Are all young guys 19-20's the same?

Yeah, most guys that age are like that. I was, with the exception that I didn't physically hurt girls. But emotional hurts are real, too, and I made some girls I went out with feel like crap a few times, just because I was immature. I didn't get real until I was in my mid-twenties, and it took getting my girlfriend pregnant to make me wake up. Girls can be somewhat that way too, though. Before giving up guys, try dating some who are around 30 or so, and whose lives are a little more secure. Not that they can't be dumba$$es too, but the odds are much better by then for you.

Well although this is well founded based on most guys I personally care more about the love part of relationships than the sex or other bullsh*t...i mean there has to be a guy for you that's not an asshole

No I'm 18 and I care more about the emotional aspect of a relationship more then anything else. The first time I had sex it was pretty obvious that she wanted it. The problem is you're looking for the guys that are really hot or really popular which are usually really horrible people inside. Try talking to the guy who isn't the hottest guy there or the guy that not every girl wants to be with. You'll see that most of the time they are sweetest guys in the world. :D

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Hey we all gotta learn and make mistakes! I don't exactly have a halo flyin over my head but those horns fell off a while back. Deep down, I think most of us strive to be decent people and give our female counterparts what they deserve but it does get difficult with our girls cheating on us, the drama, the yelling, the false accusations. There are so many mind-games you girls play that it desensitizes our emotions sometimes. Seriously, it's like girls date jerks so the nice guys turn into jerks to try and get a girl, then the girl realizes he is a jerk and he gets confused if he is supposed to be nice or a jerk because a girl won't date a nice guy but she doesn't want a jerk either. Confusing ain't it?

When you generalize by saying "all," it just makes me want to *facepalm* and not even answer your question..

What do you think.. really?

You've got one of those faithful and romatic 19 year olds right here, I've always had this belief and outlook on a relationship. It's partially how I was raised, but more so because I never want to hurt a woman, I have a strong urge to please and make the woman I'm with happy. It's kind of embedded into my person :-P.

OK. You used an oxymoron there. An oxymoron is two words that oppose each other used to define something. Like Military Intelligence (some would say) or Conservative Democrat.

Young and Men rarely go together. If they are young, then they are not men yet. Well, not in many cases anyway. Being a man has a lot more to do with the way they act and how they deal with their responsibilities than it does with their age. We all know "men" in their 40+'s that are no more than aged boys.

However, to answer your question... 19 is still a teenager. 20 is just the larve stage of a young ADULT. These pseudo human beings are mostly hormone driven individuals that have been taught that just because they walk upright they are entitled to something. They will not really get out of this until they hit maybe 23 or 26.

Sorry but them is the facts. ANd before you all climb my frame... I was one myself and I didn't become a human being till I was 26!

most guys still have there hormones raging so in a sense we are the same but there are a lot of guys that know what self control is If they truly like you that won't be the only thing they are looking for.

Im true , I'm not like the person your describing hahahaha

They are all the same in the respect that they all have a lot to learn and a lot to still go through. Other then that, no they are not all assholes with the intention of making you want to turn lesbian. Yes, some may be more mature then others, but at that age they are still going to need to change a lot from there. Just date older guys and see if its any better or worse then you'll be able to know for yourself, or know what to look for in a younger guy.

I never was like that when I was that age but most men 19-20 are still very immature. that's why, they still think its cool to have sex when its actually a privilege between a man and a woman who care about each other.

I would say the majority of guys are that way.

But they're some good guys out there. And no not those wimps. Actual gentlemen.

Basically how I treat girls is how I would want them to treat my sister or mom with respect. My father is a great man, and has always treated my mom with respect. So it would be hypocritical of me if I treated a girl like sh*t but expected and demanded someone else to treat my sister/mom with respect.

I know that whenever I'm with a girl that she has a family that loves her. And they wouldn't like if I treat their daughter or sister like sh*t.

Don't get me wrong they are times when there arguments. Very relationship has them. Its normal.

But hitting or verbally abusing somebody is not love. That's not acceptable in any way shape or from.

Hope you find a good man that makes you happy someday.

No, were not all the same, and I really hope you don't turn lesbian, because of some terrible guys setting a poor stero typical image of guys in general. It deeply saddens me when I do hear of women that become lesbian, because of so many horrible experiences with boys (it's intentional that I call them boys instead of men, because to me those kind of people really aren't mature enough to be called men). Being the age of twenty years I can most deffinately say not all of us are purely interested in sex, in fact aside from my typically far off-beat and peculiar sense of humor which tends to be far too offensive or even sexual for most people, I'm not terribly interested in having sex until marriage, and I'm more interested in being the one to provide pleasure rather than reciving it than anything else about it, because to me sex should be enjoyable, however for me it's more about having a way of becoming closer and forming a more intimate bond with the other person.

I'm not sure if it helps, but I'll put this out there anyways, since I am twenty, I can say that I am different from the average sex crazed boy that I myself tend to avoid and have known and even been friends with. I can enjoy having a good time and even be immature with jokes and stuff, yet be completely serious when I need to be. I'm a romantic to the heart and bone.

I hope this answer helps and wish you the best of luck in finding a suitable guy you can relate to that isn't a total child.

remember... "not all guys are the same", same as saying are all young girls 19-20 the same?

Yes, there are really wonderful guys out there that are mature, real, and honest to there partner and don't only want girls for sex. I know a lot of different guys out their that are single and are no where like that. You're just either looking in the wrong places, or around the wrong crowd of people. Try a different approach and go after the quiet, shy type guys like me and you will be surprised you did.

Are all GIRLS 19-20 the same?

The answer to that one, as well as the answer to your original question, are the same.

They are out there, but there is not very many of them.

Are all young guys 19-20's the same?
NO

HAHA Laughable gotta love how women just love to banter on about how miserable their lives are, when they are the cheaters, the ones that ditch us, then they say oh I want a relationship. LOL Funny stuff! Crazy women anyhow. I think they just like to have something to b---h about..? Sure seem's that way cause all they seem to do is go date a-holes instead of decent men then come on here and b----h about how horrid all men are. When it's them making the choice to date the a-holes. lol.. Laughable.

Date guys who go to school (not highschool) and have a job and a car...

This will at least give you some kind of seperation from the immature guys.

Its cause all the nice guys are shy like me =3

There are a lot of good guys your age. But there are lots of reasons you might not find 'em.

The other answerers said some good reasons: girls sometimes overlook quite good guys; jerks and abusers sometimes have a sixth sense to find insecure people.

Another factor, I think, is that you're simply young. A lot of younger people aren't ready for serious relationships. They're still growing up, still learning how to be adults and not teenagers.

Also, don't forget the fact that you're choosing to date certain guys. So if you're dating a string of jerks, it might be useful for you to figure out why you're choosing to date jerks. Do you like the excitement and drama? Do you provoke fights, then blame the guy? Do you pick bad boys and try to "fix" them? Do you think you don't deserve better? I've known people who do all those things. So it might be good to realize if you're making destructive choices so you can stop 'em.

Good luck!

Here my male age bracket:

15-18
19-21
22-25.

Those other guys are quiet and shy, so you won't notice them at first.

No not all of them sweety, am turning 18 in 4 days and am going out with a 23 years old guy. His awsome sooo amazing. and he doesn't play games for sh*t! and his not only with me for SEX! So my answer is NOT all of them are the same.
But all teens are I dated 15/16/17/18 years old guys. and they all are stuppid and full of sh*t lol. but that's only becouse thier young and doesn't know anything about LOVE and caring about someone. all they know is SEX SEX SEX!

find some guy in his 20's ;) trust me you'll live happier !

omg I sooo know where your coming from!, but I agree with everyone else that answered, don't settle and trust me a great guy will come along. Also, don't let any guy degrade you or so called try and "set you stragiht" (I hate guys like dattt urghh). You talked about guys not being faithful, beating thier women , and only wanting sex that it makes me think has that ever happened to you? (god forbid though) hopefully it hasn't , god bless you hun

They're definitely not all the same. Perhaps you should consider, though, why it seems like you're only attracting jerks, when other guys do exist.

you're not going to attract the right guy until you build your confidence. the a@@hole guys have a radar for girls with low self esteem and they prey on that. remain single for awhile and figure out what makes you so great, once you know you deserve better, you'll get better. I didn't have a boyfriend till I was 19 because I was just too picky, but that was a good thing, because now I've been with my guy for 4 years and he has been so amazing. don't settle =)