So my boyfriend cheated on me with this girl he used to work with who's married with three small kids. Btw. He claimed he didn't really want kids anymore so he could focus on his career.
I've met the girl before and she even came and hung out with us a few times over the past two summers. She was always so nice to me and told me how cool I was and how me and my boyfriend were so cute together and perfect for each other only to find out that the two of them have been having a relationship going on behind my back for god knows how long. Our once happy relationship was ruined by this and we broke up 3 weeks ago and haven't spoken since. He's mad I looked in his cell phone for clues to his odd behavior. I had never looked through his messages before because I had no reason to believe he was up to something. I always respected his privacy but it seemed like the only way for me to get some answers.
Why would a girl do that to another girl especially if she already has a husband and kids at home? Why steal another girls boyfriend whom she adored and loved?
Remember it takes two. To answer your question, she didn't care about you, just herself, just as he did. Maybe she wasn't getting attention at home, but is no excuse to ruin your happiness. She saw something she wanted and he was willing. I would've wondered why you allowed another woman he worked with come over. That seems to invite trouble. Sorry about what happened though. Being a victim of unfaithful love is heartbreaking.
I never let her come over. She actually invited us to her hillbilly wedding reception bonfire at her house in the summer of 2006. Last summer for a charity event a friend of mines animal rescue group got to man the beer truck and we needed volunteers to take tokens and pour and serve the beer. I asked my boyfriend to ask around the office to see if anyone wanted to volunteer because you got free booze all night. Only one person volunteered. Her. I was just blind. I admit it. Too trusting too - 5 months ago
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Well, not everyone is the same, but I agree, love is blind. Don't let it affect your future love life, not everyone is going to hurt you like that. - 5 months ago
Seems like you are blaming the other girl as much or more than you are blaming your cheating ex-bf. The other girl acted very badly, I agree, but the ones she really betrayed are her husband and three kids. As for you, you were betrayed, big time, by your ex boyfriend. Focus your anger on him, not her. And forget about feeling one bit of guilt for looking at his cellphone messages. You were obviously right to be suspicious. He is in NO POSITION to complain, given what you found out.
Ya I did some digging and have her husbands cell phone number so he may be getting an anonymous phone call in the near future telling him to check out his wifes cell phone messages. As for my ex, I am more angry at him. There is no excuse for behavior like this. - 5 months ago
Some people just don't have any regards for people's feelings. And that's sad. She was probably motivated by her own selfish desires, perhaps she's bored in her marriage, or found your boyfriend attractive. Bottom line is, you knew her and she did something completely inappropriate. Perhaps there's reason to her so called "logic" that you will never know, because your not going through her head. As for him, steer clear. Stay away from him, he completely lied to you and to make matters worse, he introduced you to the girl. This must be tough what your going through right now. I've been there before and its not easy. When this happens, there are two things I tell myself. 1. To breathe, take it one day at a time and eventually the hurt will subside. 2. To look at the situation as positively as possible. Now you know the type of a**hole you were dealing with. Its better to have found out so you are able to rid the negativity out of your life than to not know, and keep him around. Just keep positive and realize it has nothing to do with you. Some people are just jerks. With this guy gone, it opens the door to many postive things and experiences coming your way. Say Good Riddance!
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
Dinner, drinks and lots of good conversation. We'd talk about our sexuality and what we're looking for. What we've enjoyed and what we want to try. If all goes well we'd go back to her place and experiment.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
That I'm honest, sincere, not going to lie to get her into bed, or lie to keep her out of it.
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