So my boyfriend takes his job seriously, he hates it, but he's never late and NEVER calls in, even when I ask him to, he's very responsible.
Last night however, he calls me and tells me that he is on his way to a big party, I asked "I thought you had work at 8 AM tomorrow? " He said he called in and switched to an afternoon shift. That really upset me because I know for a fact he wouldn't do that for me and he did it for a party he didn't bother inviting me to. Also, anytime I do something with my friends he is always asking me to invite him and I do, then he does this? I'm so hurt and angry at the same time, what should I do?
(Oh and this party isn't a guys night out, there were PLENTY of girls going)
Don't say a word! Just do it back to him. And do it back fast. Create a girls and guys night out. Whenever he's around, have loud and great phone conversations about it. If and when he asks about it, be completely evasive, but nice, I. E. "Oh baby, you wouldn't be interested. " Then, the night of the party, have the time of your life, do not call him AT ALL THAT WHOLE DAY! Have fun, do not think about him. Flirt (Flirting is not cheating) with other guys. WAIT FOR HIM TO CALL YOU FIRST THE NEXT DAY. Then when he calls, tell him you're tired because you had a blast and that you'll call him when you wake up. Let him call you again and again. That will teach him. At least for a month :-)
Lol thanks for the advice. I do plan on going to a friend's party tonight and NOT telling him about it later until he calls asking where I am. As for flirting, I don't think I will do that lol I think it is cheating personally but I am going to have a blast without him. Thank you again! - 8 months ago
Now this is bad advice! This is like a fire fighter bringing a flame thrower to put out a fire, you just get more fire! Don't follow this advice! - 7 months ago
This is a problem indeed. . . but no fault of your own from what I see. This guy seems to have a problem with double standards.
However, the solution is not vengeance. . . the answer isn't revenge. . . This is something you're going to have bring to his attention. . . again. . . and again. . . He doesn't seem to be considerate to your own feelings. All you can do is bring it to his attention, if he still doesn't want to listen. . . then apparently he doesn't care enough for you to listen to you. You have every right in the universe to be angry at him... and if he doesn't change something. . . then it's him that's going to lose something.
I don't think this issue you guys are having is anything serious. He probably just needs to blow off some steam and just relax for a while with his friends. By having a girlfriend he is close to, and a job that continually adds to his stress level, it only makes sense that he might be a bit uptight. He may have not told you at first because he Didn't want you there, it doesn't mean that he doesn't want to be with you. Discuss it with him, but avoid breaking up with him. Give him another chance; men are fickle creatures, and this one just needs some air.
It was wrong of him to do it, but indeed, maybe it is just a little stumbling block that you guys need to overcome.
Thank you for your answer, I agree that WE both need space at times and maybe I wouldn't be so mad if he hadn't JUST came back from a night of partying the previous night. We haven't seen each other in about 4 days and I never bother him when he's with his friends. I just think he's being an ass. He tends to do this a lot. - 8 months ago
Wow yeah you have every right to be mad and upset and hurt! I'd show up at the party just to make sure nothing else is going on. Sounds like he's up to no good if he'll call in to go party with a bunch of girls but not spend time with you. If he can't see why you're upset then he deserve to have you. What a jerk, no offense, I'm mad for you! Lol
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When: 8 months ago
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