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paintballguy      When: 2 months ago
Yes it can turn in a good relationship. The saying Sex too soon is bad is not set in stone. You two are the ones that decide if it is too soon. There is no time table of when it is no longer too soon. Just because it was drunkin sex doesn't mean it was too soon either. I think personally that I wouldn't want my first sexual experience with a possible relationship girl to be drunk sex, but that doesn't make it bad.

You don't really have to approach it. Just be normal and do what you would normally do. Most people think that after they have sex they can't be their selves around each other. I know the first time for me I felt different around them at first, but I was thinking "OMG...she seen me naked. What is she going to say when I see her?" lol. When she looked at me and smiled soon after my mind was running wild about what she was thinking, but everything got back to normal thou.

Is he acting any different around you? Is he avoiding you? Is he wanting to have sex all the time now?
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wally      When: 2 months ago
Dont have sex with him till he date you for a while its your best bet.
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donche      When: 2 months ago
First of all, don't make the situation weird, and try not to feel ashamed of yourself for doing it. It happens to everyone. There is no such thing as "too soon", because YOU are the one who decides what's right for you. Not what society or anyone else tries to push onto you. You have to just act as though it's not weird, don't make it into something awkward and show that you're mature enough to not overreact to something like this. If he likes you, then you'll be good to go. You can still have a relationship after a drunken hookup, it happens all the time. But it requires that you both be interested and it requires the same things a not-so-drunken-hookup-having relationship requires: attraction, comfort, trust, respect, etc.
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WeaponZero      When: 2 months ago
My ex-girlfriend Heather cheated on me with a guy she met at a bar. She got really smashed and went home with a guy she didn't know. They kept the affair going after and when I found out and dumped her they officially got together. From what I understand they were together for something like four years before they broke up.
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drSkabs Damn that's messed up, but whatever you do don't convince yourself that all girls will do that. then ull end up cold hearted! :( - 2 months ago
 

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Anonymous User      When: A month ago
Yes I think drunken hook-ups can turn into relationships. My cousin and her boyfriend of four years now was how they hooked up. Its not like the first time you met each other you hopped in the sac. good luck.
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Tamikaze
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Tamikaze      When: 2 months ago
All you can do is wait it out and see what happens. Either he will be calling to date you or he will be turning you into booty call. If he starts calling just to hookup or "hangout" and he doesn't have much to say in between and doesn't ask you to go out or to eventually meet important people in his life, like his friends and family, well you will have your answer.

Sleeping together too soon is a problem in that it does not give you enough time to tell whether a guy is really in to you or just looking for a sexual thing. The longer a guy goes in taking you out, talking and getting to know you, the higher the chance is that he wants a relationship and he really enjoys you beyond a sexual attraction.
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drSkabs
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drSkabs      When: 2 months ago
you didn't blow it. just keep talking to him, don't let things get too awkward and if he asks about it just tell him you are sorry if he got the wrong impression the night you guys hooked up, and that you want to know him personally better before you do anything like that again. I would just be casual about it, don't stress over it too much, its already happened so you can't change it, but you can make it better. :) goodluck
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EatPineapple      When: 2 months ago
Yes, there is definitely a chance of building a relationship with him. Keep hanging out with him, do not lose touch. However, when you are with him, do not be easy. Let him understand that it was because you were drunk, and that is the only reason you slept together. Let him know you are serious about him and like him more than sex with him.
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