Okay SO me and my man have been together for about a 3 years off and on...(ugg) I'm an outgoing, vibrant woman and he is shy but when you get to know him he won't shut up.. so the thing IS I go out to the club with my girls a LOT and he doesn't have a prob because he KNOWS that I won't cheat and he trusts me KNOWS how much I wanna marry him and I know he feels the same too, but all of a sudden he wanted to go to an event "with his boys" and he doesn't really have too many male friends.. and I of coarse feel some negative type of way! it's NOT like he's talking bout club hopping but what it that's next?! I mean I know I can't control him but I just know how the club scene is and I don't want some chick rubbing up against him trying to flirt and stuff , and he's all like "I'm 21 I wanna live my f***ing life" Duh I'm not trying to hinder that I DO what I WANT but I don't have NE intent of messing around..am I being TOO over reactive or am I right to think bout it a little...he said he'd go to "watch people dance" wtf than they'll be dancing on him! so how do you guys feel bout UR sign. other going to the club?
I'm not sure what your asking. Are you asking if your over reacting or if you are right to think that he shouldn't really go? Well, I'll answer both:
You acknowledge that YOU go "ALOT" as you put it. And now he wants to do the same. You would think it would be alright. A little worrying is fine. Who wishes for their boyfriend or girlfriend to be flirted with or be tempted to flirt back. But he trusts you and you should do the same. Now, because you worry doesn't mean you don't trust him. But it does mean that you have ultimately trust him to make good decisions.
Another thing. Sometimes project their own feelings on others. So if you sometimes find yourself flirting or dancing with other guys ( purely for the sake of dancing) maybe your just worried that he might do the same, and you don't want that. Trust him. I'm not saying he can do WHATEVER he wants, but when it's something you do too, why wouldn't you?
In my humble opinion, I think that if your man is truly in love with you and knows that you love him, he will respect your relationship and not even consider cheating on you or anything else. I would suggest showing that you love him every now and then see how things develop. I don't necessarily think that you are overreacting, perhaps your concerns prove that you love him even more deeply than you thought? As I have said, if he truly loves you he wouldn't cheat on you. Just be sure that he loves you as much as you love him. Remember that the course of true love never runs smoothly.
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