My boyfriend started doing the same thing to me. I don't know what it is. Maybe he started liking someone else, and just started doubting the relationship, but we've also been doing long distance for 2 years. He finally broke up with me a day before my birthday and the two days before he was supposed to fly in. Only after 15 days of having little arguments he was done. I really thought he was going to be the guy I was going to marry and have kids with someday. I just don't know what to do. He deleted his Facebook, removed tags from pictures, and won't answer me or talk to me. He called me his best friend. He told me he would move for me when I got out of school and I'm done in 2 months. But all he wants to do is stay in the coast guard. I tried everything to make this work. Even though I would rather not move to Texas, I suggested that too. He didn't want to do any of it. I'm just scared that I am loosing the best thing that has ever happened to me. I don't know what to do. I've just come to every solution, and my greatest fear is that I'll never get to see his face again. I'd really do anything, because I really do love him, and I've ran out of ideas. I feel like all I can do is wait, and be miserable.
Update: He still hasn't contacted me at all since. Am I just stupid? Am I the only one who still wakes up thinking about the other one in the morning? I guess I'll just have to run a million miles to forget him? I want out of this flight or fight response/str
15 days ago
Update: It's been almost a month now, I'm still crying over him, and I wanna get better. I always thought if we did break up it wasn't going to be this hard, and it's way worse then I thought it was going to be.
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Don't be so cruel to yourself. To me, it sounds like he has a problem and not enough respect to tell you waht it is. I think maybe, he hasn't grown up enough yet. Give it some time, it will hurt. But I am positive the right one is out there for you. Stay strong. Keep yourself distracted. And keep reminding yourself when the thought returns, you are worth it.
Please don't wait and be miserable. Just give it some time and I promise you will feel better. It's hard. I know. long distance relationships are never good anyway. Did you get tired of not seeing him? I think it's just spiteful for him to delete hisi FB and tags..he defintely did that to make you upset. Don't call him. Wait for him to call you. And if he doesn't, you will find someone who will call you! you don't need him and his imaturity. I think if you sit down and weigh the pros and cons that will help too! It just takes a little time to get used to not being with that person. And it's okay to hurt for a little while. But don't give him the satisfaction that you are gonna wait for him. Be a challenge. And show him you don't need him.
Thanks. It's just been really hard. I feel like I am constantly in a flight or fight response. Last night I ran five miles in a row, non stop. I've never done that before. I feel like only exercising helps. It just doesn't leave me stressed and thinking about the life I could of had with him. He told me he didn't have the energy to do this anymore. I know long distance relationships are tough. I just can't stop thinking about him and I usually do it unconsciously in the AM and PM. - 15 days ago
I'm so sorry to hear your pain. He sounds like a jerk waiting until the last minute to do this. Right before your birthday and before he is supposed to visit. Jerk... If he does come back around he will need time. Just work on fixing yourself right now, because really that is all you can do. Go get a pedicure, workout, surround yourself with friends. He can't be that great if he won't even give you the closure you need.
Just a few simple words of advice: He isn't in love with you anymore. You deserve to be with someone who loves you just as much as you love him. It may take some time, but better things will happen to you. Breathe and be comfortable with yourself.
Thank you for your advice, and everything. You were right, he doesn't love me, and although I thought those words were harsh. It is true. I've just got to face the facts. I go to school in Arizona at the moment, and I spent one miserable night by myself on Friday and the next day I flew home to be with my family in Illinois. I spent mega bucks on the ticket, but it was way worth the money. Today I've been boxing up pictures and any stuff he ever gave me. - 19 days ago
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I've just got to come to terms and try to make myself believe that I will never see him again. And maybe I'll sign up for personal gym training time too, and paint more. I'll paint anything. I really need to start that up again. Anyways I'm taking 19 hours of class credit, so hopefully I'll still be able to focus on that. If I could erase him from my memory or brainwash myself into thinking he never existed that would be cool too. I think I'm all ready for that. - 19 days ago
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I'm glad you have this attitude. Stay strong. :) You are awesome, he was a waste of time. Someone special will surely appreciate you soon enough. ;) - 18 days ago
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Our relationship did have its pros and cons, but more pros now that I look at it. I've read previous journals were I wasn't as happy as I could have been. I just wish this relationship could have worked out and we could have at least tried being geographically close but he just wouldn't commit to it or even try it for a month. He was done and lost feelings for me. Do you think there is someone else or does he just not like me as a person anymore? - 15 days ago
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I mean, technically I got rejected. He dumped me. If this was the other way around, would I be in the same boat? Would I not feel bad. Am I in the fight or flight response because I got dumped? Is he feeling the same way? Does he think about me in the mornings. We were together 2 years. I know he lost feelings for me. But I mean do you really not love someone or stop caring about a person you were talking about buying/shopping an engagement ring for in July? I don't get it. - 15 days ago
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