Okay well last night I told my boyfriend of almost one month that I cheated on him two weeks ago. He is still willing to keep this but I still feel like sh*t. I don't want sympathy so don't think that's why I'm writing this I want advice. Well we had school today and we sat together in the morning waiting to be let in the halls, well I started to tear up because he looked so disappointed in me. So I just got away as soon as the bell rung. Then I cried to my favorite teacher during homeroom and she helped. Then I would cry whenever I walked to other classes. I held myself together in 5th even tho his best friend was trashing me loud enough for everyone to hear in class. I cried in 6th then at the end of that period we started talking. He walked me to 7th and we kissed, then he walked me to my bus and we had a good five minute kiss. I said sorry through out the day. So here are my questions after telling you the story; How can I gain back his trust, cause he said I lost some but I still have most of it. How can I make sure we have a healthy relationship from here on out. Please share with me some of your experiences. I'd be awfully grateful for all your help.(: Thank you.
Its just going to take some time. Fastest way is always keep him in the know of what you are doing and never do anything off that. Make sure you know it was a huge mistake and you know what you have in him and you don't want to lose him. I what kinda cheating was it? What did you do?
I kissed another guy. Wasn't makeout just kiss. But none the less it was a kiss. So it wasn't majorly bad, but still bad. Thanks for the advice. - A month ago
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Just a kiss? That's not a big deal. He will get over it he is just upset right now but just a kiss is not that big of a deal. Stop punishing yourself everyone slips up sooner or later in life at least you didn't slip up any worse then that. Your 16 its not time to worry about this. Your still way to young to beat yourself up about a relationship. - A month ago
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Thank you so much. This really helps. That's how I looked at it; I'm 16, still young, still going to make mistakes. But it's just everyone is saying things to make me feel horrible about it. I guess as long as I'm still with him and he still cares I just need to ignore everyone elses input. Thank you so much, this really helped(: - A month ago
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No problem if you ever need more help just hit me up. - A month ago
My first real relationship of two years was ended because she cheated. This was a girl I grew up with; friends for years previous to any romantic engagements. It was only one time but it really doesn't matter. Some people say trust needs to be earned. I don’t work like that. I give you the trust from the start, what you do with it is up to you, but once you've lost it you can never get it back.
If you allow your partner to get away with cheating there is nothing stopping them from repeating the mistake a second time. It's on the top 10 list of why people cheat... because they have previously been allowed to get away with it.
You're 16 and already cheating. What will become of you in the future? (rhetorical question).
Yes that is your opinion. It was a mistake, exactly I'm 16. I'm going to make mistakes and I'm going to learn from them. I'm still young and still learning. If I was with him for two years I'd learn not to cheat but it was one in a half weeks, so we weren't as far in as you and your girl. So it's kinda different. Thanks for the story tho. - A month ago
I honestly see your opinion on here all the time and I can't for the life of me figure out where you come of with this advice seriously. You obviously don't have the life experience you think you have to give out bad advice your the type of person that convinced me I need to get on this site. - A month ago
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NoMoreBadAdvice,
That is your opinion, which I find ironic because you've complimented me on previous posts. If you don't agree with what I'm saying that's perfectly fine. Everyone has an opinion and to be honest many are not worth the pixels there displayed on. Please try and show some self restraint by keeping your half ass comments to yourself. I always put at the end of my posts "MY opinion, not yours", you should try it sometime. - A month ago
Well your best bet is never cheating again, you're lucky your boyfriend is so forgiving, most people would give you the boot, hard. I'd be grateful as hell if I were you. I'd worship the ground he walks on.
I am grateful. I'm not going to kiss his ass just because he didn't break up with me. But I'll be more loving and not be so mean like I used to be. but thank you for your advice. - A month ago
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But he deserves the ass kissing, and you deserve to give it. - A month ago
It was just a kiss and the relationship is way too new. Although yeah you shouldn't have been mean in the first place. Don't kiss his ass. Just show him you be trustworthy. - A month ago
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I hope I'm never in the situation that I'm dating a guy who thinks "it was just a kiss" even if the relationship was new. The thought seriously disturbs me that anyone is remotely tolerant of cheating. How you could ever have a girlfriend cheat on you in any manner and not believe that you are deserving of some ass kissing for keeping her I cannot understand. - A month ago
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Cause if you want the guy to walk all over you that's what YOU want. But I'll show him more love but I'll keep my dignity and not looks desperate. I am more then grateful he choose to stay with me. It just shows that he's being mature about all of this. You may be older then me but you have your own thoughts and I have mine. You can do whatever you want, but I'm not downgrading myself to buttkissing. I know cheating is downgrading but we got through that, - A month ago
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You know what is worse than degrading yourself to butt kissing? Degrading yourself to cheating. You can only go up! And YOU were the one to walk all over him, he's the NICE one in this situation, don't confuse yourself. - A month ago
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I will never degrade myself to butt kissing because I will never do anything so bad to deserve it. I think cheaters deserve far far worse punishment. And that's where we differ, and that's what's wrong with the world. That people can accept this bullsh*t as a forgivable indiscretion. - A month ago
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First off your not seeing anything here. Did I say cheating is easily forgivable ? NO, but my boyfriend can look past it cause he believes me when I say I am truly sorry for it and it won't happen again and if it does, which it won't but I don't believe in never, then I'll be gone. Watch you will cheat and want him to take you back, but your guy won't be forgiving like mine and you'll wish he was, cause buttkissing won't get YOU anywhere - A month ago
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First off, I will NEVER cheat. Secondly, if I did, I hope to get what I deserve and get my ass dumped, or else I'll leave myself. - A month ago
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