So this girl and I went out for about 2 months, and everything was awesome. Then when I said I was kinda busy and regretted not being able to see her more often, she said that we should just be friends for a while and get to know each other better, so there wouldn't be so much pressure. So I waited for about 3 months and then asked her to a banquet. She was really excited, but when we were making final preparations, she said she couldn't go because she didn't want to lead me on. What the heck? We used to hang out all the time and write absurdly long emails to each other each night- now she says she doesn't want to lead me on, and emails me only about once a week. I thought it might be because she thought I was becoming obsessive so I didn't email her as often either, but I think that's just made things worse. Now just a couple weeks ago I heard from a mutual classmate that she doesn't want to go out because I'm "too young. " (I'm about 6 months younger than her, but that said I'm also several inches taller than her, etc, and people say I act mature for my age- most new people I meet mistake me for being 19-20, but like my profile says I'm under 18. ) We're still on pretty good terms, I think we've just drifted apart a little (if you don't think that's what happened, tell me what you think really happened). I really like her- what can I do to get her back?
Hmm, well for one thing, you certainly to talk mature for your age. But to be honest, if you guys "went out" for 2 months already before this happened, then this isn't just the classic case of mr. Nice-guy only being able to make friends with girls. And it seems like she really isn't attracted to you. Especially the 6-month thing, that is obviously just an excuse, and I know this hurts but your best option right now is probably to try your best to get over her. Trying to pursue her anymore would only hurt you at this point.
You're probably right, but I don't want to totally give up just yet. She still likes to hang out and I'm hoping I can change her view of me with time. Any suggestions? But yeah, I'm not making any bets, and thanks for the answer. - 7 months ago
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Patience is a virtue. Be patient and wait, in the meantime, keep your options open, and if you meet any other girls that you feel attraction to, give it a shot. And if you really do like her, just let her know that you'll be there if she ever need you. Support her, that's probably one of the best things a guy can do for a girl, and in time, she'll come to appreciate you. And yeah, definitely stay in touch with her - 7 months ago
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Sounds good. I think I'll always have her as a friend anyway, so support/keeping in touch shouldn't be a problem... And to be honest I have been contemplating asking another girl out. I just didn't really have any idea of what to do, but now I've got some direction. So thanks, you've been a lot of help! - 7 months ago
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