Is there something wrong with me?

Awwww, sweetheart! Sending hugs your way!

Listen, don't compare yourself to other gals. That way madness and misery lies! Just because someone has a wedding ring on their finger doesn't mean that they're happy, or that their relationship is great. You don't know what's going on inside their marriage, or inside their head. Trust me, I was one half of a 'perfect' couple for 12 years. Our friends thought we were blissfully happy and that we'd be together forever. Actually, for the last 6 years, though I smiled in public, I was unhappy at home, dealing with all kinds of crap from my partner. Eventually I left the relationship, much to the shock and dismay of our friends. Don't trust appearances - the underlying realities can be very different! Plus, nowadays, with the prevalence of divorce, many people treat marriage as a temporary state of affairs, not something 'for life' (though they might not admit to it in public!) People leap into it very quickly, without much consideration, and half of them then leap out again!

Relationships can be hard work at times. There are good patches and there are bad patches in the best of them. You're not alone in suffering that. And I'm sure you don't have a bad or difficult personality. You're still really young - don't despair, or think there's something pathologically 'wrong' because you haven't found the right guy yet! Plenty of people these days are getting married in their 30s and 40s- you've got loads of time. It's good to be fussy, and to insist on a guy who makes you happy, rather than settling for just anyone you can tolerate!

However, it's also good to be introspective. Maybe think about your past relationships, and what went wrong. It might just be a matter of incompatibility - but have there also been patterns of behaviour, perhaps insecurities or underlying anger connected with things that have happened to you, that have made things more difficult. I am by no means suggesting that the breakdowns have been your fault - but none of us are perfect, and it's only by identifying our flaws that we can grow. But don't be paralyzed by the process or let it impact negatively on your self-esteem, and don't beat yourself up over your flaws . Accept that every one of us makes mistakes, and choose to take the a positive attitude of learning from them, rather than agonizing over spilt milk.

Finally, you sound like a bright, intelligent woman who is young and beautiful. You should enjoy just being you. You don't need a guy to complete you, or make your life perfect - you are wonderful, just as you are. Try to be open to life: whether you're single, dating, in a relationship of married, there are pleasures to each of those states. Of course, there are disadvantages to each of them too - but remember, you're bright and confident, and you can handle them! Enjoy every minute, because life is just too short not to!

is there something wrong with you ? no. your just not ready for it to happen.. you may feel like you are but life has decided otherwise... I thought I was one of thoes lucky people one who got everything young... but I was wrong... and now the game begins. some people end up in the situation you want to be in but its all in due time. some people just have to wait to find their partner and well my uncle was in his 40's till he finaly got married... my brother got married in his mid 30's to a woman in her 40's... so you never know when you might find that person so good luck and I wish you the best in the game called life..

Envying others is wrong if your going to start criticizing yourself. You also mentioned some slightly disturbing hints, "Who isn't even pretty". It's natural to want success and if we don't have it, to question what it is that we are doing "wrong". Looking at your situation, it's possible that you just have the darn luck of being a late boomer. I do think love is destined in your future, but it's going to happen at a time you probably least expect. Or probably least want. It's important to take care of yourself first, before thinking that having a successful relationships defines you. It doesn't. It only enhances it. The more you'll feel like your missing out, the more you'll waste your time drowning in sorrow and bitterness towards the others who have found love. So take pride in what you do have to offer, and stop worrying about what it is that you don't have. Sooner or later, you'll have what it is what you want.

As for dating guys only 30 minutes away, I think your severely limiting your chances of meeting good people. I don't think you literally date men only half an hour away, but if you have any rules, get rid of them. I'm not suggest dating online, no. But do date anyone that entices you and surprises you. Regardless of whether they live slightly far away or their background. Who knows, trying something different has never really been a wasted opportunity.

"What is wrong with me?"
"I am actually afraid of that kind of commitment."

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I am not gonna be as nice as other people who answered here.
"who isn't even pretty" "It's obviously not looks"
Things like these that you say clearly show that you are bitter and probably all about looks.
I've known girls and guys like you who talk this way. I'm not saying that they are bad people, but there's something about them that is a little...off.
You are saying that you're not comparing yourself, but you are.
"How can these girls get men to want to spend the rest of their lives with them, and I can't?"
This bitterness or whatever you call it shows right through, no matter how pretty your face is.
And it is not attractive, let me tell you.
Besides, if you're not ready to be in a committed relationship, then what do you care?
Love only happens when you're ready to offer it from your end.

*I'm not desperate to get married, I am actually afraid of that kind of commitment*

That might be the problem. These men that are marrying your friends are either a. really looking to get married b. following the trend that by a certain age you get married to the one you are with. There is nothing wrong with you at all. Are you happy with your current situation? Do you have a job you like and company? It's better that you don't settle for less then you think you deserve and it's better that someone you didn't want to marry hasn't asked you. They say the best things are worth waiting for and you will know when you meet the one. You can't compare yourself to these women or even worry about it. Nothing is guaranteed and they might not last a lifetime. You never know what goes on behind closed doors. When you meet the right person you will not be scared of that commitment, you will trust in them and it will be a natural thing. You don't have to struggle or work THAT hard with the right person. Even though relationships take work this just isn't so. Focus on making you happy and the right guy will come along. I'm not sure what kinds of guys you are dating or where you are meeting them. I would need that info too. Also long distance relationships are based on communication and trust, so if guys live 30 mins from you it is easier to get away with communicating less and seeing each other more. People who live far away are in a rush to move in together so they can spend more time. Hope this helped some.