How do you break up after 5 years and have a new boyfriend in three months? What gives

People change when they break up. Not having you around anymore allowed her to find herself. Yeah, she hated sororities when you were together, something must have changed her mind. I did a total 360 change when I broke up with my man after 4 years. I spent so long caring more about him than I did about myself. When he was taken out of the picture I was able to find myself. EVERYTHING changed from how I thought, how I felt, what I believed, EVERYTHING. And I had a new man a month and a half after I left him. Granted this guy just turned out to be a rebound but that doesn't mean it had to. It just did because of who I started dating. When she changed so did what she wants in a man. Which made getting over you easier. She may not be totally over you, but she is enough to care for someone else. The man I am getting ready to marry, I got with him five months after the break off of my 4 year relationship. We've been together ever since and I haven't even thought about missing my ex. It might be hard for you to understand, but I think your biggest issue isn't understanding, it's dealing with it. It bothers you that she got over it faster than you. It bothers you that you still care and she doesn't. Just because it was fast doesn't mean it was shady, she didn't have to cheat on you to move on so quickly. I think you are just trying to make yourself feel better. Let her go, and move on for yourself. You'll be surprised that you'll find someone else to make you happy.

Maybe she trying to get over you, and this is easiest way. This guy may be a rebound, or she may be ready for a new relationship. Were you happy the last six months of your relationship? Many people who end their relationship were ready to end the relationship months before doing so. They are then ready to start a new relationship soon after ending the previous one.

Try dating and keeping yourself busy.

i see where your comming from but don't be so bitter towards her. She is just hurt and wanting to get over it. did you break up with her? maybe she just wants to be a different person or actually found someone else.

She's just confused man. It sounds like she is still pretty young. She probably wants to be young and go crazy after being in a long term relationship for so long. She's going to date, go crazy then come to a point where she realized what she had and either contact you or go looking for another long term relationship.

I doubt she's fully over what happened either way and it's going to hurt her new relationship. She's probably with him partly to block you and your relationship out her mind. Nobody can get over and move on that quickly.

My girl, after 2 years in a serious relationship is still single as far as I know, but her method was to simply cut me off completely. Wouldn't talk to me during the break up, tell me what happened, nothing. She started getting mad when I tried, so I gave up. She acts like she's fine, but I guarantee she misses me and is hurting.

this stuff happens , I remembr last summer I meet this girl I really liked and she had just got out of a similar long relationship but she was out there meeting new people and we almost started to date until things went bad , well that's a long story but my point is girls fresh out of long relationships with 1 single guy do get out there and start dating new guys , it happens and they likely enjoy being able to meet and date some new people after being with just one guy there whole life .
my advice to you is to get out there as well and start meeting some new girls .