I think it's cool. I'm glad that she isn't some stupid ho who gives her body to everyone like it's some sort of object. I think she is making a good choice by waiting and I will accept her decision and stay with her :)
It depends I suppose. I mean wait for marriage for sex, then yeah that's quite commendable. But for the girls who the farthest they're willing to go with a guy before marriage is a hug, then no. Not to say the boundaries of sex should be stretched, but kissage and hand holding kinda thing.
I have a lot of respect for you. Specialy now days with all the peer pressure and people just wanting to lose there virginity because they act like being a virgin is some kind of disease.
well I think that most of them it's just bull sh*t at the end most of them would have sex with more than 1 guy when they get married but if you are one of those rare cases congratulations keep it up would be the nicest present to your future husband
They love them if they are good men. But remember there are other forms of affection that can make a man happy with out sex. I am married and happy you can be too. Also don't rush you got a lot of time ahead of you...
I think that girls who want to wait until marriage for sex are a lot smarter than girls who've been brainwashed into believing that sex by the third date is the way to keep a man in your life...
I guy with great morals will LOVE you for your decision. Someone who does not love you will not respect your wishes and will try and pressure you into sex early. Don't give in.
good for them, but they will need to make up for it due to as men we have 10x more erges and if you want us to make that sacrifice we have to see a silver lining for us at the end
i think that those girls should be the most respected people in the world and deserve every ounce of respect a human can give because no one deserves more respect than someone who respects themselves so I give a thumbs up to any girl who decides to make this decision and curse any guy dumb enough to try and change their opinion and I would stick with any girl that decides this and only hope that I'm smart enough to stay with her untill she's ready to get married
I really depends on the situation. I think girls should wait until they are truly ready to have sex, that said, there is nothing special about your wedding night that suddenly makes you 'ready'.
Thing is that you waited for that night super long , and finally there it comes , I guess its one heck of an amazing experience , lol I can't wait xD - 4 months ago
I agree girls or women or females should wait until they are ready until they have sex. and it also depends on how much love she has for him. and I think if she loves him and he loves her and both people are deeply in love with one another and they plan to be in a long term, and exclusive relationship then having sex during marriage doesn't necessary have to be the case. but I wouldn't suggest having sex on the 3rd date because I think that's just lust. and Not LOVE. - 4 months ago
Maybe a tad off topic but sometimes girls wait until marriage because they are unsure if that guy will leave them after sex. and some girls see their virginity as something special to them and we want to give it to someone that truly care for us and not see us as some sort of object and sometimes us girls doubt that guy and want to make sure and for sure.. . - 4 months ago
Beautiful. I would never be with a girl who isn't. It shows self control, some morals, high standards, and it is really a pretty good filter for filtering out douches. That's classy. If someone you like can't wait till marriage, I wouldn't consider them marriage material. A majority of divorces are between people who have had sex before marriage. And I can tell you based on my experience, from all of my parents friends, all of them were virgins until marriage, only 3 of their friends got divorced, as opposed to where I work in 2 retail stores where there aren't any virgins and I know about 30 divorced or once divorced people, and all kinds of people with problems.
I don't think any good guy who has something going for him, would EVER look down upon something like that. My opinion.
That possibly they are hiding something -- so need you to make a lifelong commitment before you find out that they don't even like to have sex; rather, they see it as a reward for you when you do as told. (Like marry them). Or, they are just poor naive little things that are just trying to follow the wishes of their mommy or daddy -- Little girls that need a little more time.
I think it is an excellent idea; however, I have met more than a handful of guys/girls that try that, mess up and go completely sexually bonkers and sleep around. In one hand it is nice to have sexual relations with someone who isn't random and you know is clean because you get the experience and it adds an extra spice to the night; also, you don't end up being bad for when you do get married. In the other hand some people cannot handle having sex before marriage because it may not end up in marriage and can be devastating. I think it's cool if they wish to wait but as long as you are careful and not drunk it can be a decent idea.
Sorry this isn't the answer the girls want, but... a girl who wants to wait til marriage is bound to be uptight about other things. When two people genuinely care about each other, THAT makes the sex special...and not a piece of paper or a ring on your finger. Withholding sex is a valid dealbreaker for guys, and if you don't understand why (or think it's offensive) then you're setting yourself up for a surprise. There's nothing wrong with a guy who WILL wait for marriage, but intent is what makes an action special...sex shouldn't be treated like emotional politics. It's just sex.
I agree man that sex shouldn't be treated like emotional politics, I would never take that crap. But to say 'It's just sex' is to devalue what was clearly designed to be one of the most beautiful expressions of love between to human beings. We can see the emotional bondage/devastation this attitude causes on shows like Jerry Springer etc not to mention our own lives and experiences. - 5 months ago
Yeah, sex is not supposed to be "just sex." It's supposed to be special between two people that love each other. God created sex for between two people that are going to be as one and not as two individual. People these days abused sex because they think it "just sex" And girls who do wait for marriage are being smart. Guys/girls can be emotional attached to each other. Because when someone falls in love with the other and the other doesn't really love that person they gave up something special. - 5 months ago
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Sex isn't always some special bonding moment between 2 people; most of the sex-related questions on this webpage are pretty far from that. At its best, sex is as wonderful as all these other comments say. But sex can just be for fun, too, which is why I said it's just sex...as in, "lighten up." Treating sex like some holy ceremony takes the joy out of it. And God didn't create sex, it's a part of nature. God is a character in an archaic, discriminatory book that YOU HAVEN'T EVEN READ. cheers! - 4 months ago
WOW you sir are a complete douche that obviously is more interested in sex than love. ur point about the bible is totally unsupported, find out what ur talking about before you go trash talking it - 4 months ago
@ anabur : dude , if world would think same way you do ... we would be like animals , each and every single person would have sex with the significant other whom they THINK "is the one" so if I have 7 boyfriends and I loved each one of them and I had sex , because as you mentioned , sex is not a piece of paper and a ring, I would be the worse prostitute ever ! so your not making a good point !hence , marriage is simply a way for letting sex an official act btn 2 persons! - 4 months ago
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You guys can hate me for giving an honest answer about how guys think (and yes, I know your boyfriend won't agree), but give it 5 or 10 years and see if your perspective on this hasn't changed. Or go to a bar this weekend. As for me being a complete douche who's more interested in sex than love... I've NEVER had a one-night-stand in my life and I have a reputation with my friends for turning down girls who are trying to hook up with me. And the Bible that I need to find out about? I've read it 3 times! - 4 months ago
I completely agree with you dude.. it is just sex.. sex isn't something huge and special (this coming from a chick) it's just pleasure and fun.. and okay making babies... other than that it's not some epic thing, it's just X inserts into Y.. point blank period.. girls make a huge deal out of something so stupid.. you wanna wait go find a Mormon (no offense to any Mormons y'all are cool go Jesus and everything like that). - 4 months ago
I'm with 20Questions. I agree with what anabur said up until the, "It's just sex" bit. I mean, I'm sure to some, such as ConfuzedChik, sex really IS just sex, a recreational activity. But there are those of us who do make a big deal of it because we don't want to give such a privilege to men who don't deserve it. So sue us for being a little picky. When we find a guy who does deserve it, it makes a difference. THAT'S what makes sex special to us. - 2 months ago
When you meet Mr. Right and he buys you a ring and you say yes, then you have no further reason to wait after that. Wait until you are engaged. I see no reason to wait after you are engaged.
Because when you are engaged then anything can happen between two of them. Not all couples who are engaged will actually get married, sometimes they might break up. I have a friend who was engaged and he had sex with his fiance. They broke up a week before the wedding. They don't talk to each other anymore. But if it is the right person and you know it then maybe its best to wait on the honey moon. It makes it more special. - 5 months ago
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You need to know of sex is fun, lousy, or even worse . . . non existant before you walk down the aisle. - 5 months ago
The honest majority of guys, will mind- but if the relationship is meaningful, it is not a "deal breaker". On the contrary- if the girl has a huge ego, is a major tease, or is "playful" with other males- these are all examples of what would make me go crazy.
This situation really depends on context. Either way, the guy SHOULD be supportive- but in reality we rarely are. If the guy has a huge need for being satisfied sexually then the desire to wait is, all the more, a pet-peeve.
well I will think that she is being honest...if she clears things out at the beginning of the relationship...den I don't mind... i will love her as much as I will do otherwise...in fact more...bcoz I will develop respect for her clarity and her truthfulness...honestly I would such a gal in my life who thought are pure... of course it her decision and no one has the right to force her... such face problems if they fall in a relationship with a guy who is dominating and keeps on forcing her for it... she should find a guy who can understand her feelings...and not a sex freak who can't think of anything else...
I think that if you want to wait until marriage then the guy should wait for you, if he really appreciates you. otherwise he is a selfish pr*ck. I personally was not going to have sex with anyone until I got married but I was with a girl who I loved and we did it. Later on in the relationship we broke up and I haven't had any since because of my own personal morals.
I think it's silly to wait until marriage. It's an obsolete moral that has been forced upon women since time immemorial to maximize their potential for finding a husband. It has no real place anymore. Quint and cute, yes. But I wouldn't be with a virgin who wanted to wait until marriage. And it's not because I'm a dog or can't control my own libido and hormones. I would simply have a fundamental conflict with someone who believed waiting to be an act of morality.
Sex is an instinct. Marriage is a social institution. So what can be logically thought of a person who insists upon the joining institution before yielding to the instinct?
I don't wanna sound like lecturing you (obviously I'm way younger than you anyway, lol) but this is an issue I've been thinking about and debating more recently. I mean to say that marriage has no place anymore, well...thats one of the reasons we're such an f-ed up society (western) in modern times! Without marriage, a lot of guys just float in and out of relationships. it becomes a habit for them, and as we can see the amount of 'illegitimate' children rises exponentially. I don't think I'm wrong - 5 months ago
In saying that most of the kids on the roads, involved in gangs, drug-dealing, whatever else that's morally depraved out there are a product of fatherless households. And then they continue the cycle, and it just gets worse by the day. What I'm basically saying is thaty whether or not you believe that marriage is God-ordained/socially instituted or not, its clearly the best way to create stable familys, homes and consequently stable people! - 5 months ago
Obviously its not just guys who are at fault here - 5 months ago
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Please don't misunderstand. I'm not saying marriage has no place. I mean the practice of celibacy until marriage has no place among modern, free thinking civilization. I'm married. I find marriage to be a fine institution, particularly as a strong foundation for raising children. I'm only speaking of the dwindling concept of one's virginity as an equivalent to purity and that it should be held until your wedding night. - 5 months ago
Perhaps the, "waiting for your honeymoon" idea is an act of morality forced upon women since time immemorial, as you say. But it didn't just come about out of nowhere. It stems from thousands of years of selection and you can find it in the most primitive of species. Sure, sex is an instinct. But it's also the instinct of the female to weed out the men who will leave her to raise her offspring on her own and find the one who will stick by her. So I believe to an extent, celibacy has its place. - 2 months ago
When you really love someone , you won't even realize they suck in bed ;) and trust me ! havin sex after marriage is a loooooooooooooot more meaningful , special and fun than having sex several times before , so basically your the one missing , not him ! and that's only an answer to ur point.. don't get me started religious wise because is considered one of the greatest sins sweetie =D - 4 months ago
I think its beautiful, in fact I'm holding out right now for someone who is sexually pure. I recently became a 'born-again Christian' and so my personal values have changed from promiscuity to sexual purity before marriage. But a few years back my views on virgins were very different...
Curious though, you are born-again but were previously having sex. Would you not date a girl who had also decided to change her ways but was no longer a virgin? I wasn't sure what your definition of "sexually pure" was. - 5 months ago
virginity it self does not play the major role in handling the relationship elegantly, however the girl deserves 110% appreciation at least from that point of view. In addition to it she should be soft spoken, should have patience, no ego issues and very importantly should be caring to her pal).
A guy friend once put it this way for me: Pretend you are planning on buying a car. Money is not an issue. Would you rather buy an old car with tens of thousands of miles on it that has gone through countless owners, or a brand new car that hasn't even been driven off the lot? Think about it. [=
It makes them go crazy. I'm 19 and still 100% a virgin and I am respected by men and Id rather be respected then known as just "the girl who gave so and so his jerk off for the week." take NO shame in being a virgin till marriage.
im one of these girls who is waiting for marriage and I'm proud of it. I really respect people who do this and if you're in a relationship with someone who is willing to wait for you then you knnow you're into a good thing becuase you know that they don't just want you as someone to have a bit of fun with.
Im a virgin and I am proud of it. if that's what you are planning to do keep it up, don't listen to the people who try to break you because I have heard from many people that they wish they would have waited.
I personaly don't think you should wait for marriage to have sex... you need to get some experience... every man is different... some SUCK in bed and some are just AMAZING! now imagine you marry a guy who sucks in bed... your stuck with him... and on top of that you'll think to ursel wow I havnt been missing much huh.. when in fact YES YOU HAVE!
But than again ofcourse if this is your choice.. than men should respect that!
There are guys that can get better. If they dont, then oh well, it was your choice to marry him, but if you truly love him, then you shouldnt care. There are really pretty girls who married someone who isn't theat great looking but they still love him. As long as they love you for who you are and they will respect you and treat you like a queen. - 5 months ago
Don't you think that there should be more to a marriage than just good sex?? - 4 months ago
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TRUST ME!!! your relationship or marriage WILL NOT work if the sex is BAD!!! for a few years yes maybe you can take it! but one day you will get fed up!!! - 4 months ago
Wow...you are ridiculous. OMG what if you marry a man that sucks in bed? You get over it because you LOVE him. And he can get better, seriously omfg. - A month ago
i think that's great too! I recently just lost my virginity.. to a complete asshole! and I TOTALLY regret it! doesn't mean I'm going to be a complete slut and sleep around now lol no I have dignity and self-respect. my decision at the time was clouded and the boy I lost it too, I realised too late that he only wanted sex.. and no I was not drunk, I was perfectly sober. I wanted to try it and see what it was like.. and now I wish I could take it back, but I cant. the past is the past. and all I learned from that was, if I have a daughter, I will not let her make the same mistake..
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