Girlfriend with a history of lying, claims to have changed

In my past relation with my ex... he lied constantly... and cheated... my mother ALWAYS TOLD ME THE TWO MORALS GO HAND IN HAND... once the trust is BROKEN... basically it is the HARDEST thing to get back... and you DOUBT EVERYTHING... and I can relate to EVERY SINGLE WORD YOU ARE SAYING... I do NOT doubt that she loves you... I am sure she does... I am also sure that she wants to change... but the possibilty of her changing is slim... and you getting full trust again is going to take a lot of time... and alot... a lot of work on her part... EVERYONE DESERVES A SECOND CHANCE... but firstly you need to sit down and analyze your feelings and where/what you want... do you love her enough that you are willing to allow her to prove that she has changed? If you do you need to set limitations... if this happens again you can't do it a third time... get what I am saying? and thirdly... and sit down and explain that actions speak louder than words...just saying I love you doesn't make it ok... there has been a lot of hurt... and now it has to be worked on and time will heal the wounds and with time it will be ok... she has to see that just saying I am sorry doesn't make it ok else you would be just a push over and she can keep doing it knowing you are ok with just I am sorry and I love you... get where I am going? As for the trust... there is no easy way... time... time ... time... and her being HONEST... which as I can see doesn't come easily... but hopefully she is serious this time and means well... last but not least... set boundries... if you do not like the flirting online... she should respect that... and put an end to that... and truly if she loves you... there is NO NEED FOR THAT... AND IN RESPECT TO YOU... DO NOT DO IT... if you wish that... make it clear... relationships are 50/50... if you are getting less then that or putting in more than that... there is clearly something wrong... and you need to look within and do some inner searching... I wish you all the best... and with all of this... things will get better I am sure... just keep one thing in mind... in LOVE... your partner deserves 50 percent of you... and you deserve 50 percent of your partner... if you or your partner has to give or receive any less then it is not meant to be... and they are not worth you or visa versa... HONESTY IS ALWAYS THE BEST POLICY! GOOD LUCK!

Do you know the case of the mother in Florida who is accused of murdering her child? Your description reminds me of what I thought of that person. I ask because this type of personality and behavior is not just chalked up to be "immature" - it's also narcisitic and borderline personality...look those up and see if she's a lot like them. If the answer is yes - then you should not invest any more time trying to figure it out - you should consider it a blessing that you didn't waste any more time with this totally self-centered person.

If a person is unable to express and be confident of themselves on their own - but it always changing their behavior and answers based on who they are talking to...then it is no a genuine relationship to begin with.

I am sorry, I used to date an impulsive liar. It doesn't change. And some people use the word love as a leash. but, if someone loved you they wouldn't hurt you like that or they would let you go. I say move on.

Act on what your instinct is saying because our bodies are well informed of what's happening than our brains.

As you came here and heed for advice, it simply means you don't trust her enough. Why waste time with her? If you're going to just dawdle time then fine, go along and waste it. But giving your heart away is a different thing. Just because she says she loves you doesn't prove anything.

She goes on the internet and "flirt". That's basically philandering which means she's not contented with what she has.. AKA You.

Okay, this story doesn’t make any sense? What is it exactly that she’s lying about? You say she isn’t cheating on you or whatever… What are you so concerned about? What dose she have to change? What difference does it make what her friends claim? They are not in the relationship, so how the hell do they know if she actually loves you or not? I don’t think it really matters what her friends tell you. Sounds like you’re trying to sniff her out or something. I mean you claim you guys have been only dating since the end of July. Soooo you guys haven’t even been together for two months. If you already have trust issues with her, this sounds to me like a beginning to an end. If you don’t trust the broad, lose her. Clearly, she is a little crazy anyways, who wants to be in that type of “long term relationship” anyways?

CLING EEEEEEE

Saying you "Love" someone doesn't make up for anything. People often use love as an eraser for their mistakes. "Oh, I lied and cheated on you, but I love you!" see it doesn't work.
She seems like a natural liar and there isn't anything you can do about it. Her problems with lying can't be fixed in a day, so her claims of reforming her ways are utter B.S.
Move on fast and find someone better.

Keep it in perspective that this is a chick that tells lies for attention. If you bring her some flowers you will be suprised at what she will do...she is an attention hound. Show her some and she won't know what lie to think of next..

A lot of people could solve thier own predicaments if they would read a few days later what they put down in their questions.
I'm going to say this with as much heart and as few words as possible to give you my God honest-est answer. Ok? Here it is...>ahem<...

LEAVE THAT BITCH!


I say it like that because I was MARRIED to a female like yours! She will NOT change. She needs help. Serious psychological help. You are in for the worst time of your life if you continue to keep this girl in your life.
The signs are there. The biggest one you should have picked up on was when her girlfriends' were surpised she told you you were special to her.
Her family was glad to see you because they are hoping you are able to take that Headcase off thier hands by marrying her. They want her to be someone else's problem anyway possible.
Don't believe the hype. You being her first official boyfriend will not make her change.
She may not call you a Sucker, but I'll bet diamonds against duck-sh*t she feels you are special kind of Sucker.
Dude, get away from her. She's nothing but trouble.
Nuff said.

Or she may have slept with 10 guys, cheated on 4 of them and cheat on you too.
Who knows with liars, I have changed may be another lie.
Depends if you want to take the risk, people are different on what they will take a chance on, I aren't one of them, I would rather have brutal honesty even if it hurts my feelings than be messed around with and if she is a habitual liar then that's a chance I wouldn't personally take.
But then that's me, not you.

I think it would be best to tell her she needs to quit lying or she will be the cause of the breakup. if the doen't stop then she is either a compulsive lier of some sort or doesn't truly love you, but from what you've said I think she just gets some sort of rush out of making up stories

its very simple, if your around her, other people will assume your as bad as her. no woman is worth destroying your good name