How do you know if your husband is cheating?

I liked nymphomans comments. A slightly different perspective though...the fact that he has lied about your abulatory status and existance of his daughter suggests to me that he is currently fantasising rather than acting on those fantasies. It usually forms the prelude to an affair, it probably would just be sexual rather than emotional and its a terrible basis to do it on because he risks hurting his partner and the backlash from that being inflicted on his family.

The good news though is he's less likely to leave you (if you sort this out and choose to stay with him); the bad news is that he's unhappy enough to stray and stupid enough to do it in such a cliched way.

You are to think exactly what you already know. Our appetite can sometimes go out the window IF we CHOOSE not to appreciate and have self control. Sounds like your husband is willing to be taken captive and go back into the world one last time. It has nothing to do with you, it's a man choice- lact of appreciation and selfish satisfaction thing and could cost you and him your lives (STD'S Aids, etc.) You're not dead and you have a daughter. He might want to have someone "taste the tip" again and see what it's like to be wet up by something unfamiliar which is WRONG. Don't sit there and doubt that the LORD led you to seeing exactly where the enemy lies, nothing is ever corrected until you address it. Pray about HOW to address it and maybe consult with a spiritual leader- GATHER your team of PRAYING people- NOT this kind of site. FIGHT for your man to make it out of sexual bondage because that is where he is headed. Think with wisdom and fight by faith. IF you want your marriage, all the best to you. (by: PnW)

OK first of all porn has nothing to do with cheating and is looked at by all men in one way or another so lets ignore that.

I would normally say maybe he was curious at to if he still 'had it', this is something men are worried about and often pursue at a light level just to see if they are still considered a catch.
This is normally something done through flirting or sometimes joining sites notorious for hooking up.

HOWEVER!, the challenge is to be somewhat honest about yourself and maybe having a few exaggerations and little white lies to see if you are considered damaged goods.
Saying his wife is DEAD and not mentioning his daughter is a little more serious that just seeing if he can still catch the attention of some ladies but not pursuing further than a bit of online flirting.

I would say telling you he loves you is easy to say and maybe even mean to a degree but I think it's clear he doesn't love you enough to respect you.
Also being the one to instigate sex and not turn down sex is pretty much a man thing anyway regardless of how faithful they are.

Porn is nothing to do with this but I certainly think it sounds he has gone above and beyond innocent flirting by disrespecting your actual status of still breathing and to ignore his daughters existence is to pretend he has no baggage.

I think there's no point wasting time waiting for him to be caught actually in an affair, he has clearly put himself into a position of pursuing an affair, see a solicitor (lawyer) for advice now because this isn't harmless fun anymore.

Caught with his trousers down, as a flirt I know I could not deny my wife and kids and would personally not have joined a dating site as I prefer to keep my ego polishing online out of harms way, a dating site is tempting fate and maybe just maybe would provide a dangerous tempting situation that weak minded men couldn't say no to, especially if pretending to be a single man with a broken heart that needs fixing live happily ever after fairy story.

This is clearly out side of my "relationship boundaries" and it would definitely upset me. Confront him immediately to resolve this terrible behavior.

Definitely not something you should consider as "harmless."

~ Robby

Confront him. He may not be cheating but he is up to no good.

MY opinion, not yours.
Cheers.

I presume craiglist is a dating site. Why is he talking to other women without your knowledge? You need to sit down and grill him on this but I can 100% guarantee you he is a cheater! Do you like him surfing the net for porn and nudity? What if one of your kids saw that crap on the computer? Does the family share a computer?

Honestly you need to just leave him. I know you have kids but like you say you have a career so you should have enough to support yourself and the kids. Stay now and be happy. Don't stay with this creep!He sounds like a randy old perv tbh!

If you need any more confirmation that he's cheating, check his phone for any dodgy numbers/texts etc. Check if he has another phone for cheating that you don't know about (this does happen believe it or not). Does he get home late from work all the time? Does he stay out late at night with no explanation? Check your phone bills to see what calls are being made. You can check his jacket for phone numbers but most cheaters will be too sophisticated and will have developed better methods to cheat and not get caught. I'm telling you the truth. Cheaters always tell the wives they love her-that means NOTHING. Zilch. Sorry to break it to you. Cheaters are selfish and want to have their cake and eat it. Your husband wants you, kids and mistress on the side. Its really that simple so he will rationalise his bad behaviour to ease his guilt. Cheaters are manipulative people who will say/do anything to keep up their double life because they don't want to choose. Please get more self-respect! Why are you putting up with this? You're being a complete doormat! I really hope you take my advice!

Divorce him. You can divorce him on irreconcible differences or his bad behaviour or the fact that you think/know he's cheating. Be civil for the sake of the children-dont make them take sides-but as far as being a husband goes, kick him to the kerb! Work out some joint custody solution if at all possible. Get your finances in order, consult a lawyer and make steps to GET OUT of this terrible marriage.

wow , so are you dead ?
lady something's wrong with your self respect.
stand up for yourself. (if you are alive )LOL.
seriously, I have seen some questions on cheating here.
blv me if you are in a relationship , that too as strong as marriage you ought to give it some respect.
those who cheat in a marriage are extremely shallow because they can't get enough stimulation from daily lives and need more and more stimulation foe excitement exactly like a low I.Q. kid needs more and more stimulation to learn something.(no offense meant here).

i read a comment here mentioning something's wrong with year relationship.
NO, something's wrong with that person , not you , not the relationship.

You have definitely ignored some problem in your relationship. You need to think about what's going on and talk to him

I'm sorry but he is either cheating, planning to cheat, or would cheat if given the oppurtunity. People don't post personal ads on craigslist for fun. He does not mention his family and says his wife died. YOU'RE his wife! He's saying that you're dead WTF that is sooo wrong! I would confront him and tell him I know everything (even if you don't know, he needs to think you know so he can't game you with some BS excuse). There is no other explanation for his actions.

I would think nothing good of it. He may not be cheating *yet*, but I think any one can see that the road he is on could easily lead to any number of terrible situations. He obviously does not mind lying (to you or other women... I doubt he confessed to you that he has been telling other women you have died)... I am not saying that whatever this may be is not salvageable, but something needs to be done. You cannot turn a blind eye on this one, because it can, and likely will escalate. It seems like you two - no matter how great you think it is right now - need to try and attend some couples therapy. I've never seen couples be able to work something like this out without a major intervention.

I wish you all the luck. My heart goes out to you!