Most of the little 18-20 year old college guys are primarily there to imitate societies idea of wild party, hedonistic sex and drunken BS. "it's college time to let loose."
Then there's the guys who are those nice / sweet and unfortunately boring / wishy washy guys who are there solely to find their sole mate to write poems to. "if only someone would get to know me respect who I am so I can share my love with her."
There's a balance of these two worlds somewhere. All I know is that most of these guys are idiots until end of 21. So look for those older guys who have sorted these things out.
Yea that's pretty accurate.. most of them are idiots but some of the balanced ones do mature before 21.. and drinking isn't a big deal to all of us.. But when you do find that balanced guy in college, most likely he's not gonna want to date.. he might find a mate but he's gonna be very hesitant to commit until he thinks he is financially independent. - 17 days ago
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Very seldomly do we find these guys who are socially adjusted. All I know is that most of the guys I was and am are exposed to fall into one of these two categories more or less.
Which is fine, mistakes and experience is to be made at this age... I was 20 and thought I was the sh1t. I was loud, rude and captain "i want to be the center of attention." I also thought I was deep, caring and ready for a real relationship.
Defiantly wrong. sorry to all the women that had to interact with me. - 17 days ago
Well, though I'm not really looking for a relationship... when I do look for them I seek serious, meaningful, romantic, and HOPEFULLY long term relationships based primarily on chemistry, her personality, and believing she is a good person. so long as she's cute. And I am in college, so I hope this answers your question.
Thanks, yeah that basically is what I was asking - 13 days ago
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You're very welcome, and assuming you're looking for a serious relationship with a guy that is more than just some immature BOY that's only after sex, I sincerely wish you the best of luck. I know from experience it can be difficult to find people around this age group that want something serious and meaningful. - 13 days ago
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Also to help reinforce my answer; (because I believe you were implying younger college guys and not the "I'm working on my PHD at a University or I've decided to go back to college at age 30" kind of guys (no offense intended to those of you that are, I'm just guessing that with her age she means guys around her age); I am twenty years old. - 13 days ago
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Thank you so much! haha and yes I was talking about guys in their first few years of college. And I'm not completely sure if I want a serious relationship, but I just want to make sure that I'm not being used if that makes sense. - 12 days ago
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It, does, but some guys are pretty good at playing people.. so keep on your toes, some guys see it as a conquest to trick and get the more conservative "good girls" - 12 days ago
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Yeah I know that very well... That's why I also want to know if there's a way to tell the difference from a guy who wants a relationship and a guy who wants to use me for sex - 12 days ago
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By testing how respectful they are that you don't want to have it just yet, and if they don't try to bring it up or anything after a certain amount of time, chances are they actually respect you and don't see you as a sex object. The horny little boys that think with their down stairs head, typically don' have the patience or the will to out last a guy who's more interested in you as a person rather than a sex object, especially when he can more easily get it from an "easy" sleazey girl. - 12 days ago
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Yeah that makes a lot of sense - 11 days ago
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Just wish I could've been of more help than the best answer person, but anyways, best of luck to you. - 11 days ago
I am 20, and have felt the same way for a long time. I am not looking for sex at all-in fact, I think sex is just something that happens when you really love someone (or for me, that is what it is). I really want a relationship, because I like having someone care about me, and I like caring about them. There's a quote from some lady (sorry, I'm too lazy to look up her name), but it says that love is the realization that something other than yourself exists. I didn't understand that until I fell in love. We often see everything in the world as an object, and we see things for what they mean to us. When I was in love, I knew that sitting next to me was another living, breathing, thinking being, who wanted to be next to me. That probably doesn't make much sense, but it is amazing.
I definitely do not just want sex, and I actually would say no to sex if I wasn't already in a relationship with her, and felt very close to her.
This is tricky, most guys are pigs and are only after sex. Those guys make it difficult on guys like me to get a girl to take them seriously and difficult on girls like you to trust them. So no not all of them but most of them do. It is really hard to tell the difference.
It might sound ironic but its true what weaponzero says.. its only when the guys lose track of their priorities that they go looking for trouble.. and if they wise up, they either drop out in search of something or finish what they started. - 17 days ago
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