FYI, she lives 1. 5 hours ferry ride from me, so it is a long distance. We don't see each other much, but we always try to talk on the phone everyday, and sometimes I do manage to go over to her place to see her. I love her a lot, and I know she does too, but one night.
A night ago when I was conversing with my girlfriend, I made a huge mistake. I felt like we were drifting apart at the time, because she has been quiet on the phone, and sounded a little "down". Now that I thought about it, she was just stressed out. Exams are just around the corner, I know she's stressful, and when she is talking to me. She wants it to be stress-free. However, I said something I wish I could take back, I never meant to say it. She just finished writing an english exam, which she think she didn't do well on. I told her I could proofread her essays, and help her enhance on essay writing. She told me that she felt embarrassing if I were to read her essays, and said that she rather let her friends help her, because they are closer. I don't know what I was thinking at that time, but out of no where, without thinking I asked her. "I guess you'll always turn to your friends when you have problems" "I feel so useless in your life, my existence seems unnecessary" "Have you ever thought about finding a guy who is closer? " I didn't mean to say anything like that, I love her a lot. I guess I love and care for her so much that I didn't give her some space to herself. I know I've made a huge mistake this time, but I don't know what's running through her mind right now. I know she's depressed, I want to make up for my foolishness. It was late that night, I was a little sad, but I know I shouldn't have said those things. It's been almost 2 days now, I called her many time yesterday afternoon, but she never picked up.
I realize that I think I should just give her some time and ample space for herself. I haven't apologize for my action, because I couldn't get a hold of her. Right now, I think I should give her some time, before sending an email to sincerely apologize. I love her a lot, I know she loves me too. I just can't believe I let my insecurity take control of what I wanted to say that night. I never meant to say such things. Any advices would be appreciated. I asked on different help sites yesterday, but not much help yet. "Someone stated she is cheating, but I think that's just ridiculous. I believe her, I know she wouldn't hurt herself or do something regretful. Even if I made such stupid mistake for saying something so hurtful, I don't believe that she'll do something like that to herself. Can someone give me your opinion, and what should I do? How many days should I give her before apologizing, because I don't want to make it look like I'm not taking this relationship seriously, because I am. She'll be transferring to my school this summer hopefully if she gets in, and we'll be together, but what about right now? I need to know what's going through her mind.
Give her a few days to chill out. And definitely apologize on the phone not in an email and don't even bring up the cheating thing. She has a right to be mad but she won't be forever, you'll be fine.
I feel you really hurt her when you said that. Your right I don't think she's cheating but I would wait a couple days and call her on the phone not email to apologize. You may want to try to contact a couple of her friends to see if they will tell you how exactly how she feels about you before making any changes in your life. Not cheating but do apologize
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When: 7 months ago
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