Two girls and one me…What do I do?

sometimes unlikely situations work out. I would come clean to girl 1 as soon as possible, you don't have to mention your feelings about girl 2, because girl 2 really doesn't have anything to do with you not wanting to be with girl 1.
then, just go with the flow, if they both still want to be friends with you, then continue your friendships, and possibly the friendship with girl 2 may develop into something more. but there is really no hurry. if you can maintain a friendship with girl 2 without turning it into a relationship right away, that would probably be best, I mean, look how it turned out when you didn't wait.

Yes just say you don't think your ready for a relationship say you have a lot on your mind and girls only make your mind scatter. Say you still would like to be good friends with them that way you could be friends with them and still maybe get a little action too. Girls will be girls and guys will be guys.

I admire you for at least admitting you didn't exactly do the right thing here. Takes a real person to realize that.

Anyways...the friendship is really out of your hands. It's up to them to decide on what they want to do with it. That's really all I can tell you as I don't know the least bit about these girls' personalities. I just hope everything works out for the best for all of you.

What do you do? well, you pay the bill, man! I messed with guys and that turned out really nasty, and I deserved every single tear I cried... and I cried a lot. But in the end, it made me a better person. So be a man, take the punch and learn from it.

Threesome?

No,not unless you want to ruin both of thier friendship! you can absolutely not like a girl and then like her best friend and then all of a sudden say that you want to be friends with both of them. I say you decide and clearly think (and think ) about what girl you'd much rather be friends with ,because you just can't be friends with both fo them itll cause problems for them. I say just pick one girl and be "just" friends with her.That way even if stuff ends up happening between you it won't affect the other chick!

I fail to see where you are "not ready for a relationship". The thing is, you are young- as am I.
Dont tie yourself down just yet; speaking of this situation individually here's my advice.

Girl 1: Sweet or not, she isn't what your looking for. Simply put trying to get her physically but not emotionally rarely works, and if it does- she will come ranting towards you like a vulture to raw meat. Separate your life from the problem in the picture, but respectfully. Have some taste about the situation to depict what to say and what not to say to ease the pain of "letting you go" from her situation.

Girl 2: As normally I would oppose dating her friend, you do find her very depth-full. This makes for a sticky situation because #1 she could be testing your faithful-ness to her friend, thus "playing an act" or #2 Girl 1 will become more powerful as girl 2 barely knows you, making it hard to date her.


In order to further experiment, primarily you must know what you want. Are you really ready to sit down and commit? or is "playing the field" a better option merely to identify yourself? I don't think you should "play the field" but if you were to call it, for lack of a better term, "flirting with aquaintances" then I would approve more-so of your motives. Make it known that you don't want a relationship but instead that you really like her depth (be clear on that) and mention up-front that you are attracted to her but would like to socialize more rather than jumping into a comittment - ANY GIRL would appreciate that as a piece of truth.

In the end, stop playing girl 1. I'm sorry to say it but you know you are. Additionally I'm not trying to be rude but just give you my advice. I really hope everything works out and I thank you for reading my response.


Best Regards,
~ArtistBBoy

P.s. to my fellow followers it has been a while and I will check in periodically to write answers only. :)

Short answer: You're screwed. Sorry.

Wen you meet a girl, you try to get her friends on your good side, so they can help smooth the path. (Note to girls: if you want to meet a guy, meet him ALONE. Otherwise, there's an excellent chance he and your friends will hook up accidentally/on purpose/accidentally on purpose.)

There's a bankshot chance that this can work, but mark me: this his high risk, with poor odds. But sometimes lightning strikes.

Here's what you do: Keep dating girl 1. Keep it physical, keep it casual. Don't make her a girlfriend. In the meantime--and this will be the tricky bit--keep seeing girl 2, dropping lots of hints that you're purely physical with girl 1, and you want to spend time getting to know a girl with depth--like her.

How this works depends on how much girl 2 really likes you, and how brave she is. You're asking her to betray her friend, and if this works, prepare for girl 1 to go positively apesh*t. But, love is risk; if Ms. 2 is worth it, walk through some fire for her and prove it.

I can see how things might get awkward since both girls are friends, but dating more than one girl at a time is nothing to feel guilty for.

Did you tell Girl 1 that you're exclusive? Did you act exclusive? Unless you've been dating her for 6 months, there's no reason you can't date other women. There is no Unspoken understanding that Sex = Exclusive, so get that sh*t out of your head.

Where you MUST be careful is the overlap of these two girls.

You must never lie about one to the other.

Feeling guilty means you have crossed some boundary you've set for yourself, but I'm guessing that if you did some introspection that boundary isn't real. Perhaps somewhere in your body you feel it's wrong to date multiple girls, because it's some how like lying.

But it's not, unless you ARE lying.

I've dated up to 4 different girls at a time, while sleeping with two of them, and I had no feelings of guilt at all.

Know why? Because I didn't lie about it. I never pretended like I was exclusive with any of them... I was very clear up front about my intentions - "I'm single and dating with the expectation of finding that someone special. But sex does not equal exclusive."

Being open and honest will surprise you. It gives her the choice to continue dating you, or not. But she'll have no reason to feel tricked or angry if you've been upfront and open from the very beginning.

And is sounds like you're still at the beginning of these two friendships.

To simplify you can stop dating Girl 1?

If she asks why just explain that you think she's getting too attached to you, when you're not looking for that. She just might be fine with you dating other girls, because she's likely dating other guys.

You'd be surprised at how open women are to simple dating rules at the beginning, and why shouldn't they be? These girls don't mind dating multiple guys. All they expect is that you're honest about it up front.

Good luck and keep up posted!

~ Robby

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Okay try this. Honestly I envy you I'm a little scared to even get into that situation I mean talking to girls to go there BUT I do have an idea.

Tell the girl its not working out. Apologize and say it just doesn't feel like it usually would, compliment her and apologize DO NOT mention her friend lol because she's gonna hate her friend.

Before you do all this make sure you can get in touch with her friend and just ask how she's doing and what not. Try to work it out and talk with her then change the subject and get indepth like you usually do :). The rest will flow on its own just be smart it can get bad if you guys date too early. But its worse if you think of it too late.

"girl 1 thinks I’m the best thing since sliced bread even though I have never reciprocated the complement."

Oh you reciprocated the compliment alright pal. Multiple times in fact according to the info provided. I can tell you to be honest, but let's call a spade a spade: you won't be honest with these two. It appears that you are f***ed, and royally at that. But if this girl really is the , then just tell her you want to get to know her, and drop girl 1. That's all you can do, but because they are friends it might turn out splotchy.