i had a close female friend. she would say I'm her close friend, and she would understand me at all cost. I've only known her for about a year. and sadly I couldn't spend much time outside with her (we always stick together in school).
i like her a lot as a friend. I don't know if I liked her as a girl, but I felt comfortable and happy with her.
im very dedicated--at least that's how I think. she would ask me favors, and I would almost always do it for her. I would listen to her problems, whining and worries, giving advices.
sometimes she would act bitchy, more like rude, while I was giving advices. I understood that, because I know she's a senior with a lot of stress. never exploded on her.
in other words, I think I've been there for her when she needed--even if it wasn't much help. Yet, she isn't. when I'm having problems, or want to discuss something, she would say 'i have too much stresses please don't give me another one'. so I didn't talk about heavy stuff.
plus, she said something bothered her because of me. I would ask her why, but she would give excuses like 'stress' and avoid answering.
today, she came by my house to pick up something. I asked her if she would want to talk while having lunch. she said 'nonono I 've got tons of stuff to do don't tempt me'. fine, I took that. but when she asked me to do 'hey bring this and that too and wait for me across the street. I will pick them up. come out quick I'm on a taxi', I felt like tearing her apart..
not because I didn't have lunch with her but the way she would talk to me! as if it was an order I would have to do.
so I literally threw the items in the taxi when she came by ,ignoring whatever she was saying to me.
was I wrong? was I being impatient? its hurting me a lot help me ppl..
+she wasn't like this in the beginning..she would at least show me that she cares about me...up to recent days. we would go to movies too..but these days no.
Update: and we laughed a lot together..
21 days ago
wow the fact that you had to ask the question! no ur not an asshole. she has issues that she needs to deal with and yeah ur not a flippin doormat or her slave so ur not wrong if anything she had is coming. maybe after things cool down sit down and talk to her about how she has been acting
It will be hard for her to realize you aren't her doormat. But it sounds like that's all you were to her, so move on. Find better friends. Or tell her how you feel about the way she treats you. See what she says. Sometimes I don't treat my friends right, and I will admit I was wrong. If she does this, then she does care and has just been busy. If she just gets offended or defensive, she was using you.
No, you wasn't at all. In fact, you should've been that way all along. Why would you be with a girl that has you on her waiting list, when she needs something..Oh she knows you, later, she doesn't and acts rude so you'd p*ss off! Don't care about her anymore act normal and casual say hi when you see her and when asks for something please say you're busy. :-)
you weren't wrong. you have to tell her what you're telling us here though. if she wants your help, she should except it, (whether she listens to it or not) and she needs to be there for you too.
You need to tell her that you're not her servant or doormat, and if she won't accept or understand that, then tell her off. People can only make you feel inferior if you *let* them - assert yourself and stand up for what's right in your life.
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