Is This Pathetic?

OMG! I know how stressing, confusing and complicated our romantic lives are, so I totally understand why you are teeter-tottering back and forth about the whole thing. Sometimes our hearts and minds don't cooperate. What our heads say don't make any sense our hearts pay no attention to.
But, she sounds totally confused and you are right to keep her as just a friend! If you allow her to be more than that at this time, you are asking for a world of hurt and will not be able to keep up maintenance to the rest of your life because of a girl that doesn't know where she stands on this earth and has so much of a low self esteem that she will give her money to a guy if he will be with her. 1st off, never give your money to a guy for a debt that he got himself into,2nd, never do things out of "love" that has an attachment! That is selfish! 3rd, it should be the other way around, when it come s to money! Isn't the guy the provider?!?! In my experience, if you give money like that to a dude, he sees you, not as a helpful, caring person, but as pathetic and someone to walk all over!

She's indeed a very pathetic, immature girl. Why are you wasting your time even pondering this? Like Suave-Man said 'kick her ass to the curb'. Do you really want to be with someone who is that lame and could possibly become equally desperate and needy with you? You shouldn't be giving a rats ass about what happens to her, she dumped you for her ex who doesn't even want her. Just stay away from her, you don't need that kind of drama in your life.

I'm sure you have many great friends in your life and not having her as one of them isn't going to kill you. It'll make you a better person and always keep in mind that the world is FULL of drama-free girls, and one is waiting for you somewhere so keep looking for her, have fun and forget about this silly ex of yours.

This may seem harsh. But sometimes harsh advice needs to be given.

2 words: Dude. RUN!

1) She's trying to manipulate him into dating her 2) She's not dating you, but you're still trying to help her with her huge issues. You're the girlfriend. If she were marrying someone, you'd be the maid of honor. That's how she sees you, though if you asked her, she'd deny it. She's got very little respect for anyone, let alone you; and true friendships don't last long when the people involved can't respect and love each other. She'll suck you in.

These are HER issues, and no longer yours. It's their business. 3) She probably tried manipulating you when you were dating, and I hope you were smart enough to see it. And The best thing for you now is to cut your losses and get the heck out of there.

She's a Judge Judy episode waiting to happen.

I think it's our job as guys to build each other up in the right way. And it may sound harsh, but you really need to cut your losses. You are a man. That means show integrity. Live a life that you can be proud of.

And you know what? My last ex girlfriend, at times, doesn't seem that bad. But I think back, and realize that for the short time we were dating, she was constantly trying to fight with me. She'd try insulting me. She tried making me feel guilty for trying to live a life without her constantly around me.

And 2 days after we broke up, she told another guy she had been madly in love with HIM for a decade. She tried manipulating me, him... everyone. And at times, I'll admit... I'm lonely for those good times. Oh yes, there were good times. The cute little way she blew her hair out of her face. The smile.

BUT... I've got to remember there are many reasons why we're broken up. And YOU have to remember that too. It wasn't healthy.

In spite of what you think, she's not your friend. She uses you as emotional baggage. The girlfriend who she can run to and talk for hours on end about some other guy.

Run. Cut your losses. Show that you don't need her stress.

I've lived a life of garbage thrown at me. I've been stuck with some nasty situations I wouldn't wish on anyone. And while I don't know the details of your life, I've lived in similar circumstances to this one, I can assure you. And all I can do is write these words hoping you'll take the advice from someone older and wiser and use it.

Sometimes in love, like with advice, the best thing that you HAVE to do is let that person go. They've got to make their own decisions. You've heard my advice. Your choice on what you want to do with it.

I wish you the best of luck with your choices. I will leave you with this thought: You are a man. Always remember that.

Yeah but I mean, you've broken up with girls before, haven't you? There's one simple, universal truth. It always feels way worse than it is. If you tried to look at it logically would you think she's the best girl for you? Do you think you couldn't possibly do better than that? Do you think you're really gonna ever be able to respect a girl like THAT who doesn't respect herself? When you give it some time away from her, it ALWAYS puts things in perspective eventually, and you know that you'll look back and be glad you didn't get back involved with her. (Don't see her as pathetic though, just realize she doesn't have any self esteem, that's something she has to work out, you can't do anything to help that, you're emotionally evolved.)

Here's the life's struggle.

Logically: This girl is a crazy lunatic and you should move on and find something more stable.

Emotionally: you have a past and it's always tough to cut someone out that you've had that connection with.

Addicts know they need to stop using but yet, they hang on to their roller coaster life because they fear change. People are have a difficult time getting out of their habits and routines.

You know what you need to do: Don't be her friend, don't let her cry on your shoulder.

Hey man just some constructive criticism for when you type in the future, make sure you use periods because that was really hard to read. Anyways, yeah that is just utterly pathetic it just screams desperation how she is acting which is a total turn for either sex. She probably lost any kind of respect that her ex might have had for her by acting this way and obviously from you as well. It's almost like she is renting him out to be her boyfriend for the next 6 months.

This girl has some serious issues bud. Be her friend if you can deal with her still, other than that let this nut case go on her merry way continuing to degrade herself in the process. There is nothing you can do to help her though right now, so don't even try either.

Wow this makes me think that girls are f***ing stupid! Power to us bros though confused dude. I don't think I've ever seen anything more pathetic. Blackmailing an ex with some damn tax return and some shit from the store. She would have been better off staying with you lol. But you're the tight one here man. You broke that off quick. You said, "you don't know which one? Well then I'm out. " I would say to her, "we're not even on a break anymore, spring break ended a few weeks ago and now, our break has ended too. " To be honest though, some people were just meant to be pathetic, and whatever you say, you can't tell her any different. Her mind has been conditioned this way and she doesn't know how to go for greater things. This is what we call "incompetent". Kick her ass to the curb completely. No, throw her ass in a ditch in the road with a puddle, so she splashes into it, then slam the door shut. You and I will have nothing to do with these girls, just low of the life scum, just shit in a bag. Okay, enough of that, you really need to start looking for a new girl to redeem yourself from your poor choice. Get out there and start staring and flirting!