we were going out for 7 or 8 months but he was going in and out of jail all the time an I had gotten tired of it. the most he would be out for would be for a week an the least was two days. so I broke up with him. six months passed he was back in jail and I honestly missed him. so I wrote to him. he is doing 3 years in prison an we are back together. I do love him but I feel like if I will have a bad future with him because he is a gang member. an there is one guy who I've been interested in for a year and now that he is single he is starting to talk to me an he even came to my pad in the night we hanged out for a while an we kissed. now I don't know who I should b with. I'm so confused. please if anybody could give me advice or help me I will really appreciate it!
you're headed for a bad life. people get stuck in "ruts" all the time. a boyfriend is supposed to take you out, make you feel special, be there for you, and vice versa. he's not going to be able to do any of that for you! once you start dating guys in jail and say its okay, you may begin to date "bad" guys like that all the time. you're under 18, you're not going to be with this guy forever, and if he keeps going back to jail and hasn't changed his ways yes, that isn't going to change either. you're wasting your youth on something that is soooo not worth you're time. and I promise you'll regret it. you're young ENJOY IT with guys that can treat you the way you're supposed to be treated. either way, you and this guy aren't going to be together (okay, 99% chance you 2 won't be together) so stoop wasting your time and date a guy who you can hang out with. don't set yourself up for a hard future.
i dated a guy who went to jail when I was young 16, I didn't waste my time staying with him and I'm so glad I didn't because he came out and got put right back in for 4 years, he also did not treat me well and was NOT trustworthy, I cared about him and wanted to help him better his life, but I had to worry about myself first. I'm really glad I didn't stay with him because he's still in jail and I don't know where I'd be if I stayed with him, I'd probably not be doing something with my life like I am now, and be used to a bad life and bad environments.
(Age:Under 18) he was going in and out of jail all the time six months passed he was back in jail he is doing 3 years in prison an we are back together.
I STRONGLY advize AGAINST a relationship with a jailbird and even more one with a RECIDIVIST
Someone can commit ONE error and have trouble with the Man. It's not excusable but it happens.
But error on error and getting 3 YEARS in prison is not about a trafic offense or drunken driving : it's about drugs or violence! What will be next? Life or the chair? Think about yourself and your future and get your *ss out of it.
Steer clear of him and his friends. You don't know him, You've never known him, you'll never know him.
you are so young with a future. Why do you want to spoil your it for a criminal? He goes to jail because he does not care to make an effort to be with you.
If society locks someone up, it's not by accident, some rare cases excepted. If it happens repeatedly, that guy SPELLS TROUBLE. No girl has any kind of obligations towards him.It's her life and future that are at stake.(his are ruined anyhow.) - A month ago
I agree with jacques. he's a POS who is going in and out of jail. I would not lecture about her cheating lol - A month ago
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It amazes the sheer judgement that comes out of your collective heads sometimes. As a Military Police Officer I arrested plenty of people in my time, some heading off to prison.
Sure there are bad guys, they exist, I've dealt with them. But there are plenty of people who are in the system that made poor decisions early on.
Now, maybe this guy has some issues he has to work out, I'm not saying he's innocent of anything. She committed to him, he deserves notice plain and simple. - A month ago
Yes, but to go back time and time again means you're not learning. and why should a young girl be wasting her childhood by being "faithful" to a guy who is not exactly faithful to her (maybe not in terms of cheating, but in other terms of not being there for her) - A month ago
He deserves notice? like she had any. if he doesn't caree enough about her to realize what he's doing to her then sorry, he doesn't deserve "notice" either. and given her age (I mean, I'm only 21 myself so its not a big difference) but given her age, I think 'cheating' isn't much of a term they should think of. imho - A month ago
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You're wrong, very wrong.
It would be one thing if she didn't make the decision to commit herself to him, like she stated she did.
But she did, and so she needs to tell this guy it's over. It's what a respectful human being would do, you treat people as you would like to be treated, despite their activities.
And aside from that, you don't know the whole story as to why he has been in and out of jail. For all we know, they kept putting him on investigative holds until they could charge - A month ago
Hahaha. sorry. that last comment made me laugh. - A month ago
Question Asker
Well the reason he was in and out of jail was because he was in probation and because he would have drugs on him. but he is locked up right now is bacause he was in a bar and he ended up fighting with a security guy and I think he really injurd the other guy really bad even poped hiseye out. and he tells me that he will slow down but I know him and he won't especially being from a gang which is really hard to get out of - A month ago
Answerer
And he probably won't "slow down."
I'm not suggesting that you should date this guy, or that you necessarily owe him anything, other than being decent by telling him it's over.
Because if it were you in jail/prison, wouldn't you still want your significant other to tell you it was over? - A month ago
Question Asker
Well yeah I would want him to be honest with me. and he is. an I have also been honest with him I told him that I had kissed a guy he said he understood why I did that and told me that he forgives me. - A month ago
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