Tonight my brother brought a guy friend over and a female friend over to stay the night at our house, (She's 15, I'm 17). I found her extremely attractive, she was very sweet, friendly to talk to, and absolutely beautiful.
Now I've never been in a relationship before, but am very keen to get into one. The problem is, this girl was getting very comfy around my brother, we were all sitting on the couch watching tv, and they were kind of leaning their head's on each other's shoulders, and sitting with their bodies slightly turned towards each other.
Now, my brother has a girl-friend already, but I can tell he likes this girl, but I'm not sure if he wants something serious with her, or if he's just flexing his ability to flirt, because, as I said - he already has a girlfriend.
My first problem is, how do I get a sense of what my brother wants from this girl? I'm probably going to ask him tomorrow morning, and confront him about how he shouldn't flirt with others when he already has a girl-friend, and I also think I'll tell him that I'm kinda starting to have feelings for her.
The second problem is, she goes to my brother's school and is quite a lot younger than me (though I don't think a 17 y/o guy with a 15y/o girl is socially un-acceptable, especially since we're both mature). But how can I go about getting to know her when the only time I would see her is when she comes to my house?
I've just sent her a friend request on FaceBook, but am not really sure how I'd go about either getting to know her and still convey my attraction to her, we talked a little bit to each other tonight, and aknowledged each other while we were all laughing at the TV, I smiled at her a couple of times and vice versa.
Would it be acceptable to send her a message (Private IM), saying that 'I thought she was looking gorgeous the other night, and I thought she had a cute personality' to kick things off?
Or would that be too much? And I should break into conversation first, the thing is, despite her being very attractive, she's not extremely out-going, she's very well brought up from quite a wealthy / educated family.
How should I deal with this situation, the least I want to do is tell her that I find her attractive and just let her know that she's a really sweet girl, but I'd love something more to come of this, and I'm not at all experienced with girls in a real life situation, though am far more comfortable talking to them online.
If any of you can help me out on how I should go about getting close to this girl given the circumstances, then I'd be SO APPRECIATIVE of your help.
Your brother has a girlfriend and he would be a real d*** if he hogged all the girls and didn't give you a shot at one. Tell him that you like her and are planning on asking her out or w/e. Ask him if he's ok with that so you two don't start a major fight over this girl. But my philosiphy is unless she's in a commited relationship go for it.
Thanks for your answer, see my comment to Dela1111, and expand on your answer a little if you can. - 5 months ago
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I just told my brother I liked her and might ask her out, he laughed and said that I had no chance with her and that he was already considering dumping his girlfriend and going out with her, since she already admitted she fancied him. Guess I will have to find a good looking girl and not let my bro have site of her :(
Thanks for trying to help me out though :) - 5 months ago
I should have made this a bit clearer, I've never tried to 'get a girl to like me' before, so this is as much a question looking for help with that as it is anything else. I'm just a little wary as how to approach a younger girl (albeit she's mature for her age, in my opinion), is making it clear I'm attracted to her ok from the get-go, or is it safer to try and be more conversational first, although I'm not sure how I'd do that (assuming through Facebook IM for now). - 5 months ago
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