Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Yea you guys are a little to old to be playing games. She sounds as if she is not quite sure about want she wants. Remember, girls are crazy. You also sound like a really nice guy and I'm sure she realizes that's. Its seems like she wants to grow on you but she is gonna give you a really hard time. I don't understand it, but guys are attracted to us more when we act like that even though it pisses them off. If you want to wait, she probably will come around. But if not you should leave now. Because even if she does come around she is going to give you a really hard time making it hard to please her.

A nice guy like you should take too much of that.

Well, it sounds like she may just be used to guys acting like that and that 's what she's comfortable with. At 21 that may be too old to play games, but then again, she may just be confused. The real question you have to ask yourself is can you imagine having to act like that in a serious relationship. If you're already not getting along, it doesn't seem as if things will work for long. One of the main things that has to be present in a relationship is honesty and trust. And if you're havin' to act like someone else, it may not be in your best interest to stay.

Ask yourself what are you getting from this relationship because it doesn't sound like much from what you've written. You've said it yourself she's not nice and if the only reason your staying is because you don't want to be alone then get the hell out now because it's not worth the grief. You're wasting time playing games that you could be using finding someone who would appreciate you.

I would say if you really think you love her then let it play out a little longer. MY girlfriend is the EXACT same way. She treated me like crap and didn't care how I felt about anything and when I would confront her she would get unbelievably mad and just like put up walls so it was pointless to even try to talk to her. When she would get in these "modes" she would always say things like "If I'm doing this wrong then just break up with me. I'm sure you could find someone else" and I would just simply say things like I don't love anyone else or I don't want anyone else I want you. After about a couple of months of this she began to rezlize that I wasn't going to leave and I wasn't going to be bitter about how she treats me and she is now trying to change herself because she realized that I'm not in it for fun or just to be with someone but rather the love is genuine. We've now been together for 17 months on the 26th and things are a lot better. She just has to realize what she's doing to you and how it makes you feel.

What ever way it goes just be careful. Don't get yourself hurt.

She doesn't even seem like an attractive person, based on how you're describing her. Superficial and self centered? Only way I'd put up with that is if she was SUPER, and I mean SUPER hot and wanted to have sex with me and only me 24 hours a day. Other than that, sounds like she's a straight bitch and you need to drop her asap.

I think you already know the answer to this question. She doesn't love you back- therefore, you just need to "go. " She probably doesn't want to break up because you're the only one that has put up with her so far, but she needs to realize that nobody should have to put up with BS. The best thing you can do right now is just leave her. Don't try to be mean, just say, hey, this isn't working out. She will either be bitter or she will learn from it. Don't get attached to her, it will just make everything worse.