My 28 year old boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. I am his first serious girlfriend ever. He has dated girls casually and definitely had his share of hookups, but I am the first girl he's considered a REAL girlfriend. He isn't a loser for being single so long, but he has been very preoccupied with his musical career, job as a sound engineer and his "bachelor" ways and never settled down. A lot of our relationship has been me teaching him how to be a good boyfriend and so far, though its been difficult at times, this has been the most rewarding relationship I've been in.
I've noticed though that I am doing a lot of the work when it comes to us hanging out. He only ever initiates us getting together every so often, usually I call or text him to see if he wants to do something. If he isn't working, the answer is 99% yes. He is up to do anything. Hang together, rent movies, go out, rub my back, hang with his friends/or mine, go to dinner. You name it. I want him to initiate more in our relationship though. How do I bring this up in a conversation without putting pressure on him?
What do you want, this guy to ask you to marry him, do you want him to leave you a key to his place, maybe move in, does he say I love you, is that what your looking for?
He does not say he loves me, that would be nice though, if that is how he felt! Actually I am thinking much much smaller, I just want him to put more time in. Does that make sense? Sure after 8 months you might think I'd expect more but we are creeping along at a slow and steady pace. Nowhere near marriage or moving in, that's his preference and mine. - 7 months ago
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