Alright, I am so confused....I was dating this guy and he was amazing. He treated me like I was an angel. He paid for everything and when I said it was my turn to pay he always got mad. Our relationship was great but we only got to see each other once a week, or maybe not even once a month... It just all depended on what he wanted to do. I always felt like he loved me when it was just me and him but then out of no where he just dumped me.
I was heart broken because I was there for him through everything and I put my heart out there and he just ripped it right out. So life went on and I started to change and then about a month later I saw him at a party and he said that he realized that he made a mistake and that he missed me. I was still kind of liked him and so I said I would forgive him and now he is so different. It's like he only wants me around when he does have other plans or when he wants to make out for something. And I don't like that. He treats me like crap and he always puts me at the bottom of the list. I'm not saying I want to be at the top but it would be nice to get a call every now and then instead of once every two weeks or only when he wants to mess around. I want to feel like I'm actually cared about.
So one night I went to a party with a friend and I met this guy who was so amazing. We have all the same interest and we get along great. He calls me all the time and tells me how important I am and that no one deserves to be treated the way my boyfriend does. But I'm not the type of person to turn someone down. So I feel bad telling my boyfriend I don't want to be with him anymore but this other guy is so great. And I just don't know what to do. I feel like this relationship with my boyfriend may get abusive since he's hit me before and I just don't know what to do. I really like this other guy but my boyfriend says he's sorry and that he will change but that's not the first time he's said that. I just don't know.
If anyone has any advice please let me know. I'm so confused, it's crazy. (this was just a summary of almost everything that's happened so if you want to know more just let me know) Thanks for taking the time to read this and I hope to hear back from someone soon...always Kim
I agree with crazngirl, dump the first guy, and take things slow with the second guy, make him go out with you for awhile and get to know him first. Meeting the friends a guy has is always a good sign of who he is, and getting to know him before fooling around, will give you an idea of who he really is first.
Here's the real trick kim... taking advice and using it. I have never EVER abused a girl. Get out now! It is not right and the physical abuse will ever life alternating emotional and spiritual effects... possible for the rest of your life.
You gave him a chance... he blew it. This is not a tough decision Kim. Believe in yourself more, believe that you have more to offer. If that means that you don't date someone for a while, then don't date for a while ... so that you can be sure the next guy is the right guy. It's easy to "fall in love" but it's seldom deserved. Make them work for it.
My advice... dump the first chump and make the next guy prove himself. There's nothing more to it.
crazngirl
(Age:Under 18)
When: More than a year ago
I would like to hear more that's an interesting story....but if you are not happy then you shouldn't put yourself in that situation (sometimes I feel like that towards my boyfriend but I know I really wanna be with him) but since the new dude your talking about treats you good you should maybe be with him but you have to be careful because when you meet someone in the beginning they are so sweet to you but once you get to know them you feel like you regret being with them because some of them treat you like shit.
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