I dated this lady for about 3 years. She was caring, thoughtful, and committed to honesty (at least she asked for a lot). Everything was great and we had high expectations for the future. Then one day she stopped calling, texting, and never answered her phone. Finally she said she needed space to herself and that she was confused. I gave her the space she asked for, 4 months to be precise, when later I found out she had been hanging with friends (both girls and guys), and even some past love interests. Now I know what "needs space" means, so I accepted it and move on despite being greatly hurt. Yesterday she called and me to meet her for coffee. We met, and spent a few hours talking and catching up. She said she still loved me, but was not ready to jump back it and she wanted to meet up again, maybe next week. Now I'm confused because she still saying that she need space, but still wants to meet. When I ask for her intentions, she can't give me a straight answer. When I ask about things that happened while I was away, she lies or gives vague answers if any at all. I still love this lady, but I feel hurt and betrayed by her actions. I want to be with her, but I don't know if I can trust her or if she even intends to get together again.
This woman wants stability (the idea of being loved and monogamous) in the near future. But not right now. Why do most women say they want committment, and then realize they do not? The MILLION DOLLAR question! Well, unfortunately, pressures from society. Magazines like Cosmo, and Glamour, mothers, grandmothers, aunts, sisters, brides, and best friends in general are always pressuring women to settle down by the time they're in their late twenties. So women get caught up in the 'idea of settling down,' and not ' settling down with the 'ideal partner.' You see the difference. I think she wants to avoid making that mistake. She loves you, but wants to keep her options open. This means that she is still evolving and growing. She has to reach that maturity level of self-realization. Knowing who she is and what she wants. I know this may be difficult for you, because you love her so much...but you have to let her go. Don't choose her. Let her choose you when she's ready! If its meant to be, then it will happen.
Sounds like she still wants you as an option to consider because either her "space" made her realize how good you are or she can't make up her mind between you and other guys. Either way, be careful because she's probably in it for herself and will have no problem dumping you again if she wants someone other than you. I'd move on if I were you and find someone that was committed to you.
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