I recently stumbled upon his myspace and brought it up to him. He said he'd only just gotten it and didn't tell me because he didn't think it was a big deal, after all it's "just myspace". And not only that but his cousin made it for him and he never checks it, she checks it for him. BULLSHIT. I asked him if he planned on adding me as his friend and he just kept saying myspace is the devil for relationships and if I'm getting upset over "this" then just imagine how upset I would get if I saw one of his friends' comments. I tried to let it go and see his point of view however it still really bothered me so I brought it up to him again, this time very upset because he seemed to just blow me off the first time. I told him it really bothered me that he didn't want me on there, after all if it's no big deal to him then why not? Also how is hiding his myspace from me and not adding me in the first place and making me this upset, so much better than if he had just added me to begin with. We finally came to an understanding, I would request him, he would add me-or-"tell his niece" to add me and he would get the password from her. SOOOO, should I be worried? He's never ever given me a reason not to trust him, and I do trust him.
It sounds like your boyfriend is doing some flirting with other girls that he is trying to hide from you. If he has not given you any reason to mistrust him otherwise, its probably harmless, and he's not cheating on you. I know exactly how you feel about this issue, though! It really touches a nerve with me, too! My girlfriend has a MySpace profile that is active, and she goes on it to meet and talk with "friends" constantly. Now, mind you, I trust her completely, and know that she is not in any way cheating on me. However, it really does bug me that she is talking to all of these friends online. A lot of them are guys! As I noted on another question that I answered here, I don't really believe that someone in a relationship should maintain an account on MySpace. Its something that doesn't seem right, when someone you love contacts and talks to strangers. Many strangers! Its not necessarily a dating site, but it still doesn't feel right to me. (Gee. Maybe I should have asked this question? Lol )
Well, it sounds pretty harmless. I mean, I've definitely never heard of a guy hiding anything from his girlfriend or being sketchy about talking to other girls or anything. But really, myspace isn't the devil for relationships, not being open and honest is. If he's got things on there that he doesn't want you to know about then that's the definition of being shady. Personally, if I had something that wasn't any sort of big deal to me and it was causing any kind of problem in my relationship then I wouldn't have any problem cutting it out. Maybe I take relationships too seriously? I just feel like I wouldn't be in one if I wasn't ready to cut out little things like flirting with internet girls or doing things on dumb little social websites that I would want to hide from my girlfriend.
Wow that's sketchy. But its prob. Harmless. I don't believe that shit about him not even checking it. Honestly the deal is prob nothing too horrible. He prob. Gets comments from old girlfriends and just didn't want you to see them. Which is pretty harmless.
He is obviously hiding something from you and doesn't want you to know. if I were you I would dump his ass. If he is going to do that to you why waist your time on him? He obviously isn't worth it!!
Just because he may have a myspace doesn't mean he was hiding it. He might have just forgotten about it but you shouldn't dump him, if you trust him completely, about one little thing he didn't tell you about. - 6 months ago
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But if you read it all it sounds like he is trying to avoid adding her. - 6 months ago
my boyfriend got a myspace behind my back like a while ago and lied about it so I erased I he said the reason he got on is because I never let him...
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I checked the history on my boyfriends computer (we live together). He has a facebook and gmail account I had no idea about. Should I be concerned?
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When: 6 months ago
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