Are we back together and he hasn't told me?

In my opinion the time that he lived without you, he prob realize how much you ment to him. Its a hard question but in my experience I would ask him if he wants more or draw a line at friends and move on. Don't be tied down to maybes or worries.

You are in a tough situation. I don't think we have enough information from you to answer your question. I would suggest that some night have quiet time together, you confront him with your question and just say, Are we boyfriend/girlfriend again.

ask him those exact same questions and see what he says.

You should just ask him because you don't want to be confused. It's confusing but he does treat you like you guys are together.

I agree that more info on your relationship would be helpful.

But I think my biggest question is, was it a sexual relationship before and it isn't now? If you guys weren't sexual but were kissing and cuddling and that's what you do now, it sounds like he thinks his speech about missing you was the apology and he has slid back into the relationship. Especially since guys show more how they feel with actions then with words. He may think his presence everynight and every weekend says it all. If the relationship was sexual and you guys aren't having sex now, I would be a little more cautious of him.

He could be doing anything from not wanting to jump back in cause he didn't like how fast the relationship was going-to- wanting to hang out with his best friend and get some physical affection in the meantime but to him that means he can still look for other people. However, I wouldn't automatically jump to him looking for other people cause there is a broad range of reasons he could be doing what he is doing. People are funny. They don't always do what we expect them too. So his motives can be as innocent as feeling like a jerk for leaving you and he is waiting for you to say you two are officially back on. Or on the other side, he could be avoiding commitment. But usually where a man's wallet is, his heart isn't too far off. So him willingly giving you money to support yourself doesn't read "horrible jerk waiting to screw you".

I know as women we are trained to always think a guy is up to something but in cases like this where he is making every attempt to be there for you (including taking care of you financially) it sounds like he is trying hard to get something across. Maybe he is trying to give you the time to heal from what he did. I dated a guy once, when he hurt me, would just be there for me day and night until I was ready to deal with him again. He never talked about it. He just did anything for me, waiting for me to warm up to him again. He knew he messed up bad and he didn't know what to do but be as kind as possible until I felt comfortable being loving to him again. As a woman, it seemed easier to just talk it through but sometimes they think they mess up so bad that words aren't going to fix it.

I know you don't want to ask him but if you don't, what happens is your mind begins to make up a million reasons why he is doing something. That usually causes resentment to set in that he hasn't been clear on what's happening. And resentment leads to anger. And when you are so full of anger, any love you have or want to have for him isn't going to thrive. So for the sake of keeping your best friend around, I'd ask him.

It sounds to me that he's acting like your bf. No guys will do that for you unless they are highly interested in you. Maybe when he ask kisses from you, you tell him that you only can kiss him if he's your bf. Tell him you're not okay with friends with benefits. If he really2 into you, he will tell you that he wants you back.

Wow, that is a strange one! Sometimes guys take a little bit to be nudged into calling someone they're seeing a girlfriend (it took me about 6 months as well with my ex when we were dating, I just talked to him about it and it was fine).

Or, unfortunately, he might just be stringing you along until he finds someone "better", but then again I don't know him or you guys together.

Maybe try initiating a conversation about this by starting off with a "what are we"? Have you seen the recent episodes of "How I Met Your Mother"? there's a situation in one of the season 5 episodes which illustrates this :) Good luck!