My Boyfriend is going to be traveling a lot for hockey over the summer, and I got a little taste of it this week when he had to go to Colorado for hockey for a week. I am so used to seeing him every day and being with him almost every night (we basically live together), that I'm having an extremely hard time with him not here- and this time it's only for a week. Over the summer, he'll basically be gone more time than he's here.
Does anyone else deal with a boyfriend or girlfriend that has to travel a lot for work or sports? If so, how do you keep yourself from getting sad or lonely?
Forced long-distance relationships and separations can be tough. If you keep up the communication, and tell him how much you miss him, you should be all right. Just keep thinking how good it will be when he gets back to you!
Not sure if I can tell you exactly how to deal with it. In your case, it doesn't seem to be a constant traveling thing. I have been traveling for extended periods for a while and it can be tough. I am even dating someone who lives far from where I do. I am in St. Louis and she is in LA. We both travel but mine is much more involved. Trust is a huge component when there is any time or distance away involved. I think that you need to probably work on your independent side a bit. Don't get me wrong, I would love to be able to always be there with my sig. Other but unless things change on the job front for either of us, it may or may not happen soon. You have to think about your future and what you want out of life. If we wanted to just get by and be with each other 24/7 then one of us would simply change careers. Since she is just out of college, it would be easier for her in our situation. Until then phone bill just keeps growing. Ask yourself: 1. Is it worth the wait and extra work? 2. If you were single and not looking for a relationship, what would you be doing with yourself? If the answer to #1 is no, move on. If yes and you know the answer to #2, do that. Your life does not have to revolve around or stop just for the other person. In fact, if it does, that may hurt the relationship long term.
Unfortunately you are going to get sad and lonely? But that's probably a good thing, because if you didn't, well that would probably mean you weren't with the right person.
What I have found that helps though is keeping in touch. You don't have to talk everyday (and this is probably a matter or opinion, but I find that doing that can inconspicuously turn into a chore), but you do want to touch base at least few times a week.
You also want to do your own thing. Use this time to hang out with friends more, and also do things that you like doing. Don't just sit at home and look at the spot on the couch where he used to sit. :)
Overall, keep up with your routine, and us this as 'me' and 'friend' time. Also, don't smother each other with constant contact. That way, when you do see each other, it will be that much more intense and enjoyable.
Communication is key. As long as you have some sort of communication plan between one another then your relationship will go along very smoothly. Just calling each other whenever possible, emailing each other, being committed to one another and any time you get to be together - do something very special to show how much you guys care for eachother. Be happy and committed to one another and you'll begin to feel comfortable with the idea of your boyfriend traveling and you'll trust him more.
I don't deal with it myself but me friend has the same problem. She talks to him everyday and I am always there to support her. I try to get her out and about as much as possible. We will go to the movies or the beach or where ever she wants to go. But I just tell her I am there for her and try to get him off her mind. So my advise to you is just to go out and have lots of fun with your girlfriends.
Being in a dual-military relationship, I know EXACTLY where you're coming from! My boyfriend and I go on detachments constantly and it sucks! One thing I do to fall asleep is spray a pillow with his cologne and curl up with it. We also call and text to say we're thinking of each other. Distance is healthy for a relationship I think because it reminds you how much you love the person. It also gives you time to focus solely on yourself. Hang out with friends and pamper yourself so you're feeling like a million bucks when he returns. I love it when we reunite too because I get the same feeling I got when we first started dating. And also, (this depends on your comfort level) I take naughty pics for him so I know that he's thinking of me at ALL times lol it builds up the anticipation and makes the welcome home so much better! Hope this advice helps, just remember that if it's meant to be, love is stronger than distance.
My boyfriend has recently got a job somewheres else here in texas and will be starting on monday, and yea like you I'm so used to him being around all the time. I'd say go out with your freinds or pick up a hobby, just be-careful you don't drift.
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