This is continuation from my previous question. Any advices, ideas or your personal thoughts would be appreciated. (FYI, this is a long distance relationship, she lives 1. 5 hours ferry ride from me, but I manage to see her at least once every month, but we love each other, that's for sure)
So, after two days of giving my girlfriend some time to herself, and giving her ample space for her to get a hold of herself, she tells me that it isn't my fault. (My girlfriend doesn't like talking about herself a lot, like other girls. Even sharing her day is something she doesn't like doing, even though I'm his boyfriend) She blamed herself for my misthinking, because it is her fault for not telling more about herself and her day. She kept saying sorry for hurting me, and making me suffer, especially this relationship. She told me she just started to trust her friends that she knew 5 years ago, so it takes her five years to open up, learn about her friends, and trust them. She said the new friends she made in school right now are just friends, and she doesn't fully trust them. She said I'm different, because I'm her boyfriend, but she still doesn't fully trust me. She said it's probably because lack of self-confidence, she's trying to accept me, but she still can't full trust me. Even though she does trust me, but she can't fully trust me? What does that mean? How do you love someone you can't trust? How can she be sleeping with me if she can't trust me? I don't understand. I only go over to her place once every month, and we sleep on the same bed, we love each other, but she can't fully trust me. How can a girl love someone she doesn't trust, and how can she sleep with someone she doesn't fully trust. Am I stupid for not understanding? I know she's not playing around, she takes thing seriously, so I know for sure she's not cheating. She's those type of people who need a lot of time to understand someone, but how does she love, but not trust? Am I the one who feels insecure here, or is it her? What should I do now, I need some help. I'm trying to learn from my mistakes, and make anything that seems impossible to become possible, but now that she told me this. How am I suppose to react? How am I supposed to answer to that, what is going through her mind? I want to call her, and ask, but I don't even know what to say, how do I start a conversation with her when I don't know what's going on? Is love and trust two different thing? If she doesn't trust me, but isn't cheating on me. Is she trying to confuse me? Also, I got to mention, at the end of her email, she said, "you can change your mind if you want? " What is she referring to? The relationship? Is she letting me reconsider. So all my effort and time is in vain? I thought I was starting to understand girls, learn from my mistakes, trying to make everything work out, but now this comes up. I don't know what is right or wrong anymore, any help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance guys and girls.
Shes probably does love you she is just scared if she puts her full trust in you right away you might hurt her somehow and she will regret ever giving you that trust, basically she cares about you a lot she just needs the security of a long term relationship in order to fully trust you
So, what am I suppose to do? I don't even know what to say to him, should I call her or wait for her to call me? Why did she say, "You can change your mind if you want, I'll understand?" Is she asking me if I still want to stay in this relationship or not? How am I suppose to respond to that... would you date someone who doesn't trust you? Should I just act normal as before? Is this relationship still standing? Does she want to break up, or did she already found someone else? - 7 months ago
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Idk it seems impossible or hard but if she's making you feel this confused and troubled maybe you should just break up with her and if you guys really like each other and she likes you then she will miss you and talk to you. Maybe she just isn't sure what she wants and just wants to figure out what she wants before she puts all her emotions and feelings into the relationship with you. I don't know sorry hope this helps? - 7 months ago
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