What guy, that I live with wants space, even though we never go out?

Your smothering him, and probably annoying the hell outta him. See he has no where to go, you live with him, so when he wants to go up for air, he can't, not trying to offend you or anything but that's the problem. We like hanging out with our gfs and stuff but there are times where we just wanna relax, drink a beer and chill with our friends, or take up on of our hobbies, just some alone time. That is exactly what he means when he says you don't get it.

Maybe you could go hang out with your friends once and a while and that way he can go hang out with his friends too. You gotta understand us men we love women, but damn they can drive you crazy, so in order to not be on the six o clock news, we need time to relax away from them, that's all he is saying.

It sounds like his priorities may lay elsewhere- Consider this:
1. he isn't cheating on you
2. He doesn't want to party / get drunk / make love
3. He has children
4. He doesn't freak out and leave when you agree to a break
5 --- lets say this, the list goes on.

So, with all the aforementioned going on- he seems like he is more focused in priorities like his son (and yours), school, work, chores, etc. He doesn't seem in the mood for making love or getting drunk etc, these would be things that you would do away from the children.

If you want him to make love to you, wait for the opportune moment, or relax his nerves- give him a back massage etc, when he falls asleep- don't get mad. Simply relax and realize that this love factory hasn't been in use since a few years back.


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I think that he is extremely confused. I agree with you that he is not cheating or he would be a lot more aggressive in getting rid of you. It sounds like to me that he just wants to be a single Dad of his kids, without you. You might want to start looking at yourself, What Is It He Does Not Like About You ? I wish that I could give you more input, but I had little to go buy.

Maybe the two of you just aren't right for each other.

Sounds like he has some depression...possibly has some regret getting you preggers and having a kid with you. Sorry if that hurts, but I have known people like this -- you are not alone. I am not suggesting you leave him, but you may want to find somebody for him to talk to. Instead of going out and getting "drunk", ask him if he would like to play a game at home (maybe a naughty one ;) ...mabye ask if he would like to go for a walk with you and the kids.

Is there a chance he is depressed because you do not like his kid from another mother? I have saw this before as well. You love your kid, but his other kid takes a back seat and you show that to him -- thus causing him to really not know how he should feel about you. Just a thougth

I lived with my ex for seven months and he would have one or two nights a week that he would go out and play pool. Also I had to keep up with my college courses, so we both had things to do during the day, and a lot of times I would just stay in a different room for space. Would have worked out if we didn't fight so damn much.
maybe you two should just figure out how to spend more time apart without taking a break or breaking up.

Sometimes people do need their space. In a relationship, you need your time alone or keeping up with friends. BUT, a relationship requires time and effort as well. You should have your date time, and a healthy relationship should include intimacy (unless it is physically impossible).
If the man is not sleeping with you, there should be some warning flags. Has he opened up to you WHY he won't? Could it be stress, or something keeping him from performing? You need to be careful, because if he just doesn't feel like being intimate, that could be a sign that the end of the relationship is near.

Have a loving and open conversation with him. Listen to him, and then let him know how you feel. Be patient. Relationships require work... but sometimes you can't fix them.

Best of luck

The only advice I can give you is that every man needs a man cave a room or place in the house that is his and his alone. Could be the basement the garage or a spare room. He needs a place where he can go in his house to just be a man and do whatever it is that men like to do. When he is in his man cave you have to give him space and just leave him be. Now, if it becomes a problem where he is always in his man cave you need to tell him that you gave him what he needed and now he needs to give you some alone time together because that is what you need. Trust me a man cave is great for the women too because sometimes it is just nice to not have to look at him lol :-) Maybe he doesn't want to go out with guys he just needs alone time or space where he can have his buddies over...give it a try!

he is feeling trapped, but staying home and having the kids. Its really nothing to do with you and that is a hard thing to accept but you have to. The best thing to do is suggest/force him to go out with a drinking buddy or do something on his own. That is what he needs, some alone or boy time. GIVE IT TO HIM! Guys go through stages. When he gets some alone/boy time he will be excited to come home to you!