All the signs are there that he is cheating, I just don't have proof. how can I prove it?

That's a hard situation you're in but a woman ALWAYS knows weather she wants to believe it or not. Its harder to leave someone especially when you been with them for a long time like you have but you have to do it for yourself, you deserve to be treated with respect and love. I wish you well, do what feels right.

Cheating would just be the icing on the cake. Does it matter if there's no relationship? You seem insecure, needing to know if he's having sex with someone else, but why does it matter? The relationship is gone, so that alone is a reason to end it.

You've been dating him for 7.5 years and he hasn't asked you to marry him? Doesn't that tell you something? What is he waiting for; what else does he need to know about you? You're insecure and he's non-committal and wants to keep his options open because he's a scared little boy. It's over.

Maybe he doesn't feel appreciated. every person has a reason. if this is unusual activity he didn't do before you both got together then I would say something is missing. if he did do this before then I guess you could just call him a social butterfly but there should be no secrets in a relationship. and I agree with TexPlayboy. Cheating is a sympton of a troubled relationship. If he is doing this and he didn't do it before then something has changed. in the 80 20 complex when somebody isn't getting the 100 percent from the relationship so they go to an outside source for the extra percent. If you've been with him for so long I would just ask him. Don't listen to these people. this must a great relationship and you must really love him or you wouldn't have spent 7 and a half years with him. do you really want to throw that away? talk it out. work it out. you both will be so much happier if you talk it out. I'm sorry about all this, it must be a difficult situation.

Good luck! I hope this help!

Cheating is a symptom, not really the problem. The problem is that he is not a part of your life. He has moved on, but not moved out. If you are ready to make him move out, force the issue.

Being alone, or ignored is enough to cause you to consider doing something different, even if he isn't cheating. If you have children together, it might be worth trying couples counseling, but if not, you are lucky that you can simply move on and find someone who will treat you like you expect to be treated.

Good Luck,
James

ok, well I appreciate the people saying to just up and leave, in my opinion, if you are with the guy for 7.5 years, you should at least be able to confront him about what the hell he's doing.. nothing is ever resolved by fear of confrontation and rash decisions, especially in a situation where uncertainty rules the playing field..

ask the guy straight out, at least have the facts before you make a decision because living with doubt about a lover sucks, but not as much as leaving that someone and never really knowing whether or not you were in the right..

i mean, you've already got yourself worked up to the point that you're convinced he is cheating, so what can it hurt to just balls out ask him and see his reaction.. don't just go based on "signs"...

I agree with madmisskelly and grandmasGirl.. any sign of suspicion is sign enough.. If you don't have the courage to confront him, then the suspicions you have are enough to leave him.. Of course we are all strangers telling you this right.. and we are not all here just to break up relationships we know nothing about.. but based on what you said, the best option seems to be to leave him before you actually catch him in the physical act of cheating.. which is infinitely worse.

Why do you need proof for?
1) If he is cheating, that isn't a happy relationship
2) If he isn't cheating, you are only stressing yourself out and the relationship isn't healthy.

Move on =)

you don't need proof if you have intuition. just leave him alone and find someone better

To be sneaky about it and avoid lies you could always request a copy of his phone records >.<

Well tell this asshole. that he better give you his MySpace password and let you listen to his voicemails, and see read those text msgs. OR ITS DONE! am not telling you to end it without making sure if his cheating or not. because you guys been togther for 7.5 years that BIG!

:/ good luck.

Well, if you feel you can't trust him, then you obviously don't. Whether or not he is cheating, you have to think whether or not you can live the rest of your life with this guy the way things are right now. It's never good to stay in a relationship for the way things MIGHT be later on or the way things are when they are really good. You cannot expect him to change, and if you can't accept that, it's time to start thinking about making a break from him.

Put 2 and 2 together. You don't have to catch him in mid-thrust to know that he is cheating. All the signs are there so just consider that as your proof. You may have been together almost 8 years but you still should move on.

You intuition is on to him... Maybe you don't have to prove it. You already know. Don't waste any more of your life if you don't have to... I've been there/done that... Thought I had to prove he was cheating. every time I found proof, he just lied till I caught him making out with someone in my kitchen. You already have proof honestly.

You don't need the proof. If you don't trust him (for any reason) you're in trouble. Just end it if you don't trust him.

you don't need proof to breakup with this asshole. leave him,

You don't trust him (period)

If you ask him to stop all of this texting and voice mails and he doesn't' stop, tell him that you don't trust him and that you cannot stay with someone you don't trust. It is not fair to you or to him.

I can tell you love him madly, but get a friend to help if you can. Stay somewhere else and get away from the situation for a few days to get up the courage. It will be hard --- but if he doesn't change his actions then you MUST do it. You deserve to be in a honest and trusting relationship and they are out there... if he can't be that person, then LEAVE.

Well since there is no proof that he is cheating I would do everything in my power to make him have all eyes on me. Like back when you were starting to date. Attract him in every way you can. Make him lust after you. Be a little provocative when he gets home. Lure him in like no other woman could. Since you've been dating him for so long, Id say you have a better chance at winning then the other girl. Good luck! :)