Get over cheating

Move on from him, once a cheater always a cheater. He caused you an emotional scar and its unfair. I know how it feels and no one should be through it. If he has the nerv to cheat, he's not worth your time. So many other people better out there. Why limit your self. I know how you feel. Stabbed and left to bleed just to watch what took place every time you close your eyes. To better your self move on, buy some clothes and hit the town with your friends. Be a tough two weeks but the rewards should be worth it.

You are right, the person it is affecting/hurting most is you. Even if you let your Boyfriend go, broke up, you would not feel much better. Cheating is something that happens, and it is not right for someone to hurt you that way. But it also is going to be a rough life for you overall if you can not learn to forgive.

First, I believe sex to be a body function, but since society (the church) has tied it to our moral character, we have become animals if we decide to act on an impulse. There are so many things that can better test whether a guy is a good guy than whether he can control that urge.

But the real issue is you. If you can not let it go, you have to let him go. If you can not trust the next guy, then you will need to get some professional help. I am sorry you are hurting. But take a look around and ask yourself why this issue is so large in your mind? It will help you come to grips with the fact that you are not the only one dealing with this same issue.

Good Luck,
James

Has he been faithful since? If you accepted his apology, he's established his remorse, and reaffirmed his committment, then you are the one that needs to adjust your thinking...

Everytime you have a negative thought, change directions and think about something nice he's done for you recently. Lead your brain and your heart will follow.

Maybe it is time to really sit down and consider where you are heading, you are still young and have lots of opportunities to start afresh with a new boyfriend because it seems you can't forget even if you have forgiven.
The damage was done, you gave it a brave try but it isn't working and you now need to consider either getting over it or moving on before you waste more time bottling it all up which is inevitably going to blow up one day.

I would suggest you try seeking professional help, they may be able to guide you through a healing process. Or, it may just be a lost cause and you'll never recover as long as you're with the cheater.

i know exactly how you feel my boyfirend has cheated 13 times and got another girl pregnant! you should sit him down and talk to him ... tell him that you don't mean to bring up how he cheated but you don't know what to do ... tell him you are still upset and you need him to comfort you ... make sure you let him know that what he did wasn't ok ... I made the mistake of rewarding my boyfirend because I was scared he was gonna leave me ... and he kept cheating on me ... just let him no that he did wrong and if he does it again kick him to the curb trust me ... he won't stop if he does it twice and you don't want to live with that ... good luck!

I completely agree with Nymphoman. I really don't think that it's right of you to be beating yourself up over this when it was his downfall. He decided to be unfaithful, and you really shouldn't have to live with his mistakes. His infidelity not only hurt you, but put a serious hole in your relationship.

You have to ask yourself if you think that this issue will every truly, 100% disappear or if it will always be a lingering issue for you. If you can't say that it will not haunt you forever then maybe it's time that you sever ties with the situation?

Who's to say it won't happen again.

But if you really want to tough it out a little longer, come clean with him about how you're feeling about it and talk to him about every little detail. He needs to understand how much he hurt you. Most of all, he needs to understand the long term impact that he has had on you because unless he sees how much you're hurting and understands it, you'll never get anywhere with the issue.

Stay strong, girl :)

sweety wheter she's in ur life or not this is never gonna let you go & as hard as it may be you gotta leave him...but if he's worth the mind pain then stay...ive been in a similiar situation..the guy didn't play me but it was worse because I didn't kno..at least you kne what he did and you can make ur own choices but I was going crazy over this relly pretty girl..buggin out always lookin at her pics and wishin I was pretty like that just because I thought he liked her...this problem ain't never EVER gonna leave u...u gotta leave him or go to a psychoilogist...ive been to one and they help theyr mad cool

ask yourself these questions
why has it been more horrible then recently?
how is he acting now, and do I feel like it won't happen again?

if you're sure he won't cheat and hasn't since then, then you just need to talk to him and a psychologist. tell him what you need to feel secure and sure that it's not gonna happen again.

I think the only way you can get over it is by him reassuring you about where you stand and how he feels about you. The thought and image of this girl is haunting you because you feel that he is attracted to her type, and in the back of your head you're afraid he will do it again. If not that, you are just haunted by whatever it is he shared with this girl. So the only thing that would REALLY help you is HIM. Let him know how you feel, and ask him to help you. You might have to bring it up over and over again.. you might need constant reassurance from him. If you don't warn him about it, or ask him.. then it will drive him nuts. It is better to explain to him what you are going thru first, so he understands why you are acting the way you are.
It's not easy for you, or him... but if you two decided to work thru it, then you have to work together as a team.

But don't beat yourself up for how you're feeling. It is totally normal. I know what you are going thru, and it's really not easy. Normally when someone cheats, the relationship is broken, and will never go back to how it was. UNLESS they can both forgive, forget, and move on from it. It's not easy but if they both agree to work on it, then it is possible.

Anyways, you can't do this alone.. and WE can't help you. But your boyfriend can. So talk to him ok?good luck :)

well he cheated on you... and I'm guessing it must have been something real bad... so why are you still with him. leave him. if he cheated on you...and its making you feel this bad... you should just up and leave. it may be hard.

yeah my ex boyfriend did that too. to this day I don't trust guys and I haven't stopped hating him and it's the way I deal with it. I know we're taught to forgive and forget, unfortunately I can't forget and karma-what goes around comes around-some day my ex and your ex will be crying when they're bald ugly and 40 in some bar by themselves divorced and miserable. just find someone else and take care of yourself. I pamper myself all the time and it helps. I also don't talk to people who hurt me or people who put me down or people who remind me of my ex. I just think of all the negative things about my ex's and just say 'i'm grateful I didn't end up with that douchebag' and that's how you get over it. you got to be tough whether or not you want to. I've fallen and I've gotten back up. allr elationships have their ups and downs, good and bad stuff.the main thing is you pick yourself up and keep going forward, improving yourself, taking care of yourself, eventually when you can be happy, think about other things, you'll be alright. I admit that their are still triggers that make me cry because my relationship with this crappy ex boyfriend led me to go through depression, but the thing is once you get busier and you think more positively, it heals. I didn't find it helpful to talk to guys much for some reason, my closest friends are girls.

Honestly, you are going to hurt for a while, and it may never go completely away. It's just as much his fault as it was hers, even more if she didn't know he was with you. I think that not being with him would help, because obviously all of that trust isn't there anymore, and your relationship isn't the same. I also agree with wanacot,a professional might be able to help you, if nothing else, at least talk out exactly why you feel the way you do.

To me it sounds like a fresh start may be best. Can you imagine living without him? If yes, free yourself from him and the demons he brings with him.